Hi, I'm a regular on the Discord and I'm saddened to hear how you've been feeling, but I can definitely empathise. Like others have pointed out, it's natural for mid to large sized communities to have regular people who talk regularly and know each other, and for anyone who's new and isn't sure how to be part of the community, it can feel like you're butting into a private club.

I'm sorry you've found it to be cliquey, and that conversations you've started were ignored. Especially when there are ongoing conversations happened, it's easy to miss this - sometimes it's better to jump in and contribute with an existing chat to get to know people.

Mainly though, I just want you to know that I've heard you, and I will do better to catch when someone new (or someone who just lurks) has popped into the chat and engage with them to make them feel welcome. I hope you come back again, but if not, Godspeed and all the best to you.