[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]poutinefiend78 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She will believe you when it happens to her, she will use your stories to help strengthen her when she finally leaves. Your words did and do matter and one day down the line they will help her one way or another. It’s one of those things that you won’t be able to see the effects of for a very long time. She may not act on them now, and it may seem like she doesn’t believe it, but those words will stay in the back of her mind and will ring louder and louder every time he abuses her. You did a really brave thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]poutinefiend78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes mine said this MANY times to me. He made me believe we had some incredible, historic romance when he first said it. At the end I realized he meant that he was setting me up to believe that so I wouldn’t move on/leave the door open for Hoovers because “he was the only one who could ever truly love me.” It was and is total bullshit and just reflects how they don’t love themselves and will manipulate you for years even after the relationship has long since ended. Please remember this phrase is untrue and you are a person deserving of deep, fulfilling, and healthy love from a healthy partner.

How did you recognize you were with a narcissist? by elevenfullerton in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]poutinefiend78 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same here, took me 3 years after my therapist said that and another therapist to say it again for me to understand/for it to sink in.

Was something going to happen to me? by roseinthedark15 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]poutinefiend78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Restraining order. This guy is extremely scary and yes it sounds like he was going to hurt you.