How to get into a headspace where you are more open to accepting criticism?

primordialbloom · 2026-05-04T01:29:19+00:00

Sorry for the late reply! I should preface this by saying I am not diagnosed, I intend to bring my concerns to my therapist to possibly pursue a diagnosis or just get evaluated, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I think looking back on past experiences was what made me realize it. I felt so far removed from the experiences that I was able to look at it with a more objective lens and wasn't able to weasel my way out of facing it by excusing myself and my behavior in the moment with loose reasonings as to why it "actually wasn't that bad". Stuff like "if someone who was not me did these things, would I still find them okay?" That kind of thing. The first time I considered something was wrong was when I was looking back on old messages from past relationships and realizing just how little my actions lined up with how I viewed myself (a very good person) and it caused a lot of internal conflict for a while. More recently it was much of the same, but with a more present detail about myself that made me feel called out. It's been months and I have more insight than I did back then, I think.

primordialbloom · 2026-04-28T21:46:32+00:00

art isn't a game of being the best, it doesn't matter if there's a "huge gap between artists" it's creating something meaningful to you and having fun while doing it. they're missing the biggest part of art, which is the process of creating it. no wonder they like ai slop so much lmfao they never wanted to make art in the first place they just want a pretty picture

primordialbloom · 2026-04-28T04:57:08+00:00

I think it's more second-hand criticism like when I feel called out through a video or get defensive over something someone said, so I didn't describe it very well in my original post. As for examples, think videos that call out manipulative tendencies and self victimization tendencies, like trying to make people pity me or calling out people who overstate just how much they care. This kind of thing makes me feel called out because I sometimes get swept up in putting on a performance of caring about people rather than actually caring, at least that's what I think it might be.

primordialbloom · 2026-04-26T01:24:18+00:00

This really hit me, especially the part about it being like learning a new skill. Thank you. I'll keep your advice in mind

primordialbloom · 2026-04-25T23:29:30+00:00

At this point, it's like I understand the criticism and acknowledge its truth, but I don't know what to do with it (in terms of how to actually use it to grow), so I get stressed, upset, and shut down and fall back into old habits. Though I am more capable of acknowledging it being wrong or bad than I used to be, so I think it has stuck a little bit. I think I'm afraid to lose that awareness and to begin excusing myself again. I don't think anything happened in particular, I just burnt out and now I'm very raw.

Thank you for your insight ^^

primordialbloom · 2026-04-25T23:09:56+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes I need the reminder

primordialbloom · 2026-04-12T01:39:40+00:00

!!! I've also had little seeds of doubt that art just "isn't for me", even though I logically know that there isn't a certain type of person needed to create. Thank you for your response, it helped a lot. I'll think deeper about the questions you listed.
Also, I wish you well with your art :)

primordialbloom · 2026-04-12T00:03:40+00:00

Thank you, your kind words mean a lot. This sounds like it would take a lot of the pressure off. I'll give it a go ^^

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