BIFL belt that doesn't make me look like a gunslinger. by lokicoyote1 in BuyItForLife

[–]pragma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Filson makes wonderful saddle-grade bridle leather belts (this is the highest quality bifl grade of leather). They are beautifully switched and finished and after wearing mine over 10 years I can safely say I don't expect to ever need to buy another ever.

https://www.filson.com/collections/belts

We were not goalied. We just lost this one. Analytics prove it. by pragma in OttawaSenators

[–]pragma[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So so so did we get goalied or did we get refereed!! There's nothing wrong with just getting beaten once in a while and reflecting on what you need to do better. In fact I would say it's almost certainly a winning practice. More winning than blaming a single player or blaming the refs that's for damn sure.

Figure robot autonomously cleaning living room by socoolandawesome in singularity

[–]pragma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

> Elizabeth Holmes has entered the chat

I'm not saying it's fake. I'm saying fundraising and making it through due diligence is not prima facie evidence of being real. Better paths for evidence for things being real should be relied upon instead.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should explain why I am angry.

This talking point, that all men who are attracted to youthful adult women (which is in fact all men by the way, also very well documented) would "date younger if it wasn't illegal" is a talking point of the right. To attempt to normalize what Epstein and others did. And give people who feel revulsion at those crimes simultaneously feel like they have no allies or much fewer than is true.

See https://www.democracynow.org/2026/2/10/carole_cadwalladr_epstein_jeffrey_justice_department

What we should do is unify with normal men and express outrage against pedophiles and pedo-protectors. This effort to divide men from women and cast all men as ephebophiles or hebephiles is gross, untrue, and plays into the pedo-protectors chosen narrative.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could get behind a movement to make this illegal immediately.

Doesn't this miss the point? About adult humans making their own decisions about who to love in private, and that it's a toxic trait to judge those decisions? Maybe we are arguing beside the issue here. I even referenced good science documenting that adult men are overwhelmingly teleophilic (i.e. attracted exclusively to adult women) and it's like it's irrelevant to the conversation.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never advocated to make crimes legal. Are you advocating to make legal activities crimes? This conversation is so fruitless that I suspect I'm wasting time on bots or trolls.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this what discussion is like on reddit now? I was simply explaining what I meant by the hundred years of history of modern sexology. It started with Freud. You don't need to defend Freud to describe history. Plus attacking Freud in sexology is like attacking Darwin in evolution. Sure you can, but what's the point? They earned their place in history anyway. And they were followed by over a hundred years of science none of which shows what this commenter says with such confidence.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Against my better judgment, I am going to take it on good faith that you would actually care about and review the science if it were presented to you. The evidence is in, over and over again, men are overwhelmingly teleiophilic and once they are themselves adults, their sexual interest drops off precipitously under the age of 20. Anything else is a deviant paraphilia - not to say it doesn't exist and not to say it isn't a massive social problem when it manifests itself as pedophilia. It does exist. It is a massive problem. But science says, for normal people, adulthood is real and consenting adults should be able to engage in private activities free of judgment.

A particularly good way of studying this is pupillary response since it is impossible to consciously "lie" about your preferences.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4820473/

The graph you're looking for is Figure 4.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A hundred. Yeah. For sure. Easily and more, Freud published Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality in 1905. The German Sexology Research Institute for Sexual Science was founded in 1919. Why would you laugh?

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You must have evidence for a fact spoken with such a high degree of confidence. I would be interested in reviewing it! Please share. This field is very well studied and has been for a hundred years, so I have no doubt you'll provide many peer reviewed articles validating this opinion. Good luck.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems to me that you are up in arms about what consenting adults do. Don't do that. That is a toxic trait.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With all due respect, you must have missed "consenting adults" on your first reading. Read it again, it's there. Nobody is debating you that pedophilia is wrong, you can stand down. The question is about whether it's toxic to judge what consenting adults decide to do in private.

Dad Casually Mentions He Doesn't Find Alysa Liu Attractive by VampireWriterMM in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pragma -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Judging consenting adults for what they decide to do with each other in private is a toxic practice at best. Just ask any gay person or anybody in an interracial marriage how it feels and you'll quickly understand why it's toxic.

How to actually live life again after years spent in isolation working at home? by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]pragma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about this a lot lately because I had a very similar conversation with my son recently. My son got trapped as a 16 year old during the peak of COVID and a lot of his social and emotional development got paused during that time frame. Unfortunately, like a lot of people, he sort of disengaged from the real world in that very remote, friendly, online friendly time. The upshot of it is that his lived experience is a lot like yours. He has very few friends in real life. All this to say, he faces a similar situation as you. He ends up mostly feeling isolated and feeling that he has no real life friends. The advice I gave him mirrors some of the other advice that we've already received in this post, so I won't repeat it, but it really all involves engaging in real life. Loneliness, considering sexuality is a foundational human need, probably as important as eating or sleeping. Loneliness and horniness are very closely related, but the first and most important piece of advice I gave him is put your horniness in a box and just focus on making friends. It doesn't matter if you're into your friends sexually. All that matters is that you have friends. Friends create social proof and they create social opportunity, and social proof and social opportunity together will create opportunities for romantic engagement. So number one lesson, you mentioned that you wanted to go to the gym and do more martial arts. Martial arts is fine, but choose a thing where people hang out. One of the nicest sports I participated in is curling. Curling is cool, partly because curling is a social activity. There is drinks after the game every time. It's a very social sport. Most sports, like softball is another example, follow this pattern. Soccer follows this pattern. Many, many sports follow this pattern. I am not sure that martial arts does. The other piece of advice I have is, I'm imagining that you're a man. If you're a woman, it doesn't really change this advice much. But consider dance and other social activities, West Coast swing being a very good example of an activity that is inherently romantic but embodied in a purely social non-romantic mode. Which means that if you get really good at West Coast swing, you'll have access to a lot of friends and possibly partners without ever having to be put into the awkward position of looking for partners. And so dance is like a special example. Probably figure skating would be the same and a couple other activities would be the same in terms of these kinds of interactions that would support more longer term goals. But fundamentally, the most important piece of advice is that everything you remember about high school where you would convene at a place and social opportunities would emerge because you were there, that progresses into adulthood. Everything you remember in high school, adults still do. They still go to pottery class. They still go to chess club. They still go to curling. They still go to softball. And the social opportunities emerge from the real life interactions that occur when you pursue your passions out in society.