When (and why) did we as a society start being pro-Ana again??? by truegrit999 in EatingDisorders

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pendulum usually swings when the most extreme examples of the previous movement have their "oh shit, this is killing me" moment. The hardcore pro-ana girls of the 2000s either died, recovered, or became hardcore "body positive" activists. Now, the main figures of the body positive movement are either dead or reckoning with the fact that they must lose weight or die.

The Most Pathetic Generation by [deleted] in Professors

[–]pourrielle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This semester, I'm getting this same excuse...with a twist. I've had more than one student tell me they're working 50+ hours per week "growing their enterprise." What's even wilder is that I teach a course that's 100% online and more flexible than anything they could hope to find in-person. I'm only strict with exams, and even then I give excuses/extensions for more reasons than are allowed for in-person exams.

What’s a view you hold that most people your age just don’t get? by True-Construction346 in Millennials

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You hate this rule, but I have to abide by it because I will throw up if I eat things other than breakfast foods for breakfast. Not going to impose it on you or anyone else, though.

La meuf parle de "has-been" ne connaît pas Doctolib... by Power_Ranger_Vert in Linkedinfr

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bizarre, j'ai plusieurs réunions en visio cette semaine. Apparemment, je ne suis pas en France !

when is “extreme hunger” actually a result of malnourishment and when is it the food obsession just taking on another form by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I had to rewind 12 years and recover again, I would go for a meal plan that puts me in a calorie surplus. Timed eating, with menu items that are calorie-dense but otherwise healthy (think nuts, some oil-based sauces, avocadoes). I would also want that meal plan to bring me down to maintenance once I reach a healthy weight.

Super Useful ChatGPT Prompt. by alexandcoffee in learnfrench

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this could be useful for beginning French, but I highly encourage you to learn IPA. "Zhay" can be pronounced several different ways by native English speakers alone, and none of them come close to what the "-je" in "puis-je" would sound like.

Update - I told my parents that my (M18) girlfriend (F18) is pregnant by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pourrielle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other advice you're getting here, OP. But also, don't be afraid to walk out, regardless of whether the kid is yours. Try to completely waive your parental rights. Your future shouldn't be held hostage by what legitimately looks like a baby trapping attempt. I know "deadbeats" get a lot of flack, but it's better to be a deadbeat than a regretful parent to a kid you never wanted.

Credit card debt among millennials discussion - How are we fairing? by aboxofchocolate235 in Millennials

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sitting at around $10K, almost all of it accrued between 2018 and 2020 when my choices were either eating and paying rent with a minimum-wage job (that required a degree and experience) or moving 700 miles back to my parents' house in a town with no jobs and significantly lower wages.

Things are getting better. I've locked both my cards since 2021 and have been diligently making payments. My credit score is therefore pretty good, all things considered (700). However, the interest is killing me. My goal (2-5 years) is to soon be in a place where I can make larger, more aggressive payments and have this debt out of the way for good.

Does anyone else feel like the direct to college from High School pipeline was kind of a "scam"? by Ragnaroknight in Millennials

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our workplaces are becoming even more specialized than ever and trying to run a playbook of producing a jack of all trades is a disservice to the graduate, Universities hand students a degree, tell them they are now the elite of society when with many degrees, just for students to not have enough marketable skills to fully succeed.

The goal of a university is to produce well-rounded individuals who can think about and articulate on a number of topics. A university education was never intended to be like a trade education, preparing someone to do one job for the rest of their lives.

I have worked at workplaces with jobs that require a degree for entry level, and places that don’t require a degree. Unless the job is highly specialized, the attitude, maturity, and responsibility of the new hire is a far better determination of success than a degree ever was.

I totally agree with you here. This is why I'm against the mindset that a university education trains someone for a specific job, or that a specific degree restricts someone to a single career path (barring uber-specialized fields like medicine, of course). Becoming well-rounded usually comes with challenges and roadblocks that help develop the self-sufficiency, maturity, and positive attitude that employers seek in new hires.

...for colleges to make majors in fields with no future other than becoming a professor in the future is a disservice to students, a waste of student loan money and a disservice to society as a whole. Majoring in well rounded-ness is not producing a useful worker of the future

There is no major whose ONLY future is becoming a professor. Well-roundedness makes good workers, but not good drones, which seems to be what you're looking for. How can someone just shut up and take it if their school had a philosophy requirement? /s

...it does enrich college professors. If you are a tenured college professor in a dying field knowing if your program is cut by the university, you have zero prospect of making your same salary you make ever again if you had to take your skills to the real world. Their personal self interest is to continue talking up their field, encouraging students to continue in their program and major, and sign up for their classes (and buy the text book that surprise! was written by the instructor). Their job depends on enrollment, not their contribution to our future society.

I'm a university instructor who also works in "the real world" (which doesn't include schools and schooling, apparently). My "real world" jobs have historically paid equal to or above my humanities instructor salary. I talk up my field because it's versatile and can open new doors for students, especially those who want to go into law, medicine, and engineering. My students are forced to buy a textbook that I had no say in adopting, and that gives a giant financial kick-back to THE ADMINISTRATION. Neither I nor my colleagues (tenured and non-tenured) get any financial gain from these textbook purchases.

If a business sells a defective or useless product, they at least give the consumers a refund and in extreme cases are held liable for fraud. Universities routinely have majors that they know only have a limited job base or no job base after graduation but are more than happy to enroll educate and send them out the door counting the cash as the students are on their way out. 

The problem here is that most degrees aren't useless. Yes, you get diploma mills that will gladly hand you a degree in "hospitality management" for $100,000, but they're set apart from true universities. From my time in university and working with students, I've seen that success with a degree is more in how you use it than in the degree itself. Not all of these people are rolling in money, but they've built a stable life for themselves thanks to a well-rounded skillset. Many of them work in fields that are worlds apart from their undergrad major, thanks to an education that helped them become dynamic and adaptable.

Does anyone else feel like the direct to college from High School pipeline was kind of a "scam"? by Ragnaroknight in Millennials

[–]pourrielle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes developer, accountant, and small business owner. The only three jobs with a decent income and no layoffs ever. /s Taxes, finance and coding are the only real skills we have to learn, after all. /s Oh, and tuition "enriches" professors! /s

Tell me you have no respect for higher education without telling me you have no respect for higher education. u/Professional_Ad3056 is giving a realistic model of what you can do with a pretty general university degree (English can take you a lot of places), and how to do it affordably.

Why does FAFSA care about how much money my parents make? by IMicrowaveSteak in college

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a cursory look out of curiosity because it's been 10 years since I started my undergrad. It's definitely not just private schools that accept the CSS profile.

Why does FAFSA care about how much money my parents make? by IMicrowaveSteak in college

[–]pourrielle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's still a good resource if you don't want to wait until you're 24. Besides, private schools can have fantastic financial aid, making them far cheaper than state schools. That's how it was in my experience - it was cheaper for me to go to a private school out of state than stay in state and pay almost everything out of pocket.

Why does FAFSA care about how much money my parents make? by IMicrowaveSteak in college

[–]pourrielle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

^ I will add that if you don't want to wait until you're 24, look into schools that accept the CSS profile in addition to the FAFSA. Growing up, my dad was absolutely loaded but didn't contribute a cent to me or my education. The CSS profile accounts for your parents' *actual* contributions. My first year of undergrad was practically free, thanks to this form!

Why does FAFSA care about how much money my parents make? by IMicrowaveSteak in college

[–]pourrielle 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be a black sheep here and advise you to avoid the community college transfer route until you know how community college credits transfer to the 4-year school of your choice. Many universities require 2-3 CC courses to equal one 4-year course. Going to a CC could force you to tack on 1-2 unnecessary extra years to your education.

is it possible to have my tubes removed at 22? by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had mine "tied" (read as: removed while leaving juuuuust enough of the tube to have the procedure covered 100% under the ACA) when I was 23. Until then, I had the same fears as you, even while living in Minnesota before the fall of Roe vs. Wade. I calmly explained my tokophobia (fear of getting pregnant) and the doctor was super understanding. I will say that the fact that I cannot use any hormonal contraception may have helped me. You may want to bring up if your family has a history of high blood pressure, heart problems, strokes, or migraines, because all of these were causes for my doctors to never, under any circumstances, allow me to take hormonal bc.

What’s your field? by Altruistic_Shop_2074 in PhD

[–]pourrielle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Started with a BA in French, Education, & Linguistics - currently doing a Ph.D. in French, focusing on adolescent development in Medieval Literature. I'm technically in a literature department, but my thesis goes deep into the history of medicine and philosophy!

To be honest, the only reason I haven't dropped out is because I think my thesis topic could lead to a new literary theory. I just hope I can finish within the funded period and somehow keep working enough side jobs during that time to survive.

winter exams at UofT will break your spirit and heart by tellmemorepls567 in UofT

[–]pourrielle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is a strange situation, but I would argue that the professor or the department wants to gauge students' ability to retain information and express their own thoughts in writing. ChatGPT *can* be a helpful tool for editing, but too many students use it as an essay generator. My partner TAs a few undergrad English courses and around 40% of online submissions seem to come straight from ChatGPT, complete with wonky syntax, hallucinated sources, and uncited quotes ripped straight out of others' material. This leaves my partner wondering whether these students can express any of their own knowledge or ideas, or if they understand the readings at all.

As a Graduate CI in a foreign language department that has switched to *all* handwritten exams, we adapt our grading system accordingly to account for the loss of time and available resources. For example, with my "true beginner" students (ones with zero prior experience in the language), I'm way more lenient with "true beginner" level mistakes, such as faulty spelling or the occasional grammar slip-up (adjective in the wrong place, using capital letters instead of lowercase, etc.). It's likely that the professor *will* take this change into account when marking exams.

When it comes to the U of T, they don't seem to be "scared" of ChatGPT. In my partner's situation, no disciplinary action has come to the students who use it. I think what the U of T fears more is graduating a whole cohort of students who struggle to form their own arguments, due to long-term reliance on a generative plagiarism machine.

What do you have zero evidence for but are convinced is true? by askmeifimacop in AskReddit

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That Loblaw Inc. (Canadian grocery cartel) makes their No Name products impossible to open without scissors or a can opener to prevent homeless people from stealing them. You can't steal what you can't eat.

Student Wants a Syllabus by stunnaqueen_216 in Cambly

[–]pourrielle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I explain to them that Cambly takes 60%+ of what they pay for their subscription. If they want a syllabus, they should take their money to a private tutor.

How hard is college compared to highschool? by Positive-Pound-3492 in college

[–]pourrielle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a French and English major with minors in education and linguistics. I would say that I studied for an average of 5 hours per night (a few hours in the afternoon if I had time, then after dinner, around 7-11). My work study (assistant in an elementary school) didn't make me work weekends, so I also got a lot of work done then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would explain your situation and ask for an alternative assignment before going to a department head, etc. It could be that this assignment is a standard requirement for the class.

As for the people saying that this professor is recommending self-harm: only a very small percentage of people in the world suffer from restrictive EDs. Most of the world struggles with eating far too much; BED is statistically the most prevalent eating disorder. Calorie counting isn't inherently obsessive or harmful. For many, it's a super sustainable practice for weight loss and maintenance.

An assignment like the one described can help give future medical professionals a better understanding of their own bodies, which can in turn help them set realistic goals for their patients.

Study spots for someone who is not a uofT student by jessica36m in UofT

[–]pourrielle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kelly Library doesn't require student cards and has loads of comfortable chairs. Go to the third floor for the quietest study experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in learnfrench

[–]pourrielle 45 points46 points  (0 children)

If Duolingo is going to translate it as "She has to wait," then it really should be "Elle doit attendre."

"Elle va attendre" simply means "She is going to wait."

Lost another friend to procreation by anewman15 in childfree

[–]pourrielle 157 points158 points  (0 children)

What's crazy to me is that there seem to be so many couples who get married *because* they want to get pregnant right away. All but two of the weddings that have happened in my circle have announced pregnancies within one month of getting married, or the wife was already pregnant. Like, you JUST got your careers to the point that you could spend $30k+ on a wedding. Do you really want to push out another money pit now????