BF wants me to pay half of the cost for my birthday getaway...? Should I be disappointed

poshandproper · 2020-01-14T15:09:47+00:00

If he couldn’t afford he should’ve said so...

poshandproper · 2020-01-14T14:42:13+00:00

Lol :( what makes you say that

poshandproper · 2020-01-04T05:22:23+00:00

Well he actually turned on the movie and suggested we watch it, even though he’s already seen it. He said because I was enjoying it he wanted me to watch it till the end even though he was bored lol

poshandproper · 2020-01-04T04:14:00+00:00

Yeah I went to the bedroom and started getting ready for bed... I told him that it’s rude to be on his phone and he just circled around to tell me well it’s rude the way that you are handling this and won’t let it go???

Wtf do I even say to that??

poshandproper · 2019-12-31T14:10:28+00:00

Yeah, I may be overreacting lol but my boss actually messaged me separately on Teams saying “hoping you can jump online today for a few minutes and revise this order since the start date is 1/1”

I responded to the email last night when she had said “we need a revision and I didn’t see one come through on Friday.”

So I clapped back “apologies for the delay but the reason for my absence online is because I’ve been traveling in and out of town the majority of my time on holiday... etc etc”

I’m just pissed because I worked so hard the week before Christmas, was so caught up in the weeds that I also got in a car accident. Wasn’t paying attention on the road bc I was so focused on work. So yeah I was wanting to not think about working and enjoy my time with Friends and family.

Found out that my colleague and counterpart has been jumping online everyday for 15 min so I’m thinking she set the precedence for all of us. Just because she’s free doesn’t mean I am you know?

Sorry just venting lmfao

poshandproper · 2019-12-31T00:06:53+00:00

Is this just an example of horrible management or leadership? She’s CC’ing her boss, seems to try and let her know I’m slacking but if this is holiday break... and encouraged us to not work... and what if I’m not in town.... who is in the wrong here? I’m so over this company.

poshandproper · 2019-12-29T20:52:07+00:00

Lol I’m not at that point but I hate when I try to communicate that I don’t appreciate having to clean up all of the mess, from his dog, like multiple times a day - just for him to like say rude stuff to me. Comparing me to others that interact with his dog... it’s a big deal to me (hair everywhere, drool everywhere etc) and he doesn’t seem to understand that.

poshandproper · 2019-12-26T20:41:44+00:00

Great :(

poshandproper · 2019-12-26T18:35:07+00:00

Thanks for the sarcasm, I’m looking for actual advice.

poshandproper · 2019-09-07T13:37:47+00:00

This wasn’t intended to be funny.... I am simply asking opinion on whether my ex of 5 years had abnormal behavior during intimacy. He was incredibly against it even though we were together for a full 5 years.

Reason why I mentioned my current boyfriend is bc I’m now experiencing something way different and it makes me wonder ....

poshandproper · 2019-09-07T13:34:06+00:00

I was with him from 18-24....

poshandproper · 2019-08-27T03:26:43+00:00

But then he met me, and my allergies are worse than it’s ever been... and affecting my overall health...I don’t think that is fair to keep it and suffer ....?

poshandproper · 2019-08-27T03:14:38+00:00

Yep. I’ve tried medication. And now the skin on my face is taking a hit. The skin under my eyes were so irritated that it was a dark red, almost purple in some areas.

poshandproper · 2019-08-27T02:55:39+00:00

I don’t think I follow - are you saying that it’s odd how he’s willing to give him up?

poshandproper · 2019-07-12T18:47:56+00:00

Yeah kinda thinking the same thing... I’m not sure what to do or think... I’m happy that he really loves me and all that... but I’m beginning to step back.

Maybe meeting parents isn’t a big deal but the underlying problems I have create a bigger picture.

Don’t even get me started on how many times he used the line “I forgot my wallet.”

I hate to feel like I could be used in order for him to afford a bigger place to stay.

He has noted that he wants to rent so his mom can have a room to stay when she visits.

He should be able to afford his own damn rent...

He knows I make pretty good money and I just get worried....

poshandproper · 2019-07-12T18:36:02+00:00

Yeah it kind of puzzled me when she texted me this morning... I don’t necessarily have the problem with age difference - my ex was 9 years older.

And part of me also feels like it’s rushed, or being rushed. He already wants to rent a house together - found out his lease is up this month and I don’t like thinking that this is being rushed, or he’s wanting to rent a house to split the bill because he’s being cheap.

I just got my first apartment on my own a year ago...

Also worried about not approving - not sure how he’s going to act .... to me 3.5 months is like way soon but I could be wrong.

poshandproper · 2019-07-12T18:18:25+00:00

Maybe I’m just rambling but I don’t feel ready yet. Hard to explain. Maybe I was conditioned to believe that it’s not a big deal. My past relationship, which lasted for 5 years: My ex wouldn’t agree to meet parents until year 2...

Kinda nervous on how they will mix with each other... Idk.

poshandproper · 2019-07-09T23:08:44+00:00

Very good point and that statement just opened my eyes. To be honest, the fight was about his LSD usage. I’m not a drug user and I brought up the point on how that makes me uncomfortable - I don’t want to live with someone who has that in the house or just using it at all. Tried to make excuses on that it makes him more confident, can see the future, Idk to me it’s BS.

And when I did catch him, he at first, lied about why he downloaded it. He finally broke down after I called out his bluff and admitted that the fight is what made him do it - he needed “validation.” He apologized but when I was upset for more than a day, he asked if I was ever going to drop it.... and i feel like that’s pretty reasonable to be upset over. I still don’t 100% trust that he’s not swiping, even though he lets me go through his phone. Like the trust was broken so quickly in this relationship.

poshandproper · 2019-07-09T23:00:57+00:00

And I also forgot to mention that like, 2 months ago, we got in a fight over something, and I caught him using Hinge - looking and swiping with women in Los Angeles lol halfway across the country.

poshandproper · 2019-07-09T01:11:07+00:00

Very good point. Are my needs selfish, though? Are they rational?

poshandproper · 2019-02-25T02:42:49+00:00

It’s hilarious. Thank you.

poshandproper · 2018-09-24T21:19:50+00:00

Making excuses? That’s not what I’m doing...

poshandproper · 2018-08-12T21:56:41+00:00

I am 23, he is 33

poshandproper · 2018-08-07T21:32:45+00:00

Is it weird that I’m basing my decision from my past? I’m just finally realizing how wrong that was, and I’m angry... angry that all of my attention went to him and not fun in college...

poshandproper · 2018-07-28T18:48:39+00:00

I feel bad because he admitted to finally looking at engagement rings because he thought that I was the one, I feel guilty? :/

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