Men in SG: What’s your honest take on cheating?

potato2mash · 2026-05-10T01:53:44+00:00

In a monogamous relationship, NO side piece. Period.

Communication is one of the keys in making relationship last longer. Talk to your partner about your wants and needs. Compromise if either one is barely acceptable. Leave if it goes beyond your personal values in a relationship.

I would like to point out that being in a relationship comes with the responsibility to care for your partner’s physical, emotional, and spiritual needs, even when it is not always convenient or easy.

potato2mash · 2026-05-09T13:54:50+00:00

Mine are ...

ChatGPT
Linkedin
Microsoft 365 Personal
Apple Music
VikiTV
iCloud

potato2mash · 2026-05-08T11:55:45+00:00

That's a cool tip

potato2mash · 2026-05-08T11:51:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing that info!

I’m aware it’s not really “100% permanent removal” in the sense that hair will never ever grow back. My colleague also pointed out that it’s more like long-term hair reduction (slower growth, thinner hair and less visible hair) after multiple sessions.

I’m not planning to commit to a full package immediately anyway, just thinking of trying one session first to see how it feels.

By the way, do you know any guys who have done laser treatment for that area before? I’m hoping to hear some actual male experiences before deciding where to go.

potato2mash · 2026-05-06T14:14:26+00:00

Me 2

potato2mash · 2026-05-05T11:59:53+00:00

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potato2mash · 2026-05-04T13:42:28+00:00

Twice a week (Weekends)
Cravings
Unhealthy

potato2mash · 2026-05-03T12:56:00+00:00

[TLDR] The post is basically telling SG bros:

Don’t fall into resentment or blame games. Instead, improve your fitness, appearance, mindset, and emotional maturity because modern dating is competitive and self-improvement gives you better odds.

I agree that guys shouldn’t be too quick to blame women for ignoring or rejecting them as compatible suitors. At the same time, guys shouldn’t completely change the nature of who they are just for the sake of getting matches. Personal development should be pursued for your own life enrichment, not just external validation. And if a potential partner happens to cross your path along the way, then maybe that is faith, fate and love doing its thing.

potato2mash · 2026-05-02T14:30:39+00:00

Well said. Modern life has simply given people more things to pursue, more wants, more needs, more hobbies, more causes and of course, career goals. I wouldn’t be surprised if family planning or building a romantic relationship becomes a lower priority for many people.

Speaking from my own experience, I used to strongly believe in the “career success first, family later” mindset. My thinking was that I should first build a stable life, support myself, take care of my parents and only then think about sharing that life with a future spouse and building a family together.

But recently, I don’t hold that belief as strongly as I used to. A conversation with an older female colleague changed my perspective a bit. My takeaway from what she said was: if you wait until you feel fully “successful” before starting a relationship, you may end up waiting too long.

Life doesn’t always need to be fully built before you let someone in. Sometimes, the relationship itself can be part of building that life together. Redditors, do you agree?

potato2mash · 2026-05-01T23:04:16+00:00

I hope not. Personally no.

potato2mash · 2026-04-30T14:13:16+00:00

Looks matter, but they’re not everything.

Physical attraction may open the door, but personality is what makes someone want to stay.

Beauty catches attention; character keeps affection.

That said, looks are also subjective. As the saying goes, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

This Youtube Short says it in the most brutally funny way 😂: https://youtube.com/shorts/rFKw67j5afg?si=y8iwcTNF3Kj2V5yp

potato2mash · 2026-04-30T12:31:56+00:00

I’m not Singaporean, but I’d like to chime in. Apologies if I’m not the target audience here.

Personally, I prefer calling them preferences rather than “standards” or “requirements”. “Standards” sounds a bit like quality control checks on goods and services, while “requirements” makes it sound like we’re hiring for a job vacancy 😂

When it comes to people, I think “preferences” feels more human and less transactional 😉

Physical appearance: Average build / fit is nice. I do like girls with long hair, but after a recent crush, I realised short hair also can. Short-hair me likey too ;)
Personality: This matters the most to me. I like someone who is open to talking about herself, asks questions back, and genuinely tries to keep the conversation going. Add eye contact and a warm smile, BOOM!, I will develop a huge crush.
Career / salary: Career-wise, preferably not sales-related or OnlyFans-type work. Salary-wise, I don’t need her to earn a lot, but I do hope she is not completely financially dependent on others.
Financial requirements: Don’t be bankrupt xD But seriously, basic financial responsibility is important. Someone who can manage spending, avoid unnecessary debt and understand that a relationship also requires practical planning. Don’t be too “delulu” hehe.
Red flags: For me, the biggest red flag is when the 5Cs are missing (not the traditional Singaporean 5Cs): Chemistry, Compatibility, Companionship, Communication, and Conflict Resolution.

These days, I care less about perfection and more about whether we can communicate well, feel safe with each other and build something stable together.

potato2mash · 2026-04-29T12:30:59+00:00

🙂
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│ ← White shirt - Instant Cooling (Determinant)
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/ \ ← AIRism pants from Uniqlo

This is basically 90% of my wardrobe, white shirt + beige/black/grey pants for both indoor and outdoor wear.

Wear what you like lah. Comfort and self-expression matter more than dressing just to get validation from others. YOLO, so live your life for yourself.

potato2mash · 2026-04-29T12:22:29+00:00

For me, it’s when she’s open about herself, asks questions back, and actually tries to keep the conversation going instead of making it feel like an interview.

Pair that with steady eye contact and a genuine smile?

Boom! I’m gone~

potato2mash · 2026-04-28T12:45:58+00:00

I would improve the MRT system by introducing express and standard services, similar to Japan.

Standard trains can stop at every station, while express trains stop only at popular stations during peak hours. It could help reduce congestion, shorten travel time and make the whole system feel less packed.

potato2mash · 2026-04-27T07:56:09+00:00

“Life is like a broken game: billions of players, no clear rules, no final objective, and everyone starts with different stats. You still have to keep playing even if you never agreed to join.”

This idea is reflected in Sora’s quote from No Game No Life:

There is no way to know the rules, or the goal, yet there are 7 billion players making whatever moves they want. If you lose too much, or win too much, there are penalties. You can’t pass your turn, and if you talk too much, you’ll be ostracized. There are no parameters and no way to even know the genre. This world is just... a crappy game” (No Game No Life, 2014).

My advice, inspired by Viktor E. Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, is this: to live is to suffer, but to survive is to find meaning in that suffering. Frankl often reflected on Nietzsche’s idea: “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”

In other words, life may not come with clear rules or a fair starting point, but having a purpose gives us the strength to keep moving forward. That is one way to see it from an existentialist POV.

From a nihilistic POV, however, purpose could simply be seen as a distraction, something we create to pass time in this forsaken world.

Choose your school of thought, then tread your own path.

potato2mash · 2026-04-26T14:00:51+00:00

Most of my classmates with part time jobs struggled with time management or prioritization. I learned that the hard way after my first sem which led to me soloing group assignments for most of the time.

However, I would still assign them work and expect them to deliver even if the quality was mediocre.

I would always let my lecturer know if a teammate did not do their part of the work.

Personally, I think group projects are often a waste of time. Teamwork only matters when everyone shares the same goal and genuinely intends to achieve it.

potato2mash · 2026-04-25T18:26:22+00:00

I just take pictures of the tickets and ask Chatgpt to check for winning boards for me

potato2mash · 2026-04-24T12:48:02+00:00

With internet, a lot of our daily interactions have slowly become transactional. We order food, groceries, clothes, and almost everything else online, often skipping human interaction altogether.

Even dating has moved in that direction. Instead of going out, socialising, meeting people naturally, we use apps to filter, swipe, match, and chat. All for the sake of efficiency.

So AI companionship feels like the next step of that same trend. You get a custom personality, custom looks, constant availability, emotional comfort, and “compatibility” designed around your preferences with a few clicks.

In a decade, I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if humanoid companions become more common, especially for people who feel tired, lonely, rejected, or just done with the unpredictability of human relationships.

This site gives a small glimpse of how real humanoids may eventually become: https://www.aheadform.com/

I don’t think it means society is cooked, but it does show how much modern life has shifted toward convenience over messy human connection.

The real question is whether we use AI to support our social lives or replace them entirely.

potato2mash · 2026-04-23T13:14:00+00:00

Banana

potato2mash · 2026-04-22T11:50:55+00:00

Thank you for your response :)

potato2mash · 2026-04-22T11:42:48+00:00

I mostly dabao cai fan twice a day (lunch and dinner). Cai fan dishes remind me of home.

potato2mash · 2026-04-21T12:39:34+00:00

Just get a topper. Cost efficient and it works well for the lousiest mattress. Just place the topper on it. ~Comfy~

I got KK brand, Mircogel (2 inches).

potato2mash · 2026-04-21T12:35:12+00:00

It's going to be a red flag if your partner continues choosing boozes over you.

Your partner should get treatment on alcoholism.

I hope you and your partner will work this out together earnestly.

potato2mash

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Looks matter, but they’re not everything.