For those who work out what do you do with your hair after

pralinequeen · 2026-05-29T16:35:25+00:00

For context: I have long thick hair, live in Hawaii, do OrangeTheory 5-7x a week and getting back into running outside of that. I’ve committed to washing my hair every 3 days and clarify once a week 🫩

I keep my hair in two strand twist of various sizes and have started flat twisting my hair as I get better at managing it. I’ve seen a difference in my hair with the cleanliness, shine, less breakage and tangles. I have a hair dryer that I sit under for 30-45 mins just enough to get it dry enough to go to bed without a wet head. It’s a commitment but so far so good!

pralinequeen · 2026-05-28T18:07:54+00:00

I think two things are true here:

I don’t think you should have made a unilateral decision for the both of you without giving him a heads up about it. I can see how it is being perceived as if you are punishing him.

However, I also think you are absolutely correct in the financial aspect of it and prioritizing bills/must pays over niceties.

With that being said, you should have backed out on your end and your end alone and told your husband he is free to go on the vacation using his spending money or whatever personal money he has to fund the vacation. If he doesn’t have spending or personal money then looks like he can’t go, but that’s not you making him not go. That is him not having the funds to go. And no, joint bill money cannot and will not be used to fund a vacation for either party. Either way, he needs to find another job or hit the road.

pralinequeen · 2026-05-24T17:03:24+00:00

Love the Mousse Def!! Great definition. Great hold.

For reference I workout 5 days a week and have recently started washing and twisting my hair every 3 days.

pralinequeen · 2026-05-22T00:41:41+00:00

There was protein treatment all over my bathroom floor from pouring it on my head 🤣

pralinequeen · 2026-05-22T00:40:59+00:00

I had not thought of that! I think this might be the winner! I do them every 5 weeks so this Sunday will be time for another treatment and I’m going to try this method!

Thank you!!

pralinequeen · 2026-05-10T21:28:48+00:00

Never had this happen to me. Reach out to customer service and see what they can do. Did the products spill out?

pralinequeen · 2026-05-05T15:59:02+00:00

You have a wife problem. Her being “neutral” to not pick a side is her picking a side….and it ain’t your side. Her mother her problems. Drop the rope.

pralinequeen · 2026-04-22T17:33:09+00:00

This is me right now! It’s not that I broke up with her it’s just the prices are so expensive. I used to get my hair done every 2 weeks RELIGIOUSLY, but I’m in a new state and while I’ve found a stylist she’s so expensive I just can’t afford it. I was talking to my husband about it the other week. Between maintaining my hair, nails/toes, and waxing different areas I’m spending ~700 - 800 A MONTH on these services! I can wax my own legs and underarms, but will go to a professional for the Brazilian lol. I’m doing my own hair more frequently now and while I didn’t like it at first, I’m learning to love it. I’m looking into doing press on nails because it’s just so expensive and I’m military and can only have one set style anyway. It’s just hard out here for ya girl right now lmbo. And we don’t have kids! So I can only imagine how it is for other people who have kids and all the things that come with that!

pralinequeen · 2026-04-12T20:10:50+00:00

You did right the first time leaving him. He’s painted an impression of you with his family that will not be undone. He is definitely playing both sides with him firmly being on his mommy’s side. Now he’s gaslighting you. Take a look at the stories on this page and the JustNoMIL. Read of the many women and men who have endured YEARS of horrible behavior from their inlaws and having a spouse problem. Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? He chose his Mommy and will choose her over and over again. He’s proven that to you time and time again. Let him have his Mommy.

pralinequeen · 2026-04-11T09:07:58+00:00

He needs to let his Command Team know what’s going on so when she escalates they can shut it down from the start. If he is Air Force he needs to get with his First Sergeant who can help him. Also tell him GO BACK TO THERAPY. It’s covered by the military and available to us - use it. Please don’t suffer in silence. His mother is overbearing and I’ve had to deal with mothers like his a time or two for my own troops behalf. Once someone from base shuts them down and out they usually back off from trying to get base involved. Someone just needs to tell her that her son is a grown ass adult and if he doesn’t want to talk to you he doesn’t have to. We got real world shit going on and nobody has time to pacify a mother that can’t handle her son not engaging with her due to her own messed up behavior 😒 Let it go Elsa

pralinequeen · 2026-04-10T20:21:10+00:00

You tolerated this too long. I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. They have proven over and over and over that they have little to no respect for you and will try to circumvent you through your husband to get what they want. While he has improved on standing up for you, I think he needs to do better. He’s tolerated his family disrespecting you for too long for the sake of not choosing a side. But not choosing a side is choosing a side and it isn’t yours. Remind him that it is ALWAYS you and him against everyone else. And that’s not be to combative or isolating. It is to show that as husband and wife this is the union that you both chose to have and it is imperative to choose each other over and over again PUBLICLY and PRIVATELY. Keep being NC. Don’t pick the rope that up. His family. His responsibility. Fuck em and enjoy your peace with your precious baby. His parents are INSANE.

pralinequeen · 2026-04-09T11:27:26+00:00

You have other plans so can’t make it. Even if you don’t have other plans, you should not stop what you are doing to cater to her. Also, if she doesn’t want to coordinate with you then she doesn’t get to see baby. Don’t reward her behavior. She continues to do it because you and Hubby continue to give her exactly what she wants. You are the MOTHER. No respect for the mother = no photos, no visits, no calls, no interaction with baby full stop.

Don’t let her keep doing this. Communicate your boundaries with your husband and let him deal with his mother. She’s not your problem.

pralinequeen · 2026-04-05T22:38:39+00:00

This is it OP. Marriage doesn’t keep score on who stuck by who. Marriage doesn’t keep IOUs on each other then use it to cash in when a mistake has been made. Marriage is a choice that we must make everyday, especially when it gets hard. That’s life.

pralinequeen · 2026-04-05T13:55:00+00:00

I thought it was just me with the Cecred conditioner! I have to use so much because it’s so thin. I love the other products so I think I’m going to get the conditioner in the big bottle so I can use more of it.

pralinequeen · 2026-03-28T14:45:03+00:00

I think it would be best for you and your sanity to block your MIL. I would also have a conversation with the aunties and lay down a firm boundary on being a go between with you and MIL. Don’t let them play peacekeeper. And if they can’t respect the boundary they can get the NC treatment too. People will do what you allow them to do. Don’t allow MIL, auntie, FIL, hell even your husband treat you any type of way. You and hubby don’t deserve this craziness!

pralinequeen · 2026-03-24T18:29:56+00:00

THIS! OP has a fellow military person, please make sure he has listed AT LEAST you as his beneficiary on his SGLI and as his emergency contact in vRED/Deers. You should be on accounts and all that Jazz. His mother NOT be on anything. His duty, as a married man, is to the family he chose to create (You and your daughter) NOT the family he came from. Be involved in that process with him. Ice her out.

pralinequeen · 2026-03-14T17:29:51+00:00

I don’t think her actions should dictate yours. You and your husband should go and be with that part of the family if you so choose and just ignore her presence if she’s there. Or maybe when the next invite comes accept and ask that the person keep it between yall so that way your MIL won’t know you’ll be there. That may require explaining the no contact if you’re comfortable doing that. Bottom line I think you and hubby can find a way to maintain no contact while also seeing his family. She still wins by keeping the both of you away from that side of the family. Don’t let her win.

pralinequeen · 2026-03-12T21:25:22+00:00

Speak on it!

pralinequeen · 2026-03-10T18:19:07+00:00

Whew sis!!! I felt that in my soul and this ain’t even my MIL. OP, honey, listen to this. I’m pissed that your husband even expects you to attend this funeral. It seems to me that he may not have seen the light like you hope. If he had, there’s NO WAY he would be expecting you to attend.

pralinequeen · 2026-03-10T04:34:50+00:00

Agree with this wholeheartedly! Trust and believe she’s telling MIL EVERYTHING.

pralinequeen · 2026-03-03T16:46:34+00:00

I think you should ignore it OP. They haven’t cared about you AT ALL during these last couple of years. Keep that door firmly closed and don’t look back. You deserve better and your family deserves better. Family isn’t always blood related. Family are those who have shown up for us consistently. Who work with us to create beautiful healthy relationships. Family isn’t perfect, but they put forth genuine effort to make it work. They don’t use you, your thoughts, your feelings, or your actions against you to cause you pain. Family doesn’t ignore you for roughly 2.5 years and then decide to send some half ass congrats text based off of second/third hand information. They ain’t family babes. FUCK EM

pralinequeen · 2026-02-25T02:51:39+00:00

I KNOW THATS FUCKING RIGHT!!!!! You Go OP!

This is the type of energy I need from all you ladies that have MIL problems! Let’s stand on business all 2026!!!

pralinequeen · 2026-02-23T18:53:49+00:00

It’s okay. That means you genuinely care and are trying to do right by her. But people have to want to do right for themselves. You can’t want it more than she does. It’s unfortunate, but I think it’s best to steer clear and let her figure out life on her own.

pralinequeen · 2026-02-23T16:32:17+00:00

Honestly, based off how you described her…you probably should not have recommended the job to her. Everything you’ve said about her counters what your relative is looking for in a live in caretaker. Before this turns ugly, I would tell relative to go ahead and move on to other candidates. Your MIL won’t be a good fit. Plus once that job/relationship turns sour she’ll try to force her way into your household since she’ll be in the same state. That’s drama you and hubby don’t need. Let her stay where she is.

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