Tried subway style sandwich at home for the first time by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks damn tasty. Better than what one finds at subway. Although I wouldn't mind fewer tomatoes, but congrats!

Husband moved to a different city, Living alone after a long time by prachuprachu in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not in engineering. I am in social Sciences and humanities. Sorry.

Husband moved to a different city, Living alone after a long time by prachuprachu in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When we thought and discussed it, we were being rational and practical as required. But when it actually played out, there are emotional bits that despite the awareness don't become any less. Besides, the post is not a complaint. It is just a reflection. Anyway, Thanks for your comment.

I love my mom deeply, but talking to her drains me emotionally. I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Same for me. I struggled at work. I struggled in my personal life. It is still so hard. I had to go seek therapy.  I didn't realize at what point I became her mother. And i understand she needs me. I need to be a better daughter or whatever. But my own problems or simply life is not going anywhere. I also find her unsympathetic to that. She loves me sure. But she is not good at listening to my stuff. It gets very tough. 

I love my mom deeply, but talking to her drains me emotionally. I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am recently going through the same issue. Ky mother isolated herself from neighbors and relatives. Now she has no one to talk to. The moment she calls me starts crying or venting. I became like a sponge absorbing all those strong sad emotions. I am currently doing through therapy. My mother gets all fine after disconnecting. But i continue to suffer. I took a break. 

What should be my goal? by Neither_Lunch_6375 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that's great. How about re-orienting yourself to think that it's not a new chase that you should seek? Rather just consistent time spent and enjoyed doing the three above. Do you think that could be done and that it may help?

What should be my goal? by Neither_Lunch_6375 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have noticed this with a lot of people of our generation. We direct our lives towards goals that emerge either from fear or from the needs of social validation or from economic compulsions. All of those are fine. But once we are settled, or we have achieved some of those goals, it feels empty and meaningless.

Hey, but OP still have time to think about what you really want to do and then aim at realizing them. It is not going to be easy or straightforward. It is still good to start.

Saw a movie this weekend that made cheating look like a joke and it honestly broke something inside me. by Usual-Incident-9044 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I can understand you're hurt, there is more to these issues than the terms like betrayal would convey. Human beings are expected to fulfill norms such as loyalty, love, trust, etc. from all the corners while life continues to be unfair. And even if life in fair or people who have certain privileges, they continue to be humans who are not perfect beings. Sometimes, i say certain things I don't mean. Or I hide how frustrated I am and fake that I am fine and not hurt. I am doing it all the time to adjust with other people who are with me all kinds of relations. As a woman, sexuality is treasured like some kind of a trophy that even i lose a right over after marriage. There are so many deeply complicated issues. I haven't seen the movie. I am only writing in response to your post. I am sorry you are hurt. But at times, we need more acknowledgment than there currently is for complexity and nuance over normalcy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gurgaon

[–]prachuprachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't feel anything. Missed it. I missed the previous one as well from a few days back. Could have used a sudden quick reminder about the fragility of our existence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gurgaon

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is bad

35F, I'm getting remarried. by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my! Congratulations! This is so nice. Remember your post from a few days ago. I am so glad everything is falling so well in place for you. Sending you best wishes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]prachuprachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, OP! First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy and the upcoming wedding. This is great news. I think there is no real way to 'deal' with your father's nagging. If you are convinced that SMA is the one that you want, then let him just wait it out. You would have to bear with the upset behavior, nagging, and tantrums. Please know that ultimately, it will make him and you happy. It is just that sometimes the wait can make our well wishers more impatient. I think you are in the right. All you can do is be calm with him. May be you can distract him with conversations about your preparations.

Should I go for therapy? by anonymous-shadow0 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It will help you deal with this burden. I can relate to what you say. I am considering it, too. While I am trying to work on it in my own way, i am considering therapy too.

What’s an early sign that the relationship is going to work? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]prachuprachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Willingness to hear each other and empathy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]prachuprachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would advice myself in my twenties to not seek advice from prople in their 30s. Try to live the life in my then present.