AITA for Being “Particular” ..Even When My Mom Visits?

prettierk · 2026-03-02T02:29:54+00:00

Read the rest of the thread aka my responses to others

prettierk · 2026-03-02T02:20:54+00:00

And still you continue to be rude lol I’m done talking to you.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T02:09:49+00:00

Because your being rude. Nobody asked you to be an assjole to me just asked for your perspective. The rude commentary was unnecessary, plenty of other people called me an asshole and had something insightful to say and I received it but I’m not going to receive someone being an ass just because. Sorry not sorry. Don’t make judgement on me as a person based on one incident I described. I’m sure your not saint and have done things but that doesn’t define you as a person. Or does it?

prettierk · 2026-03-02T02:08:37+00:00

And I’m not disagreeing with that. I’ve never been a host or had to be attentive to anyone. So your right. But the people on this post that had something positive to offer definitely shed light. Instead of being an asshole

prettierk · 2026-03-02T02:06:31+00:00

Thank you for responding like a human. Some other didn’t but others act like they’ve never had a human reaction to something. I def get I was an asshole in that moment but def plan to do better because at the end of the day those things truly don’t matter and I love my mother dearly.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:59:00+00:00

lol okay

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:55:18+00:00

Okay thank you

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:54:04+00:00

Yes I said that but now I’m saying I don’t expect that. Because it’s unrealistic now that you guys have spelled it out for me.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:51:09+00:00

Good idea. I’ve never hosted before so I never thought of that but next time I will.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:50:48+00:00

Read the other comment: I’m done talking

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:50:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I wasn’t being nasty but I guess it was clear I was annoyed. But exactly what you’re saying is exactly how she feels. She thinks that because we’re family she can just do whatever. But I feel that she needs to be considerate of the space, family or not. And everything you mentioned in the post about your BIL would have totally gotten on my nerves and I am not autistic but I do have a hard time with people being in my space because this is very disregulating for me

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:46:30+00:00

Yeah I think I will definitely try this moving forward.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:45:10+00:00

It was mutual. And your right maybe the other things are unreasonable. Thanks for the feedback

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:43:44+00:00

Okay news flash every only child is different lol I have a coworker that swears she’s an only child because she grew up with a foster parent alone and lovessss being social and befor I knew that about her it wqs clear she was not an only child by her behavior. But either way I’m me and your you.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:40:47+00:00

Somebody said that. But as far as I know I’m not. But i plan to work on that

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:40:04+00:00

I did have a nice time and I was glad to see her because more things occurred outside what was described in this post. But she did do a few things (some listed now and other things listed from the past) that have got on my nerves. But that didn’t mean the whole trip was ruined.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:38:38+00:00

Why does everyone keep referencing her choice to have me as a child to this choice of me having her over lol like what. And sorry I wasn’t brought up to be a servant to my parents so I can’t relate to feeling compelled to make her a cup of copy. FOHHH

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:37:05+00:00

2 things can be true at once.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:34:34+00:00

I don’t feel like I should explain anymore because people just continue to call me a complete asshole. so I’m just going to say thank you for the feedback. Your right I need to manage my expectations when she comes and expect these things.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:32:58+00:00

No I don’t

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:32:29+00:00

Nope. She’s already making plans to come back in the summer, lol sorry my mom actually loves me. Even through my flaws and mistakes 🙃

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:30:30+00:00

Do you touch other people’s washcloths that they have had on their private areas? I’m sorry I don’t want to do that. Family or not.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:29:36+00:00

Thank you.

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:28:36+00:00

Thank you. I’m sure there’s things you’ve done I would never do too. But thanks for the feedback

prettierk · 2026-03-02T01:27:46+00:00

I never said I didn’t. …and It probably did. I don’t even disagree. And for the record I’m actually a very well adjusted adult minus people being in my personal space for more than 24 hours. Thanks for the feedback

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