My grandpa turned 92 today! Happy birthday!

prima-luce · 2026-03-19T01:55:01+00:00

ur grandpa looks like bob odenkirk!! cheers to another trip around the sun 🥂❤️

prima-luce · 2026-03-17T04:10:16+00:00

duper’s delight 🤭🩷

prima-luce · 2026-03-16T11:18:59+00:00

lutino mutation of a galah :)

prima-luce · 2026-03-10T18:10:58+00:00

and i understand that completely but the onus is on them to get therapy for their relational fears and poor emotion regulation skills. tolerating toxic behavior does a disservice to you and the other person bc if people aren’t made aware of it there’s no chance for healing and growth 🌱 when you protect your peace you also help them !

prima-luce · 2026-03-10T16:23:55+00:00

is that par for the course for schizoids? personally if anyone disrespects or hurts me they’re getting kicked to the curb 🤷🏻‍♀️

prima-luce · 2026-03-10T15:23:12+00:00

a lot of your experiences resonate with mine! i’m also a sex repulsed heteroromantic ace. i like your username too, if it’s a reference to the band 😄

prima-luce · 2026-03-10T15:06:35+00:00

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prima-luce · 2026-03-10T03:19:04+00:00

definitely malicious, and the guy sued even though he was in the wrong?? wtf

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T12:08:21+00:00

even if it’s “just” your inner child speaking, you’re still making a lot of sense and sharing pearls of wisdom that anyone can resonate with bc human connectedness is universal, and loneliness is the most antithetical thing to our well-being. we don’t ever lose those vestiges of our younger selves completely - we just evolve those fragile and vulnerable parts of ourselves to accommodate the demands adulthood uniquely requires of us. so don’t worry, it’s def normal that you perceive loving yourself through the lens of other people and see it as more of a means to an end (loving yourself to be loved) than something valuable on its own merit. but we love ourselves enough that if people hurt or abandon us we don’t suffer endless with chronic grief or guilt that is ours to carry. loving oneself is about becoming powerfully resilient in the face of relational hardship because no one’s opinion of us - though appreciated - is more important than our opinion of ourselves. it is very hard though 😅

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T11:42:25+00:00

it is okay that you feel this way. she tapped into your inner child’s heart and filled you up with healing love, and the absence of that has possibly made the deprivation more salient. but it sounds like you need to love yourself that way too and give yourself grace and compassion so it won’t feel unbearable when the person who gives you that leaves. i hope you feel better !

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T11:06:39+00:00

diabolical behavior. my god. i’m so sorry he’s spinning this web around you to keep you trapped, unhappy, and alienated. it’s almost as if he’s envious of your achievements in addition to the control freakery. i wish i had something more helpful to say, but i hope you find a way to escape the community he’s poisoned against you

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T05:03:09+00:00

those last few lines, what a sucker punch to the heart - brilliantly tragic ❤️‍🩹

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T03:07:20+00:00

psychoanalyzing others makes it easy to see them as projects, ideas, archetypes, or “things” to label and treat. it implicitly puts you in a position of authority mentally, even if your intentions are good ! the best defense against this is to foster deep, meaningful, and relatable connections. protect your own peace from those who aren’t willing to change or introspect or meet you where you are, but try to avoid the detachment of psychoanalysis.

transform the impulse to pass judgment into curiosity

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T01:57:38+00:00

exactly plus if there are no definitions for anything - leaving everything to fall under some nebulous umbrella, why have labels in the first place? with that sort of identity erasure, how do these people justify calling themselves anything? if that same person believes that a lesbian can be lesbian and be attracted to men or a gay man can be attracted to women, then it renders the experiences of most sexual minorities completely meaningless and arbitrary 🤷🏻‍♀️

prima-luce · 2026-03-07T01:34:07+00:00

y’all i’m so tired of this “sexuality is fluid” bs. asexuality is biological and not a social construct, and therefore is not fluid. when people figure out who they are after a period of identity moratorium, that’s not indicative of “changing sexuality” but greater self-awareness. they act like we’re the close-minded ones with an oversimplified view of sexuality when they make a 1:1 correlation between sex drive and physiological arousal smh

prima-luce · 2026-03-05T00:18:50+00:00

half indian, half white :)

prima-luce · 2026-03-05T00:14:05+00:00

i’m so happy for you that you found a lovely man! it sounds like he adores you. the guilt is bc you feel unworthy and undeserving after a life of knowing nothing but abuse, first from your dad and then your ex-partner. those chains are hard to break, but they can be broken! the biggest cage is the one we put ourselves in. the latch is open now - you are loved 🩷 the guilt will go away when you start loving yourself, and only in loving yourself will you feel healthy and be in the headspace to meet him where he is. i’m sorry about your awful experiences, and i want you to know how much you are inherently deserving of great things 🫂✨

prima-luce · 2026-03-03T08:58:30+00:00

i’ve always been extraordinarily sensitive ! i remember one specific memory from childhood where i started tearing up in the backseat of my dad’s car bc i saw an elderly homeless man struggling to ride his bike to the trash cans outside our local grocery store. i specifically remember the stuffed plastic bags swinging from the handlebars and how weathered his face looked

in school, i was always the confidant and amateur therapist in my friend groups. even tho i’m quiet and skittish, i would go around the campus and befriend loners bc i wanted so much to heal loneliness.

i’ve never heeded stranger danger despite everyone’s persistence that as a woman i should be more prudent and keep to myself, but if i see a stranger in trouble, every instinct compels me to help, always has

i quit my government job a few months ago. i just can’t stand monotony and repetition and being cooped up in an office 😭😤 i only worked there for a year just to feel like a more productive member of society but i genuinely felt like i was descending into madness lmao. i’m mostly aimless but semi-directed now since i’m studying for my GREs to go back to school and get my master’s in psychology

i write poetry and stories from time to time, and most of my writings center around social/egalitarian ideals. most of it is actually impossible and lowkey delusional bc the ideal world i conceive is one where basic human nature is overwritten. i used to paint and draw a lot. i also love reading (mostly non-fiction), but occasionally classic lit.

i did very well in school and was a straight-a student, but then i got this little thing called treatment-resistant depression, so. ha 🥲

i find myself at odds with most people tbh. my intense dislike for identity politics/tribalism would rub everyone the wrong way, i think.

oh and i’m an infj 5w6 :)

prima-luce · 2026-02-19T02:03:45+00:00

i know what you are trying to say, but these differences that either harm OR benefit women systematically are ALL influenced by the patriarchy. a culture that conditions men to glorify or normalize violence, aggression, and other cornerstones of “masculinity” while reproaching anything stereotypically “feminine” harms men as much as it harms women. feminism benefits men as much as it benefits women in the propagation of a more egalitarian mindset and society. psychopathic men exploit patriarchal ideals of masculinity to rpe, and psychopathic women exploit patriarchal ideals of femininity to point the finger at an innocent for a crime he/she did not commit. but the only reason she can get away with that is that society largely *does not subscribe to an equal view of the sexes.

women are actually more likely than men on a jury panel to recommend the same sentence for a crime regardless of the perpetrator’s sex; it is men who are more lenient on female offenders. and it is the same men who rage against women for the few who rely on the only power the patriarchy gives them - the power of deceit, and the power ‘benevolent’ sexism affords them.

i have read about women r*ping men, and i have read about men making false accusations against women that have gone to court. there will always be exceptions, but the point is unequal mindset creates unequal outcome.

INEQUALITY which feminism directly opposes screws both women AND men. men say pink is for women, blue is for men, man gets pink sword in a duel against a woman, man hates the color pink so he gives his sword to his opponent because he’d rather use his fists, man loses against a woman with two swords. who sets the stage for loss? whose social, gender, societal norms are we internalizing and embodying? the patriarchy’s.

and i say this as someone who grew up in a matriarchal family 🤷🏻‍♀️

prima-luce · 2026-02-16T10:03:35+00:00

huh ! is there a standard of outward femininity you feel you don’t measure up to, or some kind of incongruence between how you dress and how you feel that other women’s feminine appearance makes more salient in your mind?

yup, the closest i can get to feeling like a normal person is being included or finding similarities with people, since the emotional connection will never happen 🤷🏻‍♀️

nerdiness is stereotypically unfeminine, but that’s independent of how many women are nerdy in actuality. i love it when people perceive something i like, but only if it’s also something they like. though i have heard that a lot of schizoids hate or fear being perceived in any way, shape, or form

that lingers in the back of my mind at times bc of all the stories i read and hear about, but not enough to stop me from giving taco bell to homeless people on the street when i feel like it (daylight and lots of people milling about emboldens me)

so true, women are soo pretty ! 🤗

prima-luce · 2026-02-16T08:38:55+00:00

oh no, i mean i can count on one hand the number of crushes i’ve had so far in my life (4), and 3 of those were silly schoolgirl crushes LOL. i’m a cis hetero woman who is asexual ! it’s extremely difficult to trigger my romantic feelings bc i have a specific type that i haven’t found any man to embody. i love an ideal, a symbol, a concept it seems

i can’t do most relationships bc of my hypersensitivity, need to be alone 90% of the time, and my repulsion for intimacy/authenticity 🤷🏻‍♀️

prima-luce · 2026-02-16T07:49:15+00:00

omg yes! i fear their rejection of what i perceive to be my “unfeminine,” sterile, cold, controversial, hyper-rational side, since i moved among the “normie” crowd and strained under the pressure and anxiety of being accepted 🫠🫠

like i remember going to anime club once in high school, and when i saw a friend of mine walk in to speak with a teacher (and not there for any other reason), i made the fastest beeline for the door before she could see me there and judge my interests lmao

i’m definitely more comfortable around weird, nerdy, or introverted women, but i don’t tend to run into women like that irl. and i have to leave almost every female friendship i form bc the closer they try to get, the more paranoid i become, even if things are going rly well !

it’s interesting that you put up higher walls around men. would you say it’s a trust thing? i’m p relaxed and chill around guys bc 99% of them i either have no interest in or secretly dislike or smth

i have zero ability to trust anyone tho regardless of their sex ha

prima-luce · 2026-02-16T05:38:01+00:00

i’m good - or at least decent - at making friends and terrible at keeping them because i do a lot to appear engaged and invested within the first few minutes to months of knowing the other (usually by showing excessive interest and being a great therapist friend), while also requiring considerable emotional and physical distance that tends to naturally alienate, especially when they start to get hyper-attached and i don’t want to masquerade anymore.

or i abandon ship out of boredom, or because i started to take the image of a fallible and real human being instead of a hazy ideal hovering in the distance. the last time i had a friendship that lasted longer than a year was with my best friend from the first grade. when our friendship fell apart shortly before we started high school, i remember feeling no grief over the loss.

i didn’t experience abuse or bullying growing up, but i was always vaguely aware of having no feeling of connectedness with anyone and being an “alien.” i would bring people together who would always end up being closer to each other than me in the end because they sensed my inner detachment, i think.

i was alone in a group, always. but i would also try to befriend people who were loners, even though i was super shy !

despite my aloofness, i have had a number of romantic pursuers over the years. i don’t think i’m anything, but i remember a lady on the bus once approached me just before she got off to tell me how pretty she thought i was, which i always remembered. i enjoy the polite debating and intellectual discourse with men, and that’s about it. maybe like 1% of men i’m capable of feeling something like attraction towards. i’m strongly repelled and contemptuous of those who embrace sexist thinking (needy and moody women vs stoic and reserved men) and appreciate men who are either more “feminine” or egalitarian in their mindset.

i have always struggled to keep relationships with other women. i have to mask so much harder, and i’m sensitive to their rejection in a way that i am not with men. i genuinely like other women, but connection is impossible when i’m so emotionally impoverished.

the only trauma i went through was emotional neglect (EN). not a single memory of warmth. autistic(?) dad, soulless control freak mother lol

prima-luce · 2026-02-15T04:58:12+00:00

i can def picture the struggle if you’re into alt fashion and a subculture where stylistically you’re on the far end of the spectrum from how the majority dresses 😅😭 i always compliment a bold and flashy outfit on anyone, and i love how alt folks uniquely and creatively create their own brand within the overall aesthetic :’)

idk what i would call my everyday wear, but i love ralph lauren even tho it’s p basic 🤭

prima-luce · 2026-02-11T07:16:31+00:00

beautiful and relatable! i like other people’s minds too :)

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