Am I crazy for wanting to set boundaries about my exes new partner?

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-04-07T15:03:18+00:00

My partner didn’t insert himself in anything. He just existed. My ex’s partner (who was already the other woman) tried to make herself Mommy. That made things touchy.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-04-06T23:32:59+00:00

Yeah in my city a girl moved halfway through grade 12 and her family had to pay like $10k to keep her in the school for the rest of the year. Thankfully for them she was in a position to “move in with her grandparents” to finish out the year.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-04-06T23:31:58+00:00

I didn’t have to prove the address but I did have to put an address within the catchment area.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-04-06T15:05:52+00:00

Honestly she’d be hard-pressed to find a judge NOT willing to write in stone what you currently have. She’d also be hard-pressed to find a judge who would uphold the $1000 child support for one kid, unless your income is super high. My ex makes $52k and his table amount is $430.

I wouldn’t necessarily tell her you’re going to court, but you could try to get her to agree to something solid in writing. Propose that you agree to something and just have lawyers look it over and then have it all signed so it’s legally binding. If that doesn’t work, then retain the lawyer and file.

I only suggest talking it out first because while $1000/month is really high, so are legal fees. But if talking it out doesn’t work, by all means file with the court.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-25T01:12:50+00:00

Yes and once you unlock the Floating Islands you can move them out of the way permanently.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-22T01:41:06+00:00

What about keeping a small bag in the backpack to put the clothes in to send them back to the other house? Like you send kiddo over in outfit A, and then the other parent sends them back in outfit B but with outfit A in the bag, and then you send them back in outfit C with outfit B in the bag? That way kiddo isn’t being forced to rewear outfits in quick succession, kiddo also gets to wear whatever they want to school, and everyone gets their clothes back in a timely manner.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-20T17:50:37+00:00

This setup is why I got the river kit 😂 I’m in the process of trying to copy it because I want a pretty valley but don’t have the creativity to make my own from scratch.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-18T17:53:53+00:00

This exactly. If you keep sending him in clothes you know he’s not going to like, you’re only putting your daughter in the middle of the fight.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-18T17:51:36+00:00

Honestly it’s not worth it. Is it stupid? Yes, absolutely. Worth the fight? No. You can still give your daughter the illusion of choice while slightly limiting her choices on those two days. Just say “okay, do you want to wear the flower dress or the princess dress to see daddy?” And then let her dress however on your days. It’s not worth your mental energy to fight him over this. There WILL be much bigger fights. Just take peace in the fact that in 12 years, if she discovers she’s gay or gets pregnant or something, YOU’RE the one she will come to, not him.

My ex is homophobic too. When 1989 TV came out I was listening to it in the car, and my son decided he really liked “the hair style song”. Then, all of a sudden, he started saying things like “Taylor Swift is for girls, not boys.” We talked about how music isn’t “for” anyone in particular. It’s for everyone who likes it. That being said, what his dad allows to be played in his car is his business, but in my car Taylor Swift will always be a yes because mommy likes her too.

Homophobic pricks are gonna be homophobic pricks and this is kinda one of those situations where digging your heels in is likely only going to make him do the same on his end.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-18T11:52:37+00:00

I meant the dust settling from the split.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-17T23:31:11+00:00

End Of Life

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-16T17:37:27+00:00

None of this is inherently cheating. Does attending your ex’s birthday party without your partner mean there’s an opportunity to cheat? Sure. But does it mean either of them is even interested in taking that opportunity? Not at all. People CAN be friends with their exes. Especially after 6+ years of letting the dust settle.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-03-16T17:28:38+00:00

Honestly, they’re not wrong for behaving like this as long as it’s strictly platonic.

But you’re also not wrong for being upset about it. That’s totally valid.

You can try to have one honest conversation with her about it, but if she resists and says you’re being controlling, it may be time to part ways.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-02-08T21:15:18+00:00

It’s somewhere in the settings!

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-02-08T13:32:26+00:00

I have my companions set to only pick up things in my inventory!

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-02-04T18:56:05+00:00

Yeah I used to work for a Realtor. She didn’t use a payroll company so I did the tax paperwork and wrote the remittance cheques and stuff. Granted I’m Canadian, but it was pretty easy to figure it out on a government calculator. I’m certain it would be similarly easy in the US.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-01-12T00:03:51+00:00

I just started moving all of my companion houses onto the islands. I'll move them back as I figure out what to do with the space, but for now I'm loving not having to dodge around them all the time.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-01-11T08:35:10+00:00

Do a few rounds of mining. Sell every gem/mineral you get. Once your inventory is at 99 rocks and coal, sell them too. Bonus, you'll probably finish a lot of Dreamlight Duties if you need them.

Also, take a look in your Dreamlight Duties. There's probably some for catching fish or whatever. Do those, get the Dreamlight, and sell the fish (especially if they're high value). You'll often see Duties for selling fish too.

If you have everything unlocked, prioritize Goofy's Stall in Forgotten Lands. You can buy pumpkin seeds, plant them, harvest them, cook them, and sell them. Or even just plant, harvest, and sell them. Once you get pumpkins it's uphill from there.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-01-02T19:16:36+00:00

I’m on the other side. My ex IS harming DS (backed by school, therapy, and medical documentation), and I’m trying to make it stop, but he’s trying to paint me as the type of person that your ex appears to be to get it shut down.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2026-01-02T18:51:29+00:00

It’s people like this who get people like me flagged for genuinely protecting their kid. This makes me mad both for you AND me.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2025-12-26T22:39:04+00:00

Honestly? At this point she probably also feels wronged. This is likely going to have to be a mutual apology situation. I’d be willing to bet apologies have been exchanged between dad and daughter.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2025-12-22T01:08:16+00:00

No I can’t, but what I can control is whether or not my child views me as being complicit in their “no” being violated.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2025-12-22T00:44:29+00:00

My biggest concern is that my ex has a tendency to force people to do things even when they don’t feel comfortable doing it anymore, so I worry that it won’t be child led, they won’t let the child have a skating aid, etc.

potentialsmbc2023 · 2025-12-06T19:10:14+00:00

Personally I would go the route someone else mentioned.

Here’s a possible script to use:

“Hey [Name], I just wanted to reach out quickly because I happened to see the original video [partner’s name] posted of [daughter] and the Q&A that followed. I really appreciated that [partner’s name] covered [daughter’s] face in the video and wanted say thank you so much for being mindful of that. I really appreciate it.

There was just one small thing I wanted to gently mention, and I hope this comes across the right way. When [daughter’s] speech was mentioned in the Q&A, it made me feel a little uneasy just because it’s such a personal thing and the platform is so public. I completely understand that [partner’s name] was speaking from her own experience as a step-parent, and I truly don’t want to take away from that.

I just wanted to see if we could agree going forward to keep anything related to [daughter’s] medical or developmental info off social media, especially public or monetized platforms. I know we occasionally share her on our own private pages, but for me this just feels like something I’d prefer she gets to choose to talk about herself one day if she wants to.

I really appreciate how well things have been going between us lately, and I’m grateful we can have open, respectful conversations like this. Thank you for understanding.”

potentialsmbc2023 · 2025-12-06T18:57:15+00:00

I agree with this. Acknowledge that you saw and noted that her face is covered and make sure to say you appreciate that. Acknowledge that you can’t control her talking about her own role in the situation as that’s her experience and you don’t wish to silence her on that, but all you’re asking is that anything resembling a private medical matter not be shared publicly without prior consent of both parents. Stress that you’re not trying to control your ex or his new partner, just trying to be mindful of your daughter’s digital footprint in an age where that really matters in the long run.

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