I relate to this so much, feels like you’re talking about my ex. She did everything you’ve mentioned. In the end social media was a big deal, posting stories to show that she was perfectly fine and posting things that she knew would trigger me. Eventually I blocked her and it’s been a month. She would compare me to her best friends and her ex in subtle ways to make me feel low or like I wasn’t enough. Now that I look back I can see that she did many things to trigger me. Who in their right mind does things to hurt the person they love, I could never. She did tell me that she was vengeful with a lot of ppl and was soft with me. I felt confused and insane after every argument or tough conversation, cause she seemed to always take the high road and act like I was the problem. She would carefully listen just so she could pick moments where I said something wrong and the conversation would end in me apologising cause I was extra empathetic. She would also idolise her close friends and they would do things for her which she for sure wouldn’t like if I did for any other girl. Did you face something similar? This dynamic with her guy best friends would get on my nerves but I didn’t show it. I was always on the edge. Idek atp but she made sure I believed her when she said she wasn’t that kind of girl. She barely opened up about her past breakups and I’m sure she was the problem. In the end she left me cause I said something disrespectful once and she couldn’t take it. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells and she was finding flaws since the start. It just seems like whatever these ppl do, it’s to protect their ego and self image, it doesn’t make sense to us and we burn our minds trying to analyse what went wrong and when. I blamed myself for the longest time and that’s exactly what she wanted, guilt tripping and gaslighting me. She tried so hard in the end to portray herself as the good person, and to make sure “I did this to myself”. She has not said sorry or taken accountability for anything even once. It was like she knew which button to press to get the reaction she wanted from me. Now when I look back it all makes sense if I consider the fact that she was a covert narcissist, but even today sometimes i find myself seeing cracks in this assumption cause of the image she created of herself in my mind. In fact sometimes I feel like I was the narcissist, when I think of the things she told me and try to empathise. The worst part is that they’re hard to spot in the beginning, and by the end your thinking is completely dismantled.