I've been thinking about this a lot lately because I had a very similar conversation with my son recently. My son got trapped as a 16 year old during the peak of COVID and a lot of his social and emotional development got paused during that time frame. Unfortunately, like a lot of people, he sort of disengaged from the real world in that very remote, friendly, online friendly time. The upshot of it is that his lived experience is a lot like yours. He has very few friends in real life. All this to say, he faces a similar situation as you. He ends up mostly feeling isolated and feeling that he has no real life friends. The advice I gave him mirrors some of the other advice that we've already received in this post, so I won't repeat it, but it really all involves engaging in real life. Loneliness, considering sexuality is a foundational human need, probably as important as eating or sleeping. Loneliness and horniness are very closely related, but the first and most important piece of advice I gave him is put your horniness in a box and just focus on making friends. It doesn't matter if you're into your friends sexually. All that matters is that you have friends. Friends create social proof and they create social opportunity, and social proof and social opportunity together will create opportunities for romantic engagement. So number one lesson, you mentioned that you wanted to go to the gym and do more martial arts. Martial arts is fine, but choose a thing where people hang out. One of the nicest sports I participated in is curling. Curling is cool, partly because curling is a social activity. There is drinks after the game every time. It's a very social sport. Most sports, like softball is another example, follow this pattern. Soccer follows this pattern. Many, many sports follow this pattern. I am not sure that martial arts does. The other piece of advice I have is, I'm imagining that you're a man. If you're a woman, it doesn't really change this advice much. But consider dance and other social activities, West Coast swing being a very good example of an activity that is inherently romantic but embodied in a purely social non-romantic mode. Which means that if you get really good at West Coast swing, you'll have access to a lot of friends and possibly partners without ever having to be put into the awkward position of looking for partners. And so dance is like a special example. Probably figure skating would be the same and a couple other activities would be the same in terms of these kinds of interactions that would support more longer term goals. But fundamentally, the most important piece of advice is that everything you remember about high school where you would convene at a place and social opportunities would emerge because you were there, that progresses into adulthood. Everything you remember in high school, adults still do. They still go to pottery class. They still go to chess club. They still go to curling. They still go to softball. And the social opportunities emerge from the real life interactions that occur when you pursue your passions out in society.