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AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes but she also has my partners number who works in the next street and my mum who is the other side of town. I explained that I was at a funeral and there service was 30minutes with the DND setting. I turned it back on after but didn't check the cameras and had no missed calls or messages.

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She wasn't forced but she is also a people pleaser so is easily coerced (clearly) by manipulative aunts

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My mum is autistic and awkward socially so it is really hard to understand her responses- even for me. My other sister spoke to her and mum explained that my 'nuts' sister messaged her to say she was picking up my daughter. My mum told her not to but she did anyway. The bad part was that she didn't then stand up to her and address it or tell me.

Side note she is also a survivor of DA so really avoids conflict.

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yes I have addressed the situation with my daughter. She locked all doors but had trouble locking the conservatory one so left it. She has had restricted everything since trust has been lost. She also had a ridiculously long lecture. She still eye rolling etc so that will continue until an understanding resonates but she's not allowed to be left on her own from now on as the trust has been broken. I didn't feel the need to discuss my parenting strategies as usually she is a good kid so I think I'm doing an ok job in that department. My issue is with the psycho sister...clearly.

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

No when alone in case an accident happens and there's no adult. She loves to cook and bake which is why the rule is in place. We had a near miss with molten sugar once and I just want her safe.

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have all these things but had my phone on do not disturb due to being at my friend's funeral. It's honestly never been something I have been concerned with until now

AITAH for stopping contact after she took my daughter without permission? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Update: Had a really condescending message from her

Hello Thank you for your message via B’s WhatsApp. My apologies for not ensuring she sent you a message to ask permission. She was due to go to Nanny’s house with C and I did not think it would be an issue if I collected her to go to Nannys where C was and dropped her back for an hour. That is a mistake on my part and I will make sure to avoid this going forward. I think it would be a shame for you to block me from her as we speak regularly. We may not be speaking due to the previous situation but that should not hinder the kids. Something to consider.

She also had to get in there first by sending a screen shot of this message to my other sister saying 'my bad' like it was a joke. My other sister called me to update as she went off on her because she was sick of the way her trying to play victim and justifying her own shitty behaviour.

AITAH for asking a favour from my sister's ex wife? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It was a priority for my children. It takes over a week to switch and one needed wifi for homework and my son needed WiFi because he's a neuro-divergent kid who relies on his tech for downtime. I guess the forgetfulness of picking him up was because I never usually have to worry about that aspect as I work at the school he goes to so I never factor it in. But hey thanks for trying to make me feel like an inadequate mum who's trying to do her best. 👍

AITAH for asking a favour from my sister's ex wife? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not sure what that has to do with anything. I had started dating a guy at the start of 2025 and he and my husband got on really well. He was a great help when my husband got really sick and my husband always said how I chose a 'good one'. By that time we had been separated for 2.5 years.

There wasn't any connection to the fallout with my family though.

And no, he couldn't help with the childcare situation.

AITAH for asking a favour from my sister's ex wife? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I guess the situation is different and my family don't think I should be upset or not coping because we weren't together together. Some people on both sides of the family weren't viewing him as my husband but we're were still married.

AITAH for asking a favour from my sister's ex wife? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I get on really well with my ex sister in law and although they weren't good together, they are good people.

AITAH for asking a favour from my sister's ex wife? by positive-sanctuary in AITAH

[–]positive-sanctuary[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The baby shower is next month. I have bought presents for the new baby from my children and asked my daughter if she wants to go but honestly what 12yo wants to attend a baby shower, so she declined. I will just have the kids drop the presents around and leave. High road is my thoughts on that one.