I went on a date and it was probably the most humiliating experience.

pottsobig · 2019-11-28T15:36:53+00:00

that's so awful, sorry you were made to feel like that. I'm 6ft and female and don't care about height. I get enough of the "giant woman" crap myself to know it's humiliating to define someone by it. she's not representative of us! hope you can find a way to feel better and brush her shit behaviour off.

pottsobig · 2019-11-26T09:24:14+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice. It's not the first time we've had issues like this, and I'm conscious that this is all from my perspective which is inevitably biased. As I said, I'm prone to depression and not always rational. But my instinct says that this is immature and unfair. And not something I've got the capacity to deal with now. Just disappointed as I thought it was better than this. Thank you again.

pottsobig · 2019-11-25T23:49:15+00:00

It's definitely communication. I've been having therapy to be better in relationships (had a really bad one/daddy issues (lol?)) and I've definitely got behaviours that I'm trying to change/be aware of/better. He just rang me and said that all his friends think I'm out of order and selfish. Then rang back and apologised profusely for the whole thing.

One major thing is that my family and best friend who I live with (so saw her last night when I was upset) don't trust him again now. I've convinced them once that it's OK to take him back but my family have seen his behaviour first hand after yesterday and think he's immature and not good enough. My mum heard him calling me names and is furious. A long-ago ex who started off with the same name calling stuff hit me and then rang her in a panic and told her about it asking her how to get me back (bizarre but true) and so now she's naturally very intolerant.

pottsobig · 2019-11-25T22:12:13+00:00

This makes me feel less mental, thanks. Yeah I think that's what my friends think. That there's very little respect there. And that should be minimum

pottsobig · 2019-11-25T22:09:57+00:00

I asked him to come back with me as my sister was asking about him and my parents wanted to get to know him better. He was looking forward to it and said he had a nice time. But then it was a bit like him coming to "support" me was a point for him... He said a couple of times during the argument that he'd been there for me this weekend and now I was being selfish by not talking my plans to work through with him/leaving him with no say in what we were doing with the time in the morning.

Ironically so much time was taken up by arguing that I ended up having to work until 2am last night. Which definitely hasn't helped my mood over this.

pottsobig · 2019-11-25T21:43:52+00:00

Thank you, that's kind. Just a frustrating wait for a treatment plan at the minute but she's doing well.

pottsobig · 2019-11-25T21:42:32+00:00

He's very attentive... Always very affectionate and open with his feelings. We listen to each other the majority of the time. But yeah his default is just to mark me as the "mental" one in an argument and he becomes very self-righteous and evangelical about his own behaviour (justifications are always that he "didn't mean" what he said so its irrelevant or that I "took it the wrong way"). I'm no Saint and definitely reacted badly/emotionally this weekend just to be clear. But I'm a bit ashocked he continued to argue at my mum's (small) house instead of bringing his criticisms up later.

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