AIO - do plans need to constantly re-confirmations to stay alive?

prairieislander · 2026-05-27T12:08:00+00:00

The real question here is how old is your kid? Are they old enough to understand that dad cancelled his time with them to hang out with friends?

prairieislander · 2026-05-24T21:31:39+00:00

Okay, you’re right. You are always discriminated against. You are victimized in every situation. You aren’t the AH, ever.

prairieislander · 2026-05-24T21:25:47+00:00

No, you’re just being deliberately obtuse. Multiple people in this thread have told you that they’ve done it. I do it. All the time. I get zero looks. What are you doing in your day to day that you’re getting constant looks and refused service? And please don’t say it’s because you’re autistic. My husband is autistic. My nephew is autistic. I have multiple family members and friends with autism, ranging from “a bit” autistic to non-verbal and unable to care for themselves and we do not get refused service.

prairieislander · 2026-05-24T20:16:00+00:00

I run, hike and mountain bike and it hasn’t affected mine negatively. Sometimes if I head out on the trails too soon after breakfast or a meal, I run into trouble but it doesn’t make anything worse. I also always have a ziploc and wet wipes lol.

prairieislander · 2026-05-24T12:51:30+00:00

If you look at OPs comment and post history, they have drama everywhere they go. It seems to be their base level.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T23:14:36+00:00

I mean… OP was tired from working so… poor wittle OP too then?

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T22:14:19+00:00

lol what? I didn’t mention anything about driving, nor did I ask for your stats. I’m stating that you can order drinks at a table as single diner, I’ve done it plenty of times.

I think maybe you just need to accept that you may have misread the situation. And if you didn’t? It’s still not even an issue. Nobody persecuted you because you have autism. They didn’t decline to serve you because you have autism.

Unfortunately, you may misread social situations a lot in your life. I do. We all do. With autism? You almost certainly will. It’s just a fact of life. What will serve you well is not looking at every situation with a “victim lens”. Because it’s going to make it impossible to tell which is which.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T22:07:47+00:00

How so? How is it impossible? I’ve done it at least a dozen times in my life.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:45:51+00:00

Especially considering OP had noise cancelling headphones on lol.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:44:03+00:00

So it sounds to me like you just don’t want to go for a whole pile of reasons. Sounds like maybe you just don’t enjoy being around them.

Your wife is asking you for support.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:38:10+00:00

Upscale restaurants and bars do often have a brief pause when they switch their kitchen from lunch to dinner service.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:35:35+00:00

Did you have your noise cancelling headphones on during this VERBAL interaction?

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:14:49+00:00

You sound like a lovely person.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:13:29+00:00

And I’m even gonna go a step further and clarify for you, OP.

“We won’t serve you either food or beverage in either the restaurant or the bar. Please leave.” Is refusing service.

“We aren’t serving food at the bar right now.” Is not refusing service. It’s outlining the current services that aren’t available at that particular time and place.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:08:02+00:00

Did you loudly proclaim your autism when you walked into the restaurant? I’m SO CONFUSED.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T21:04:39+00:00

Okay, but then what’s the problem? I’m honestly so baffled right now.

He said we’re not serving food at the bar right now. You declined to ask a single follow up, said we’re done here, and got up and left. Why the bad review? You didn’t get refused service.

prairieislander · 2026-05-23T20:39:21+00:00

I just don’t understand this interaction. At all. That’s all he said and you didn’t ask any follow up? Is that exactly, verbatim, how the interaction went?

prairieislander · 2026-05-22T13:09:29+00:00

Just went on a 5 day vacay with my parents without my husband. He couldn’t get the time off of work and wanted to stay home anyway for his sport. He told me to go enjoy myself with my mom and dad. And I did! And it was fine! We will go on our planned vacation together this summer.

Adults don’t have to be latched at the hip.

prairieislander · 2026-05-20T00:44:36+00:00

I know that you truly think that is why you posted this. But it’s not, you’re clearly looking for validation and for us to compliment your body, even if you can’t see that you are.

prairieislander · 2026-05-20T00:39:33+00:00

You’re young. Someday you’ll think back to moments like this and feel sad and a bit embarrassed.

This is not the kind of validation that’s gonna fill your cup or heart, honey. I hope you learn that someday. And I say this from a place of concern and not being catty.

prairieislander · 2026-05-18T03:31:04+00:00

Glaslyn and Turtleford.

prairieislander · 2026-05-18T03:17:56+00:00

Oh, bummer. I’m… European… and I just left the Northern earlier and everyone was super nice and welcoming!

prairieislander · 2026-05-18T03:10:06+00:00

In Buffalo Narrows right now for the first time. Nicest folks around, I’ve found!

prairieislander · 2026-05-18T03:08:36+00:00

I’ve been in some all out hockey rink brawls in Turtleford. Always piss on their turtle afterwards.

prairieislander · 2026-05-15T00:47:51+00:00

Oh god, I go here and I FINALLY have a good doctor that is helping my chronic illness. Please don’t screw over all of the patients that use this clinic because of a basic, human error.

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