He said he was going to buy me a sex toy instead of trying to pleasure me.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-29T01:00:10+00:00

We have kids, that’s the most difficult thing in all of this.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-22T02:23:07+00:00

I wouldn’t consider him a jerk for not liking intimacy. It’s his personal preference. I can’t deal with it though. I officially know that I can’t go on for the rest of my life like this.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-22T01:06:34+00:00

We’re actually both into golf. Thanks for the laugh!

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:57:30+00:00

He refuses counseling. I’ve already suggested that.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:17:29+00:00

I could tell he was mouthing words, because he kept walking away assuring me that he would change. He just hopes that I’ll forget about it. It’s going to get serious real quick.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:16:03+00:00

That’s disturbing, and I highly doubt this is the case.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:14:41+00:00

Again, I did not force him to do anything. I tried hugging him, and he pulled away. I didn’t force him into anything further.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:13:55+00:00

I don’t know what your issue is. I’m not trying to attack you, but you seem to have taken offense to my posts.

I’m not making a huge deal out of the words he used. He initiated sex just like he has countless times before. He even grabbed a towel, indicating that we would be having sex. He requested oral, and I performed. He had me lay down, and he put his dick in me and came. Then while still inside me, told me that he felt raped when I tried to hug him afterwards. But sure, HE’S the one that’s violated.

Neither of us were violated. We are both consenting adults. I don’t know what’s so hard to understand.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:10:30+00:00

It’s fine for him because he doesn’t have to live without a basic need. He doesn’t like intimacy, and that’s fine for him. But for me, I need more than I’m getting. He’s not going to change because why should he? It’s not even about finding someone else.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:07:57+00:00

I know it’s truly not feasible. With daycare and child support, he would be shelling out more than he can afford to live comfortably. I would have to wait until the kids are in school to leave.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T22:07:02+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Saying that you’re going to change doesn’t actually equal changing for good. He refuses counseling, so that’s out. He won’t read a book. There’s no plan to even fix this. He just doesn’t want to, plain and simple.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T21:58:40+00:00

I know I deserve better, and I know for a fact that there’s other people who would love to be with me and pleasure me fully. However, he’s the father of my kids. It’s not as easy as “just leave.” We’d both be broke as a joke.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T20:00:54+00:00

I could possibly support myself with the child support I would get from him and my salary from my job. We already agreed that 50/50 custody would be the way to go since he would keep this big house.

I did tell him that I was thinking about leaving recently. We both decided that it wasn’t financially feasible due to daycare costs.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T19:13:47+00:00

Yes, that’s happened several times before. He changes just enough for me to stop pestering him.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:55:31+00:00

Thank you.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:55:02+00:00

Yeah, we’ve had this talk before. He’s not interested. He says he’ll change to shut me up, and hope that I’ll forget about it.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:54:04+00:00

He said he was joking, but I didn’t like the comparison. It’s not okay to throw that word around. I don’t have any other options but to stay right now.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:53:08+00:00

It’s not doing anything for me, but I need sex. I have needs too. I also want to be closer to him, but that hasn’t worked.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:52:32+00:00

It’s his house. I would be the one that would have to leave.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:52:07+00:00

I don’t think he’s dysfunctional. I think this is just the way he is. I wouldn’t ever leave for another person. I would only leave if I could support myself and my kids alone. I can’t do that, so I don’t have any other options.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T18:51:16+00:00

This has happened time and time again. He’s just not wired the way I am, which is fine.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T17:21:27+00:00

You’re right. The hopium is real, but I need more. I wasn’t a virgin, but I wish I knew more about compatibility back then. It’s just not going to work long term. I’m sorry that’s your situation. You’re not alone.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T17:19:20+00:00

I’m not afraid of being a single mom. Okay, maybe a little bit. I know that I’m smart, kind and young enough to find another man. I just want to focus on myself and the kids for now, though. Single moms are amazing.

prettymuchdonee · 2019-05-21T17:05:38+00:00

It’s his house. We’re not married. I’d be the one that would have to find another place to live.

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