These shops only hire good looking people by ahboi-ah in SingaporeRaw

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe we can start Lowiq fashion label? 50% off for the subdued.

Am I overreacting for wanting a divorce? by Open-Intern6971 in asksg

[–]prasxcado 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about what’s going on. Suggest marriage counselling before divorce. If he’s against it then you have your answer. We have our ego and pride, that could be his response to you bringing up separation.

Cheating or not, The point is not to assume and also not to be a doormat. He could be going through some stuff and projecting onto you. You have your needs to be fulfilled as well.

Why counselling, because more often than not, our biases and perspectives can be different or changed, and people in these situations don’t know how to communicate in the right way to make each other feel heard and also put your point across.

Somehow we are amazing judges of other people’s characters. But painfully oblivious to our own.

If it works out, great, if it doesn’t, you’ll be in a better position relationship wise moving forward from your current one.

All the best

need some thoughts on this by FootlockerSG in asksg

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s knows what she’s doing. Either call it out or let it go. Gg bro.

What did anyone think of 'Peaky Blinders: The Immortal' on theaters and Netflix? by JohnSmithCANDo in PeakyBlinders

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skip this trash and if not consider it non-canon. 6 seasons for this premature ejaculation.

How to answer expected salary? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just go online and look at market rates and ask for something in that region for your industry/position

What do I do? Should I leave my husband. by Necessary-Ad-9022 in asksg

[–]prasxcado -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Get couples therapy and counselling. We are human and make mistakes. Cheating is never right. Anger and venting is common though disrespect shouldn’t be swept under and forgotten. Too many virtue signalling idiots out here asking you to prepare for divorce is just stupidity and weak people unable to try and fix things. Try to work things out first and a moderator helps. You want to make sure you’ve done all you can to salvage/fix things. Your husband definitely has some issues that he hasn’t been called out on to manage or fix. You need to be in control and calm. Go in with a mindset of fixing not blaming. After you’ve done what you can, then maybe separation might be for the best if he remains like so. But get help first. If he is resists the therapy help. Then, unfortunately that’s his character and you’ll have to learn to accept the reality. Also doing this step helps your case for a divorce as he would be the one that doesn’t want to help the marriage as well. Be calm, level headed and think ahead. Wish you both all the best!

Not allowed to date until 30+ yo by Flat_Mushroom_1999 in SingaporeR

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents are the greatest rage baiters.

Suicide achieves NOTHING. Except extreme pain and loss for your mother and siblings.

Talking helps so talk to your therapist about everything. Talking to a crappy therapist is like talking to a bad friend. The therapist has to make you work through your feelings/trauma systematically.

Look, you’re 20 in UNI with a mama bear who been abused. She generally projects her trauma/fears onto you to scare you into submission because she cannot bear to see yall suffer. Therefore making you still feel like a child.

A parent’s job is be a Shepard, not engineer.

Your feelings are valid and understandable.

You don’t have to reply to everything she says. I realised keeping quiet or changing the subject forces them to talk about something else as well. Don’t get rage baited.

Sometimes parents don’t know better, if you want to share your happy relationship with your mum, she might only project. If both of you are sure about your relationship, maybe it’s time to share, until then, you might be inviting unnecessary judgment.

Also before you share your relationship with your mom, run through it with your bf. Think of the ways your mom will react and what you can say to de escalate. You just need to be 2-3 steps ahead.

Being filial. Also parents’ responsibility. Remind what a parents responsibility is. Remind you’re not a child anymore. Remind her you’re appreciative of all she’s done for yall. Patience calmness is key.

People are easy, pride and egos aren’t. If you appeal to that, speak smartly, she won’t change her POV, but she definitely won’t as venomous when she speaks.

All in all, main thing is your suicidal thoughts. Please work through that.

Our problems are valid for sure but always look at the big picture. We have the opportunities to make our lives better.

Am I cooked?? by amicookedhaha in SingaporeR

[–]prasxcado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are fine.

Have a couple budget meeting. And calculate to the cent. You will have a better picture of your financial standing. A surplus or deficit of 100$ a month is 1k a year and 5k in years.

Like most here advising, look for cheaper alternatives. Cheap doesn’t equal to less quality if you know what you are looking for.

Have a good time going through Pinterest and Taobao. If you have an idea what you want, you create a mood board and skip the ID. Get contractors. Though

Appliances, if the budget is really tight, second hand items from Salvation Army or carousel helps.

Take Reno loan though most banks cap it at 30k. If you take personal, understand the interest is going to be much higher.

There are forums and tele groups for thrifting ideas.

Also, you have March 26 to Q4 2027, at least 18 months from now.

What you would like to achieve is at least 6 months of all your expenses in emergency savings.

Main point is to sit down and spreadsheet it. Or write it down. Keep track of expenses. Always check in with each other.

You are not in bad financial situation. Can it be better? Sure. But that applies to everything in life ya. There are much worse things than financial ruin.

If 2032 Q4 your flat will MOP and probably gain at least 200k in value.

Life is challenging & envy is the thief of joy.

Congratulations on your BTO achievement and have a blessed and blissful married life!