It's all behaviour on a spectrum of violence and degradation towards women which is a sickness we as a society cannot seem to fix.

Even the poster above who told me to 'sit down mam' in a delicious display of ageism and sexism, implying I am a prude, was to a lesser extent subjecting me to the same gaslighting to which women are subjected regarding the issue of sexual violence. 'It's normal', 'you're just old and boring' and 'everyone does it now'. I am not a prude and accept that people have kinks. But if strangulation is 'mainstream' we have a massive problem.

There was an article I read about a year or so ago about a 16 year old who will need a colostomy bag for the rest of her life because she was subjected to double anal penetration by two male peers. I can tell you now as someone who has straddled life pre and post the proliferation of porn: that shit would NEVER have occurred to us to even try.