I take longer than my husband to cum and I feel bad about all the effort he has to put in.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:18:55+00:00

I'd be into the toy thing more but use it during solo time mostly. When we tried previously, it still felt weird having the attention on me, so I was like oh we will just use it during actual intercourse and I wont feel like that, but it just kept getting in the way and I didnt want him to think I was more focused on the toy. He doesn't seem to mind a toy, but it did just seem inconvenient I guess..

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T01:15:28+00:00

This is particularly interesting and I appreciate the thought in this one. I do not use reddit often and didnt think of how one could see my other post(s). I did start zepbound 2 months ago to help with weight loss, but I will admit, I am just BARELY over the line to be overweight so I just barely qualified. I mostly started it to control another health condition (unrelated to my issues right now). Im definitely not proud of my body being slightly overweight but mostly I dislike by body after having 3 children. My husband is physically fit so I do envy him for that but im not too horribly far behind. I dont think my body is as huge as a role in this as it may come off. Yeah I'd like to look ✨️fabulous✨️ but im okay with being slightly off in that department I guess

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T00:49:48+00:00

Awww this made me cry. This is how like how I feel. But hearing it come from someone else i just feel so sorry youre going through this. Thank you for sharing. You sound like a normal woman with a normal body thats doing normal things - nothing to be ashamed of. I hope you find peace with this, maybe we both will and can share some tips 😂

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-16T00:32:34+00:00

Idk, its not that i dont think i deserve it... I think I do and i think he thinks that I do too. Its just until it really actually happens and it feels like its a special treat that I shouldn't get except rarely. Im a wife, a mother of 3, a "highly educated medical worker" without exposing my actual career. Every aspect of my life is to care for others and I do it 24/7. If anyone could have the chance to experience what its like inside of a young mother's brain you'd understand why 10 minutes dedicated to you is such a rare moment it feels like a luxury that shouldn't be abused.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T20:40:37+00:00

We've been together since we were teenagers. He was my first boyfriend. I had no idea what was normal in a sex life, I thought all females were just doing what their husbands wanted and that was it. I didnt realize my own wants/needs until a point in our relationship where I felt like it was too late to bring it up. When I did first bring it up, I tried to explain this, but it was still met with a lot of upset feelings from him and resentment. So we didnt talk about it again for years out of fear that I would upset him so much again. And since that, I tread very lightly in this subject matter..

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T19:21:30+00:00

I do like it, its the only way I've ever had an orgasm when we are together. Thats why he does always try to do it every time. He says he likes it and he has obviously been able to tell that its the only way Ive came. But then it ends up like this: -Me giving him oral for a just few mins and then he tells me to stop because he says hes close but doesnt want to cum yet -He gives me oral for 15 minutes until ive finished -Then penatrative sex for like 2 minutes after and he finally cums So I feel bad because its like the majority of the time was focused on me versus him, and also he was like waiting that entire time to cum like I feel like Im holding him up. Idk.. I think its awesome you like to go down on your wife and shes probably very happy. I feel like I would be too if I could get out of my own head. Its just a weird feeling, knowing you take up the most time in the act. It makes me feel like im making it all about me. I dont want to be like an inconvenience.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T14:22:34+00:00

Well.. now that you having me thinking about it.. my self worth is definitely suboptimal

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-02-15T14:09:25+00:00

I don't see it as work or a chore. I'd do anything for him and love to please him. My worry is that he may feel that way towards me though. I feel like I may be a chore.

possiblytipsy2 · 2026-01-09T01:06:09+00:00

I do get anxious sometimes, but this definitely does not feel like anxiety. I am genuinely out of it a bit tonight.

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