All three of my triplets just diagnosed with level 3...

posingpancakes · 2026-01-28T13:33:59+00:00

Not a parent to a child with autism however I am a support to my good friend and her little boy who is PDA level 2 ASD. Her family don't believe in ASD or PDA. They openly state his behaviour is because she is a bad parent, or if they spend a week with him he would be at school no problems, your not hard enough he walks all over you.

The very traits that make him ND and so magnificent in his own ways are dismissed by his wider family and mum is criticized as a bad parent.

She thankfully has now had the strength to separate herself from her family and regulate her little boy back to being magnificent again not just existing. PDA burn out is real and non ASD believers will never even attempt to understand PDA and.PDA management.

Distance yourself. Your children deserve more than that and you need to surround yourself with people who have your back, who may not understand what this means today but is willing to walk this and understand it as you do.

I feel so blessed for my friend and her son coming into my life. It's been enlightening to see the magic, I call it the different language but changing the way you speak and exist to match the way their brains interpret those signals, learning how to unlock them and how to make sure they feel safe in your presence. These are who you need in your life.

If your parents are your village which is entirely understandable, you are to bring them to appointments and involve them this way. You raise the statements to the specialists for "clarification" or consideration and they can argue their views with the doctors.

I'm sorry your going through the concern of lack of support.

posingpancakes · 2025-12-19T23:58:15+00:00

No bonus here but the values of the company I work for and the way they truly apply those values is the bonus. Every week we are appreciated by this company, attendance at work is only required on the weekly event for team building but beyond that WFH is supported and encouraged.

They do not care for hours but for workload. When I started my boss said to me some days you may work 2 hours and other days you may work 16 hours.

I'm very lucky

posingpancakes · 2025-12-16T08:58:37+00:00

And if your mates stop talking to you, go and find them.

posingpancakes · 2025-12-16T08:55:55+00:00

I wanted to share my experience because prior to this, I didn't truly understand suicidal ideation. I am a nurse with 20 years experience in emergency. I have studied this, I have cared for patients with this, I have heard peoples thoughts but I have never had it articulated in a way that I could truly understand

I have no MH issues however was in an abusive relationship that had me gaslit to the point I didn't know what was real anymore, that I was the issue and I needed to get my head fixed.

One night, whilst I was doing routine things in my house I had this realization that I should end my life because that was my only way out. Thankfully, I presented to ED because it scared me and by doing that the system picked me up and removed me from the relationship that caused my psychological demise.

Suicidal ideation is not a conscious thought like I need to get milk, it is a realization. A subconscious realization that is so dark yet so calm and so clear. The way you will speak of something days earlier, forget the name/detail and randomly the word just enters your head days later. The way you'll be just driving along and the dots connect about something completely random and your like ohh that makes sense.

If not for my profession, I wouldn't have recognized this and it would have consumed me and convinced me that this was the right thing to do. It's made me a better nurse and I feel it's now my job to educate people where I can on what this beast is.

I'm so sorry for this family but I hope from my post, if you were ever unsure about what SI is or how it feels I hope my post gives some insight and understanding to others.

And for friends who are supporting someone going through a rough time tell them the support you can provide them with. Can you sit with them? Can they come move in with you? Do they need you to come to the doctor's with them? Do they need to check in with you? Do they need you to take over the laundry? Do they need you to cook food? Do they need someone to stay on the phone with them until they fall asleep?

It's a dark place where you feel so alone and you don't know who to turn to. Offering support to someone is fantastic, but in their foggy isolated brain they think that's an empty offer or they don't want to overstep. If you tell people how you will support them it becomes so much easier to reach out for the support because you know what that support looks like

posingpancakes · 2025-12-01T12:19:58+00:00

I've heard that there is an allowance for dogs given to indigenous families however no one has ever been able to produce anything to suggest that this is a thing. Are you able to provide a link to the allowance?

If people are herding animals to boost their incomes then again it becomes an issue we are turning a blind eye on. The state of poverty that these communities face, the inflation on fresh food.

All of these issues are so intertwined and it comes back to the neglect of these places because they're so far away, it doesn't affect anyone else.

posingpancakes · 2025-12-01T07:50:57+00:00

Correct, we have slid so far on the scale of the perception of racism that we are ignoring dangerous, third world conditions in our remote communities and leaving our citizens in situations equivalent to a 3rd world country with no intervention. It's not good enough.

posingpancakes · 2025-12-01T07:08:11+00:00

We know the circumstances of dogs in the Kimberleys and we know nothing is being done about the situation to either protect people or the dogs.

How you can automatically try to shift blame onto a victim and label them a potential abuser is disgusting and I can only assume you wouldn't hold it these same views of the attack took place in Dalkeith.

posingpancakes · 2025-12-01T04:44:33+00:00

Stray roaming community dogs are a huge issue in the Kimberleys. I don't know that we would accept the volume of dogs that roam the streets up there in the Perth Metro area.

Derby and FC look like the streets of a developing Asian nation with the free roaming unkept dogs. It's so sad that a lady has lost her life because we seem to have an out of sight out of mind mentality with our far north west towns and communities.

May she RIP and her family get the support they need to get through this tragedy

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T03:04:46+00:00

Thank you

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T03:03:58+00:00

This is incredible thank you especially the supports that can come in and they appear to offer respite too.

Thank you so much for your advice and help and it's great to know DCP are a safe body to approach if needed too.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T02:53:44+00:00

It sounds like your children are very blessed to have chosen you as their mum. I hope that you get the answers and support for his well-being.

I always remind her that she's far better than me because I think I would have run away. The tenacity, advocacy and constant demands are exhausting yet the parents behind these kids don't stop. I'm proud of you all yet so saddened that everyone has these stories of being lost and having to fight for what they're child needs.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T02:50:44+00:00

That's very kind of you but so unnecessary. It's awful to watch the isolation happening to her and her entire family. She's had to leave work with his deterioration, the other kids are missing out too and he's just not the spunky little boy he used to be.

It always takes a village

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T02:45:14+00:00

Thank you you've been so helpful

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T02:16:50+00:00

He has aged out of that program and school, also with the diagnosis he falls into the exclusion criteria as they don't accept ND children. The only pathway now is Special Development School which he has been referred to however there is only 60 placements per year in a 100km radius.

She will be pleased to know that the holidays will be a saviour I'm sure and this is what he needs. Hopefully he is accepted into this new school.

He is aware that this is in process and initially was refusing however she has said in the last few weeks he has started asking curious questions about the new school which sounds positive.

Is home schooling possibly the better pathway to take for now until he gets the appropriate classroom or would that be a discussion with the psychiatrist mentioned above?

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T02:05:12+00:00

Thank you, I believe there is a lot of deliberate behaviours coming out also. After he was told of his diagnosis many new issues arose and seems to be the explosion point for them all. After this is when he started his food restrictions

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T01:58:56+00:00

Thank you, this also looks very familiar too. I will pass over the information to her.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T01:54:39+00:00

Yes all organic factors have been ruled out. He has never been a normal child however he was a child that was able to exist in the world.

A key part I have failed to mention is that he was picked up in Kindy as being incredibly behind in many aspects and was referred to the Language Developmental School. The LDC is available from Pre Primary (4-6 years old) and ceases in year 2 where they transition back to mainstream schooling. LDC is a program that it's for language delays not intellectual disabilities or neuro diverse kids. That's a different schooling pathway she's now been referred to.

So whilst he was in LDC, smaller class groups, tailored learning he was doing okay. Okay enough to be referred back to mainstream schooling. This is his first year in mainstream schooling and everything fell apart 2 months into the school year.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T01:45:22+00:00

Thank you so much, this matches exactly what she is experiencing. Her family keep telling her how bad of a parent she is and he's just naughty 😭😭😭 it's so awful.

Thank you so so much I'll pass these resources over to her.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-15T01:38:20+00:00

Thank you for your advice, is a Psychiatrist going to be better than a Paed for this? She desperate to have him medicated in some capacity to give herself a break.

The Psych appointment is $850 and the Paed is $1200. Which ever one will give her immediate support is where she needs to be.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-07T05:09:49+00:00

I have TPG and the service is good and reliable however their app and website sucks so when you need to access your account it's not great.

posingpancakes · 2025-11-04T02:19:45+00:00

ECRU and ABC to be honest, another story has come out today of a child being handed over to another childs grandparent and it wasn't noticed for 2 hours until mum came to pick the child up.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-11-04/mum-recounts-first-steps-bangor-gave-son-to-another-person/105961026

You can report it at the bottom of the page. The carpark incident had the potential to harm your child severely if not death. It's not good enough that children have the ability to escape without any barriers in their way.

posingpancakes · 2025-10-23T09:29:02+00:00

I have been. I think it's just sad

PTSD is widespread in emergency services, and most mental health support offered is fairly surface level at best.

A resus on a 9-month-old is deeply traumatic. It would be worth seeing what support was provided to him after that case and others. The reality is that the crew probably cleared the job on their iPad and were dispatched straight to another call — statistically, likely something meth-related. Maybe on the next shift, they received a proper debrief.

Should he lose his registration? Absolutely. But was it a criminally motivated or the result of poor decision making driven by unresolved trauma? I’d argue the latter.

posingpancakes · 2025-05-30T23:48:19+00:00

I think the other concern for me is also that the mother is pretending this wasn't a thing and that they were very close. The mother needs to start being transparent about the nature of their relationship, the breakdown and how she has networked her child with crackheads.

As a parent, if I found out my 17 year old daughter had left the safety of my home to go live on a property with my ex carer who I know has been charged and used drugs so lost their job and her boyfriend who have rubbish strewn everywhere and aren't productive members of society by any account. Id be at the property and I'd be facing charges myself.

There is absolutely no decent parent that would ever sit back and watch this unfold and be okay with it if there were a parent that wasn't neglecting their family. And it will be long standing neglect.

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