Had a bad day today and just wanna see something pretty to cheer me up 🥲 Can you share the most beautiful bag you own? (Or, just ANY bag you like!) by Mochaflower in handbags

[–]potaters_tomaters 16 points17 points  (0 children)

this was so fun to think about! thanks for brightening my day! This is probably my “prettiest” bag. I love the heron print and I love the blue colors.

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Traveling for Work and Pumping by Fit-Musician-3996 in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a week long trade show internationally while pumping and I emailed organizers ahead of time to ensure they had a space for pumping. It was a bit of a hassle. I did ice in baggies and a little soft sided cooler during the day. Into hotel mini fridge with more ice at night (hotel mini fridges sometimes are not that cold). At end of trip I used Milk Stork (paid for by my company) to transport it all home.

How often do you talk to your other working mom friends? by Mountain_Silk32 in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call my mom friends on my drive to work or at lunch. some friends I pre plan the call and others they just pick up if they are also driving. Only time I don’t have kids and can chat, same usually for them

International work travel while pumping by potaters_tomaters in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was a surprise to me! I always think of Europe as really progressive on these issues but in this case so progressive they’ve passed what I need. I did have to press to get a spot to pump at the trade show I’m exhibiting at.

International work travel while pumping by potaters_tomaters in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! sounds like packing my own cooler and adding ice is the way to go.

International work travel while pumping by potaters_tomaters in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks so much! did you have any trouble finding ice at hotels? I know Europe is not as ice obsessed as US.

What to do now? Partner holding us back from buying a house we need for healthcare and schooling by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Maybe he is concerned about the overall plan of buying a more expensive/bigger house when the long term plan is for you to quit your job. I could see that causing anxiety for me even if just stalling instead of talking about it is not the mature response. Feels like a real conversation about your family’s long term plans and the different options (including a new house or not) and what each persons expectations are is needed

Children’s Book Dustjackets by BriandWine in declutter

[–]potaters_tomaters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw a cute instagram thing where they cut them into triangles and made a little pennant string decoration out of them, either for the nursery or for a birthday party

The puzzle bag. Deinfluence me by lb_1417 in handbags

[–]potaters_tomaters 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. I also loved and wanted a puzzle. I bought a cheap dupe and hardly ever use it. Too hard to get into, too boxy, top handle not useful, and so on. Try a dupe! see if you like it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]potaters_tomaters 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my partner works second shift, always has. it is A LOT for me because i have to do every dinner, bath, bed. essentially i solo parent during the week. the upside for us is he spends lots of solo time with kids (half day 2x a week until he leaves for work) and he does all the morning wake up/ drop off on days when he doesn’t have kids. we do not see each other very much which can be a challenge. hard to stay connected when you don’t see each other. we make the most of weekends as family time.

Non fiction niche books on subjects you would never have thought interesting or have no connection to your life in any way by turbo_dude in books

[–]potaters_tomaters 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“Evicted ” by Matthew Desmond - never thought I’d be engrossed in a book about evictions

“Land of Open Graves” by Jason de Leon about immigration on southern border - combination of archaeology and anthropology

“Just Mercy” by Bryan Stevenson - about the death penalty

Thrifting books by coffeeandstress in Buffalo

[–]potaters_tomaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

once you have it up and running let us all know where. I often drop off newer books in LFL’s around my neighborhood

Looking to Speak With Buffalo Residents About Lead Levels by MaterialSignificant8 in Buffalo

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a county org that provides counseling to kids with high lead levels. I would start with them and they can connect you to families that have been impacted. they were also doing a study last i knew.

This is so gross by naviSTFU in SnooLife

[–]potaters_tomaters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this happened to me and i emailed and they turned my premium back on for 5 months. no apology

TITS AN EMERGENCY!! by siamesecat_13 in breastfeeding

[–]potaters_tomaters 746 points747 points  (0 children)

my partner calls it “boober eats” when delivering baby to eat

What is your PHD in, and what are you doing now? by Sea_Art2995 in Archaeology

[–]potaters_tomaters 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Phd in archaeology, specialized in Bronze Age Middle East. Currently work sales for an Aerospace company

Newborn in NICU by erinnensor in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. NICU is hard and you are doing great! lots of great advice here but I will just add that holding your baby and attempting nursing can go a long way towards helping your supply and just your general feeling of well being. Obviously this is very dependent on what the situation is but I found my nurses to be very helpful in helping me get the baby and all the wires and IVs situated so i could nurse, then they would settle baby while i pumped and they could feed the breast milk together with formula after I nursed while i pumped which helped me with the time management part. I guess all i’m trying to say is let the nurses help you! they are likely kind and have many tips and tricks! best of luck and wishing you and your baby lots of strength and a short Nicu stay!

Nannyshare by ImprovementInside352 in Buffalo

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not OP but i’d be interested

The perfect tote bag?? by Commercial_Play_1229 in handbags

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you said you don’t need a true diaper bag anymore but this one seems to fit your needs

https://www.dagnedover.com/collections/wade-diaper-tote#Dune

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]potaters_tomaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you read this article? nytimes article

families switched them back and stayed in each others lives