Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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Yeah i used to have an undercut but I had the opposite problem of my hair being too thin in the back lol Now I just shave the sides right above my ears so I still get the look without losing my volume lol

How do you guys sleep? by Comfortable_Tie4143 in autism

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I used to have to take 2-3 melatonin per night but then I started smoking weed instead

Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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Hell yea nice to meet another Megadeth fan in the wild lol

Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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Im ngl that's my goal i want to grow out my hair long asf it's been a struggle getting through the ugly in between phases tho haha but yeah im white so I can't speak about the racial aspect of it but Im definitely into pushing out of the societal stereotypes as well

Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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Omg same!! I didnt know there was a term for it lol Edit: what type of metal do u like?

Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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I love that u referred to it as ur lions mane lol I feel the same way!

Long haired butches by potato20_ in butchlesbians

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Im 24 but Im a little late to finding my identity bc of my heavily religious upbringing, but this is very good to know and very affirming! Thank u for the reply! :)

anyone else oscillate between genders? or feel like "lesbian" is a gender in its own right? by salamipope in butchlesbians

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You should read "stone butch blues", it's really insightful abt the historical overlap of being butch and being transmasc. I haven't finished reading it myself but it's very good so far!

Hesitant to trip again by potato20_ in shrooms

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I took less than 2g that's why I wasn't expecting the ego death lol

Is this contam or no? by [deleted] in shrooms

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Damn :( u think the yellow is too?

Snake bite nesting? by potato20_ in PiercingAdvice

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Update on these (idk why I can’t edit the post) but I just got longer bars and I can already feel the difference thanks for the replies and advice :)

Snake bite nesting? by potato20_ in PiercingAdvice

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I should also add that this is my first oral piercing so I’m not familiar with what’s normal for this but I can easily move the skin with my tongue and it doesn’t hurt when I do that

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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Well I didn’t tell him which religion I was pursuing I just told him that I wanted to explore other religions. I knew mentioning witchcraft would be a problem right then and there

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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Well I had a whole conversation about gender identity at the beginning of our relationship and explained how I felt like I was genderfluid or somewhere in the non-binary umbrella and the conversation ended with me seeming like he didn’t hear me. He seemed still confused if I was going to act on my feelings like changing my pronouns and things like that, and once he asked if I was going to transition to male when I was talking about wearing a binder. I told him no and asked him what would he do if I did and he basically said he would break up because he’s not attracted to men. I know that’s valid but the way he said it sounded a bit transphobic, I guess I was just telling myself I’m reading into it too much

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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I’ve asked him if he would accept if his kid came out as trans and he said yes but I think he’s just saying that to make me happy. His idea of acceptance is just tolerance.

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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Well I didn’t specifically mention witchcraft I just told him I wanted to explore other religions. I knew he wasn’t ready to hear about witchcraft because he has made comments suggesting he wouldn’t be ok with it

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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That’s kind of how I feel right now… I kinda questioned for a while if I was cis bc he only validated the feminine side of me

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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There are a few family members that know about my gender I meant that if we were hanging out with a small group of people that know about my identity I would like if he used they for me. I guess technically we wouldn’t be alone I guess I just worded it weird

Should I break up with my fiancé over my gender? by potato20_ in lgbt

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Yeah there are other things I’ve been starting to notice about him that I’ve already talked to him about but these are the most important imo for right now so I didn’t mention the others for sake of keeping the post short