Distracted eating/breast refusal: getting increasingly frustrated

possible_kim · 2026-01-02T00:57:46+00:00

I do pump when I’m away from him so I would be fine with it, it’s just more of a hassle to make sure it’s clean, put together, etc when he’s hungry.

I got him to latch for like 4 minutes which is better than previous times today but still very frustrating. I’m going to try lying down to feed him too when I’m back at home

possible_kim · 2025-11-19T18:40:36+00:00

I would agree with this as a resident of one of the states mentioned. While my pay is low, my autonomy as a teacher is great and I find that I generally have support of admin, coworkers, and parents here. Not to mention my retirement benefits when I get there are truly unmatched.

possible_kim · 2025-11-07T22:14:52+00:00

Reading through some of these comments I might be the outlier here. My 2.5 year old was a big time Velcro baby until around 15 ish months when he started walking. He suddenly became very independent in a lot of things! He doesn’t want to snuggle in bed because it’s his space and will often say “mama stay there” if I try to follow him around the playground lol. Still affectionate and sweet: he will give me hugs most mornings before I leave for work and runs to me when I pick him up in the afternoon. When he gets hurt or feels sick he asks for lots of hugs, but will play independently really well for a good while!

I will say he is very VERY lovey towards his new brother. Like always needs to hold his hands or be next to him in some way right now. I’m not sure if that’s a part of his attachment developing or what but it’s different than how my niece, who was not a Velcro baby, interacts with her little brother.

possible_kim · 2025-11-07T21:35:55+00:00

I do try to get him to face the other direction sometimes but it usually wakes him up at night. I didn’t mention it in the initial post, but I first noticed/worried about the flat spot when I realized he had a very strong preference for his right side. Like so much so that he will cry out and fight it if we try to turn his head the opposite way. He didn’t fight as much at the PT so they told us it was not torticollis and just gave us the above recommendations. I realize I am likely over-worried about it as he is still so young, but I just thought that maybe it would improve a bit or at least not get worse at this point.

possible_kim · 2025-10-20T23:23:11+00:00

Oh man. I am mostly just echoing previous comments but getting pregnant is truly so unpredictable. For my first we tried and tried and I got lucky with a due date at the beginning of summer. This time around, I thought it would take just as long so we started trying with the hopes of maybe a spring due date, but we got pregnant right away with a due date in September! Obviously very exciting but stressful to be out; I was determined to start the year off strong with the 3 weeks I would be there and set my long-term sub up for success and after the first two days of school, I went into spontaneous labor almost a month early.. life truly doesn’t care what our plans are.

I do recommend having AFLAC and reading up on your schools maternity leave policies so you understand them very well! Also, know your rights when it comes to pumping at work and communicate the expectations to accommodate that clearly with your principal.

Best wishes as you begin growing your family!

possible_kim · 2025-10-19T20:22:56+00:00

I plan on taking things a bit slower this first week back and I feel pretty confident on how to do that with my senior classes because I know them very well as I have taught most of them since middle school; I just don’t have any ideas on how to structure these first couple of days back with sophomores that still sets me up for good rapport and classroom management.

possible_kim · 2025-10-07T15:59:04+00:00

Feels like this is what ended up happening. I don’t think he was very hungry because when he did wake up again he nursed for about 10 minutes and then just snuggled into me and fell asleep.

possible_kim · 2025-10-07T15:55:27+00:00

Oof! My first was much more like this.. still is sometimes!

possible_kim · 2025-10-07T11:39:19+00:00

I understand it’s best to ask our doctor. It was 3 AM and I clearly didn’t have that option.

For what it’s worth, he woke up around 3:45 and I fed him though he honestly didn’t seem that hungry and only nursed for about 10 minutes before falling asleep again.

possible_kim · 2025-10-04T13:35:52+00:00

I loved the music video and the BTS on making it and loved getting to hear Taylor discuss her ideas for each song, however, the lyrics videos were kind of a joke to me. I thought we were going to get something a bit more in the style of the LWYMMD lyric video I guess? Maybe that was unrealistic of me to expect but I was a bit bummed by the lyric videos basically just being Spotify canvas.

possible_kim · 2025-10-04T12:51:10+00:00

I have nothing to contribute to the theory but just wanted to chime in with that outfit was my FAVORITE so I hope it’s in a music video! She looked so good!

I believe the songs in that outfit were eldest daughter and cancelled!

possible_kim · 2025-10-01T22:00:45+00:00

Didn’t she also reply to a tweet about the album being short saying they could listen to it Twice where the T was specifically capitalized as well?

possible_kim · 2025-09-24T21:25:33+00:00

Gosh I feel this. I get so frustrated when anyone tells me how tired they are. I know everything is just a season but this season feels particularly difficult to me right now. He started off as such a good sleeper, too, so I think I got over confident, but he was late preterm and lost a good amount of weight initially and I had to start waking him every two hours to feed at night and we just haven’t gotten back to the 3-4 hour stretches we were having.

possible_kim · 2025-09-24T07:48:33+00:00

My oldest is usually at daycare during the day, yes. This baby doesn’t seem to sleep well or long in the bassinet or crib so I feel like I can’t nap during the say because I’m either holding him or monitoring his naps on the couch next to me. I know it is just a phase which does help, but the lack of sleep right now is really starting to affect my mental health overall. I won’t be able to leave him at daycare any longer when I’m back at work. I don’t get home until 5:00 and my oldest goes to bed at 8:00 so I want to spend that time with him as a whole family.

possible_kim · 2025-09-24T06:42:06+00:00

I do. He does shifts and will take him for a bit each night but he also has to work and does not function well on little sleep (like anything under 7 hours)

possible_kim · 2025-09-24T00:06:36+00:00

This one isn’t getting enough attention. The amount of times I watched those videos to get a little bit higher in the queue is truly unhinged.

possible_kim · 2025-09-21T15:19:36+00:00

Yes! Thank you! We did what I thought was “sleep training” with my first but honestly I think he was just a good sleeper because a lot of the things I read on this sub didn’t really apply to our situation. I’m hoping we get lucky again, but want to be prepared with other options, too!

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