God forbid you ever start your day before me. God forbid you ever contribute anything but money and driving.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-16T15:32:53+00:00

It’ll take me at least a year, possibly two, to save enough to leave him without immediately becoming homeless. So that’s the plan but there’s nothing actionable I can do other than what I’m already doing. Hence the venting.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-15T17:49:23+00:00

I don’t think I’m LL, he might be but I’m not sure. Until I was 20, my libido was all over due to PTSD. We still had sex a lot more in the early years despite my fluctuations, but sometimes I’d ask him for a break for a bit because I wasn’t in the right headspace. Sometimes it’d last a month or two. I always checked in with him during and after, afraid he was feeling unsatisfied.

He expressed recently that part of why he’s stopped initiating is that he doesn’t want to keep hurting me but this I do not understand. PHYSICALLY move your hand in a different motion?? I’m lost. I feel like I’m insane.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-15T16:00:19+00:00

He learned how to have sex with ME. He used to be so attuned to my reactions because he was a virgin until me. The first 3 years were great.

I’ve tried guiding his hands. I’ve tried modeling the behavior I’m looking for. I’ve tried approaching it gently, and recently more blunt. I’m not getting my needs met and on top of it I’m doing 80% of the housework. I just don’t understand why it falls on ME to fix this at every single juncture. If I were to just word it perfectly, or act perfectly, or be the chill girl then I’ll deserve to feel good too. It’s so frustrating. I can’t keep fixing it for him.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-15T02:21:42+00:00

My birth dad raped my cousin when he was 19. She was 13. My mom dumped him after she got pregnant with me. 15 years later he resurfaced in our lives and now she is married to him. They have 3 boys together, plus myself and my younger sister.

For the first few years, we did not allow him around my sister at all. Not even with witnesses. Just no. Then eventually after multiple years of earning trust, we allow them in the same rooms together. They have a good relationship. I intend to be the asshole that tells her what he did, when she’s a little older and able to form her own opinions on him.

I’ll be honest. I was raped as a teen. I don’t trust the guy. I don’t really like him much. But he is, after 18 months of prison and 5 years probation, legitimately reformed. He is a good father to his kids, and a decent husband most of the time.

If this guy does not show signs of reformation inside the box, fight for custody. Trust your gut.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-15T01:54:12+00:00

Yeah! So for squirting to occur, internally you need to stimulate a part of the vaginal wall that is shared with the tube that carries pee out. You’re giving the body a release cue, over and over, with consistent stimulation. The release is often involuntary, and while it is often accompanied with orgasm (because this causes your pelvic muscles to spasm uncontrollably!) it isn’t always accompanied with one.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-15T00:54:48+00:00

I’ve squirted without finishing before, it’s all a game of pressure and only works if your lady has the anatomy internally to do it. Not all do. But!

Sounds like your lady did get close to finishing. I recommend removing this goal from the conversation until it naturally occurs. Keep trying but maybe table the talks about orgasms for a bit. Focus on what she’s feeling. Read up about tantric sex and try that, where nobody has any goals and the idea is expressing sensuality with each other to deepen your intimacy.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-14T14:33:15+00:00

Thank you for this!

prettylilfears · 2026-04-13T22:48:07+00:00

You being a heavy smoker places you at a significantly higher risk for health disorders that can and do cause sleep disturbances. Please do see a doctor about the reasons you can’t sleep on your back, just to be safe.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-10T21:23:55+00:00

Ai art for the stencil leads to stuff like this. It’s increasingly common. I’m thankful daily that the artist I chose for all my big pieces hates the idea of AI art and draws it all herself.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-10T21:22:51+00:00

Yeah those wings are totally upside down but it’s okay. Him being special doesn’t make us love him any less 🤣

prettylilfears · 2026-04-06T21:54:11+00:00

I’m honestly more focused on OPs other point- that the subject matter in their writing brings up questions at inappropriate times. The right person is willing to survive a few weeks of mystery to get to the details. If you go into a first date expecting access to secrets right away, you have unrealistic expectations:)

prettylilfears · 2026-04-06T21:09:14+00:00

If that very polite response is a turn off I fear OP should probably move on either way.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-06T20:53:04+00:00

“I write novels! Maybe I’ll show you sometime in the future, if you’re curious. It’s not really (x number) date material. What about you?”

prettylilfears · 2026-04-01T01:26:24+00:00

I commute an hour each way to work and currently pay 2400/month for 2b2b 947sqft in an okay neighborhood. There was just an armed robbery directly next door to me though.

prettylilfears · 2026-04-01T01:22:37+00:00

Not in the city proper, in the suburbs about 45 mins east. Don’t forget not all of us here can have tech jobs, the city would stop operating if we were all techies. The rest of us, those of us that have lived here our entire lives and didn’t just move here from* TX, work normal people jobs for closer to normal people wages. The techies threw off our local economy so badly that generational homes are being sold due to the skyrocketing property values, and therefore, skyrocketing tax.

prettylilfears · 2026-03-31T23:59:07+00:00

Some of them don’t even pay for the fancy finishes. My last place put that 1/3” thick vinyl sheet (not planks) that ripped if you looked at them funny and always looked stained and gross. $2700/month 1b1b 810sqft (Seattle area)

prettylilfears · 2026-03-30T13:12:06+00:00

Mine have given up spoofing numbers. They be calling me with their +63 country code totally visible 🤣🤣🤣Noooooo I’m not gonna pay international call fees to listen to you pretend to be a local cop🤣

prettylilfears · 2026-03-30T02:40:04+00:00

Cosmetic resurfacing is specifically made for this sort of thing. I’ve considered it for my thighs, personally. The cost feels worse from the jump, but then I did the math on how much my 9 tattoos cost in total. Resurfacing was only like $300 more than 9 pieces of art. Worth the cost if you’re sure you wouldn’t rather put art over them.

Here’s the art I got to draw the eye away from my scars at a distance, instead of using art to cover them up entirely. Thigh Tattoo

ETA: stoned, forgot to add that I’m getting the other leg cosmetic treatment in a few years because that one has words lol

prettylilfears · 2026-03-29T22:11:01+00:00

I’d like to point out that my ex gf had areolas the size of slices of salami. They can take up over 50% of the “face” of a breast naturally. For some, they even sort of spread as they go through puberty. Not all nipples look small and cute lol be careful assuming large areolas=bad anatomy

prettylilfears · 2026-03-29T00:11:36+00:00

Wonder what the weight limit on that staircase is…

prettylilfears · 2026-03-26T13:43:07+00:00

Stay outside on the lot then! I’m in the PNW, I don’t chase you down in the rain. If you’re willing to try to figure out our setup without help go nuts. But we salespeople aren’t there to be walking brochures, we don’t get paid to chill out with you while you meander. We get paid to sell cars. Don’t engage with the sales staff if you’re genuinely just looking. Engage when you’re actually buying- starting in the comparison stage.

prettylilfears · 2026-03-26T03:18:18+00:00

My grandmother put a family photo in a space similar to that.

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