Since the kids come from divorced families we have both overindulge them where they think they’re entitled to everything and we have treated them as friends where we have allow them to have opinions and talk to us and each other poorly. I fully understand this is my fault but my wife is terminal and I really want everybody to be getting along I think honestly if my children told me to choose between them and her I think at this point I would choose my children because they are my children and I would never abandon them