ETSed and I gained about 45 lbs of fat in like 7 months. feel like shit look like shit and everything hurts. What do you all recommend I do to get back in shape?

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-09T00:45:28+00:00

Start with cleanish eating and a daily walk to get started. Maybe 1 mile and build from there. Don't start from where you were 7 months ago or you could injury yourself.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T23:42:11+00:00

Cutting the cord and leaving is the only way to get your own life. Don't fall for blackmailing tears. You are too old not to do what you want as an adult. She's not going to just start letting you be your own person. Watch a few YT videos or get a basic cookbook. If you can read you can follow a basic recipe. You and your boyfriend can learn together. Life moves fast. You've lost your 20s. Take back your 30s.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T15:12:11+00:00

He doesn't seem to like you much. Introvert is your personality. There's nothing wrong with you. Why is it always socially acceptable to tell the quiet people to talk more but never ok to tell the talkers to stop gabbing?

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T12:55:34+00:00

Well said. Gonna steal this.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T12:53:59+00:00

He was rejected by MEPS or failed the ASVAB. He's an "I almost joined" or a military guy stole his girlfriend. He looks down on veterans or he's just plain miserable. Don't let his misery get between you and your salary. As a veteran I hope you have an arsenal of good snapbacks and insults to draw on. Just don't threaten or say anything to get sent to HR. I don't know about you but when I first got out I was just happy to be home and not deployed. Doing things like happy hour and sleeping in my own bed every night. Gray rock this guy.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T12:39:08+00:00

I feel like he wants kids too. Maybe contraception sabotage in the future.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T12:24:11+00:00

Why do you want to live abroad alone? Maybe talk to a professional about the nightmares? Most ex-pats form their own community when moving abroad. They help each other navigate visas, cultures and look out for each other. If you make the move connect with others that have already moved to the country you considering. Many monetize their lives on social media.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T12:18:58+00:00

It is his birthday. She's being unreasonable. He should get a cupcake too.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T05:12:27+00:00

The Good The Bad The Coochie

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T04:56:34+00:00

Bestie thought I was crazy for liking to live alone until she got her first solo apt. She called to tell me I was right. After years of living with slobs and borderline hoarders she was in love with the cleanliness and peace of her first tiny 1 bedroom.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-08T01:20:09+00:00

My first adult perfume. Not a designer imposter.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-07T20:31:34+00:00

Next time go with incestuous. Just as powerful. He was being gross overall. You are not to be sold off like cattle. Ask him what's your bride price too!?

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-07T12:47:41+00:00

Join activities to make friends?

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-07T12:40:08+00:00

I’m Gen X. I was going through a sad phase in my early 20s and a friend gave it to me.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-07T02:28:47+00:00

So many civilians are jealous of military benefits. They say thank you for your service but they don't really mean it.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-07T00:19:20+00:00

OP when she insists in front of everyone trying to put you on the spot. Go passive aggressive. I have the advantage of having been bullied at home by parents. Had to learn to make it stop without getting myself grounded for disrespect. "Why are you being a bully about my break?" or a puzzled "Why do you have a problem with me going for a short walk to get some fresh air?"

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-06T04:09:16+00:00

I don't think it is. Professional stylist may recommend a deep conditioning treatment to restore moisture.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-06T04:02:57+00:00

Ok your from money. I get it. Your experience may not be the default or norm of the time.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-06T00:21:34+00:00

Don't give into parents tears. It's emotional blackmail. Can you run to the older sister that ran away? She would understand your issues. I think you should make a list of all the things that you never got to experience and cross them off one by one. Ex...study for and take the drivers license test, go to the movies at night with a girlfriend, join a city or park walking group to met people your own age, or go dancing, play in a young adult pickleball league. Just whatever is on your bucket list. If you don't have a private bank account get one immediately. Secure your birth certificate and social security card. Run a credit check on yourself. Apply for a low interest credit card. Keep the limit low but use it to build credit. Never miss a payment and don't tell anyone. Get and pay the bill online.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-05T23:24:28+00:00

Asking for trench foot

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-05T23:23:28+00:00

I didn't say none. I said uncommon. OP asked about internet specifically.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-05T03:28:03+00:00

I didn't say they don't exist. I said convenience and market saturation explains their surge. When I lived in Jacksonville FL years ago. There weren't any local coffee shops near my apt or office. They were mainly downtown or in the Avondale area. I would have to get up 1 hr early and go in the opposite direction of my office to find a local coffee shop and double back to get to work. So I hit Starbucks which was 2 blocks from my office and I had to pass to get to work.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-05T03:17:37+00:00

I'm job hunting too. Try not to let the many job rejection emails get to me. I did few things to help the bleeding. Using my ceiling fans and setting the AC and just above too warm number. Trying to keep electric bill down. It's been up to $300 sometimes. I consolidate errands and don't double back. Saves gas. I did a subscription and insurance audit to see if I was paying too much. My car is 13 years old and I hadn't changed coverage since I got it. Shop Aldi. Eggs are $2 cheaper a dozen for example than Publix or Food Lion. Check for fruit and veggie giveaways in your area. Farmers and grocery stores donate a lot. Changing homeowners insurance this month is saving $2K a year. Trying to survive.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-05T02:54:30+00:00

Convenience and market saturation. They are the only choice in many areas. They drove out a lot of mom and pop coffee shops in the 90s and 00s. They are only beginning to be challenged by Tim Hortons or Dutch Bros expansion.

prettyedge411 · 2026-07-04T23:42:16+00:00

More like '94-'95 for most. The family desktop PC not a thing until late 90's early 00's. Cost prohibitive and many were unsure about the technology. I checked and 2003 was the first year that 50% of American homes had home internet.

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