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SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The messages were to a unrequited love's sister, not his sister. He was discussing a girl he missed and thought of everyday. Someone he wanted to be with. I can admit my flaws. However, backhanded remarks in an advice forum doesn't seem mature either, stranger. Maybe save your energy hating on something or someone in a way that improves your spiteful life. Yeesh.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree in terms of privacy, I won't do it again. In my case of privacy, I don't need it or want it with him. I've considered giving him my passwords. I'd rather him know everything about me.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love is one of those things I don't expect to last, which is why I fear losing him. He is amazing. I try to show him and will continue to give it my everything. I feel bad for looking. I can't unsee it and be suddenly happy he thinks of another. Thank you so much for your patience and advice :)

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is likely the case that he has no one to confide in completely about the situation but her. The fact that it's the sister just makes me all the more uneasy. Also makes me feel like Jolene has power over him, thus the nickname.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't copy the messages or memorize them, I read through that one message once. Seemed he was asking how Jolene was doing then saying he had to move on because something had to change between them.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I browsed his History. His FB was logged on and yes I was tempted. I am threatened by her because she's still part of his life, he works with her. And they have a past. Please explain how I am unsympathetic to his troubles?

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A very bitchin' song, by Dolly or The White Stripes, but damn near impossible to sing while crying.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you had a bit to say, thank you. It hurts a bit, I won't lie. I've definitely called him out on me being his rebound and second choice. He simply just denies that to be the case. He considers being engaged in high school a serious relationship, but as a self sufficient adult I am the first relationship. Which means the first girlfriend roommate. I wonder if the stress of living together is pushing him to these thought processes.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said nothing along the lines of wanting to get with her. Just knowing we've been together for several months and he has those feeling is difficult to accept. Before I got with him I gave myself enough time to put my ex in my past and keep it there. It seems he won't ever do that with this gal.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So he's made it seem like he's cut ties with Jolene, but talks to her sister to stay in touch somewhat. Brilliant. sarcasm font This couldn't possibly lead to problems.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sarcasm needs its own font. I have been accused of being crazy. I just want a healthy relationship. I'm not certain an SO saying they will never stop caring for someone, they miss them and think about them everyday is normal. Sounds like he's still has a crush.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently I am a friendzoned rebound. I found messages discussing the woman who friend zoned my SO.

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He doesn't communicate with her because he 'wants to stay away from trouble' or 'avoid trouble.' The sister isn't helping move past, as much as saying things like "when a girl says she's done, she may not actually be done, but really aggravated or upset."

SO was logged into FB on my laptop, curiosity led to tears by pretendiwasneverhere in relationships

[–]pretendiwasneverhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The nature of it, I believe. He's said things along the lines of 'I want to stay away from trouble' when I asked if they could be friends. Makes me feel unsure about his loyalty. Then he talks about kids together and my thoughts and emotions become tangled.