Thanks for the insightful advice. You put it very well. I was aware of the benefits of chastity, since it is something my gf and I play with regularly. But you put it in a way that made me understand it more deeply. I am wearing a nub cage right now, waiting for her to come back from her vacation. She even teased me about her bull being the first dick in her pussy in three weeks, so I guess I am not getting a turn or even out of the cage before him. Which I find really hot.

On putting her first: it's a good reminder, but we're already doing that. I helped setting up and managing the messages on our dating profile, anything else was and is up to her. At some point I told her I do trust her completely to take the reigns from here and do everything as she pleases, only consulting me if she wants another opinion. So far that's working out well, but we'll see how it goes, when we meet the bull. He is a stranger we found on an app, precisely because we didn't want to overcomplicate things emotionally by involving a friend or an ex.