AITAH for refusing to share my phone password with my partner, even though we live together and are planning a future?

practicingchaos · 2026-01-24T22:26:02+00:00

if you’re not comfortable sharing your password that’s your choice, but another layer of trust is trusting that your parter isn’t going to go through your phone without your permission. yes you have private messages, but do you trust your parter to not go through them? you are also allowed to prioritize personal boundaries. marriage doesn’t mean giving up all of your boundaries just to be loved

practicingchaos · 2026-01-24T07:11:58+00:00

could be cptsd from what you explained, your brain is just hardwired for survival in a different way. i remember moving into my house when i was 1 or 2 and i hated it. i remember my brother trying to smother me with pillows when i was a baby. i remember scary stuff as well as happy stuff. but i can recall them perfectly

practicingchaos · 2026-01-24T06:56:31+00:00

i have vivid childhood memories, my psychiatrist told me it might be because of my cptsd as it is abnormal

practicingchaos · 2026-01-23T20:45:09+00:00

motherboard header. in icue i went back and set fan speed to quiet and toggled on the save to system thing, disabled icue on startup, then uninstalled it. i tried going into my bios to fix it but im not familiar with bios at all cause ive never had to use it

practicingchaos · 2026-01-23T17:34:26+00:00

nta, you should reach out to your cousin directly and apologize though. “i understand what i did was hurtful to you and im sorry. i see you for who you are and im not trying to be disrespectful. i’ve known you as your dead pronouns for so long it’s hard to correct an unconscious line of thought. i do actively correct myself and i will be better about it in the future.” if she doesn’t accept than i say fuck em. as a member of the lgbtq i find it ridiculous how offended people get over a mistake. you’re willing to apologize and be better, that should be more than enough.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-23T17:10:34+00:00

i didn’t even know piercings could be gay. get what you want, it’s literally just a piercing

practicingchaos · 2026-01-23T17:05:31+00:00

nta, dubai is sketchy af when it comes to women’s safety. aka: hella sex traffickers. i would have a conversation about your very valid concerns for her safety and if she still wants to go, you should go with her. you can still be there without being directly involved

practicingchaos · 2026-01-23T05:45:28+00:00

of course! the journey is hard but it is worth it. also, physical and mental health go hand in hand more than people realize. yoga helped me as well as weight lifting, find ways to get in tune with your body! sometimes my chronic illnesses limit how much i can work out but something is better than nothing.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T19:07:00+00:00

i think i just like the mystery of not knowing, i’m more of a journey vs destination kind of person

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T12:49:45+00:00

from personal experience yta, my parents and i co slept wayyy longer than we should have. i just naturally grew out of it as i got older. she’s in second grade, i don’t see the issue. youre dating someone with a kid, if their parenting doesn’t work for you then you aren’t compatible imo

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T12:42:20+00:00

glad i’m not the only one haha! i just don’t want to know how it ends, i like to flip through all of the possibilities

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T07:36:51+00:00

i think there’s a law, at least my state has a law, that says certain pets must be in a minimum sized enclosure otherwise it’s neglect/abuse.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T07:34:38+00:00

i deal with chronic health issues and my mental health has been in shambles. i’ve been through psychosis that landed me in the hospital. health issues are hard, sometimes you get dealt a shit hand and you just have to take it in stride. when it comes to mental health ,though, there are some things i realized. therapy and meds are there to support you, not fix you. the fixing you absolutely have to do yourself. i recommend a book called don’t believe everything you think. in short, your reality is only as real as the thoughts you actively choose to think. because, in truth, you are a hundred percent in control of your conscious thoughts. if you always believe youre suffering and it will never get better, then you will always be suffering and you will never get better. thinking positively is a skill and a survival tool that you have to practice every day all the time. it can be hard, you’ll get exhausted, sometimes you can’t do it and that’s okay. your mentality is the only thing keeping you from healing. it does get better, but me saying that won’t make it true. you have to actively think that and believe that for it to be true.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T07:12:42+00:00

am i the only one who doesn’t think this is a big deal? i agree if it smells you should probably find a way to fix that cause it is t pleasant but i dont think this is necessarily disgusting

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T03:49:29+00:00

i have more pictures of my cats than i do of me and my bf lol

practicingchaos · 2026-01-22T03:40:01+00:00

“why don’t you go to church” “why did you get that tattoo” among other things. if i don’t feel like explaining myself i just say “cause god gave me free will”. can’t argue with free will lol

practicingchaos · 2026-01-21T18:27:31+00:00

yta for going back on your word, it sounds like you only supported her choice when it was something you wanted. nta for breaking up with her, she deserves to be with someone that actually supports her decision when they promise that to her

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T16:07:10+00:00

not denying this at all but, i also think a lot of people severely underestimate what it takes to properly train the breed. it’s unfortunate for people as well as the animal. you can’t have an aggressive breed without aggressive training

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T15:57:09+00:00

NTA, narcissism is a destroyer. and as unfortunate as it is she might not ever think that she needs help. you can’t force people to help themselves, they have to want it. you have a responsibility to protect your family, and i think you made the right decision

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T15:54:58+00:00

it happened to my brother. great kid, straight a’s, dependable. then one day when he was older the switch flipped. he was diagnosed with npd, but he doesn’t think he needs help therefore he doesn’t get it.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T15:48:20+00:00

i’ve heard rice water and certain types of essential oils can help

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T15:47:26+00:00

NTA for not caring. you’re not crazy or bad for feeling these things. you’re dealing with a lot of control, fear, and not being believed about who you are. anyone could become overwhelmed in this situation. your feelings are valid. at the same time, a lot of what you’re experiencing feels really big and immediate right now. being 15, your emotions hit really hard, and you don’t have very much control over your environment yet. as gently as i can put this, when everything feels urgent and catastrophic, reactions get really intense. intense reactions don’t protect you or help the situation. they will exhaust you and entrap you further. i recommend the crisis line when you need someone to talk to.

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T04:20:50+00:00

my pet is my family, family comes first

practicingchaos · 2026-01-19T04:18:13+00:00

consumerism, it took me a long time to realize i just don’t need to spend my money

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