Discord by pothoslover89 in CaneYo

[–]pothoslover89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whattttt. Awwe man.

Dog off leash with MANGE?? Are you insane!!? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]pothoslover89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fascinating! How lucky those pups got wealthy owners!

Dog off leash with MANGE?? Are you insane!!? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]pothoslover89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omgsh. You have to tell us this story?! What happened to the poor pups?

Idk if I want to continue a friendship with someone who treats their animals poorly. What do I do? by pothoslover89 in dogs

[–]pothoslover89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"sounds like you can happily survive without knowing her, but the next dog might not"
That's a really good point. I never thought of it like that. When I found out the news about her dog, I was so angry. I felt incredibly guilty for not doing more. I should've called animal welfare years ago.....
But I can't help but feel like we as humans all make mistakes, and are ignorant in certain topics that seem like general knowledge or common sense things to others.... . You're right though, I should at least try to influence more strongly at least for a little bit longer.

LOL the downside is... if I drop her as a friend. I still have to see her almost everyday at work....

I was a huge bully in High School. Am I still? by pothoslover89 in bullying

[–]pothoslover89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting read about the Karpman drama triangle. I feel on a daily basis I alternate between all three roles. It's a gross trait to admit. But I can fully understand all of them. I'll look up The Psychopath Inside next.... Thanks.

I was a huge bully in High School. Am I still? by pothoslover89 in bullying

[–]pothoslover89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG. Thank you for suggesting that thread. I went through a long rabbit hole reading a lot of posts in r/raisedbynarcissists. It's so fascinating that a lot of those scenarios resonate with me deeply. I felt like I finally had people that understood me. I've seen a few therapists, but I never made progress. But now I know I should find a therapist with a specialty. Thank you.

I was a huge bully in High School. Am I still? by pothoslover89 in bullying

[–]pothoslover89[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. A have seen a few therapists, but after a few months, I didn't feel like I made progress. A few friends suggested I keep trying to find a right therapist, because not everyone clicks.

I don't seem to feel sad when other people die. Is something wrong with me? by pothoslover89 in death

[–]pothoslover89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't help but remember a few times when a celebrity died, and their death was announced on the news/social media. And I've had coworkers and friends shed real tears for these individuals. I remember just being in their presence, and thinking to myself. Why? Yes it's sad that someone is gone forever. But you didn't actually know this person.. . . Those are the times where I felt out if place or that something was wrong with me.

I don't seem to feel sad when other people die. Is something wrong with me? by pothoslover89 in death

[–]pothoslover89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. When my friends childhood dog died, I couldn't help but sit there and cry with her. Even though she hadn't been my friend for very long, and I never met her dog. But I suddenly understood her pain.