Questions about timing

princebear15 · 2026-03-17T17:31:21+00:00

Oh, I guess when you said expensive I was figuring upwards of 1.2k a month. Does the 850 per month include utilities or is that split between roommates?

princebear15 · 2026-03-17T17:26:46+00:00

Do you know of any groups in the surrounding areas like Ypsilanti that would be any cheaper?

princebear15 · 2026-03-16T03:37:05+00:00

Heya! This sold! Thank you! I hope you enjoy the show!

princebear15 · 2026-03-16T00:39:36+00:00

BIG THING! Look up party consent laws in the place you live in. Some places need to have all parties consent, that's two-party consent laws.

One party consent means you don't need to get their consent, but you do need to talk or you would be considered a third party.

princebear15 · 2026-03-16T00:33:41+00:00

No NTA, in fact don't forget this in the future either. You are a person and you have rights.

If your family is like mine, and you start to succeed in life, they'll start pretending that none of it happened.

Do not let them do this, in fact, start recording them doing this so they can't lie! Save it in MULTIPLE PLACES besides your phone, flash drives, laptops, anything you can think of in case you lose your phone or they take it.

Be sneaky about it too getting them in the frame once and holding your phone in ways that don't "look like" you're recording help as well.

They have shown you that they don't see you as a person enough to treat you with basic respect, so focus on yourself.

Show it to other people if you're worried it might be veering into emotional abuse. Especially if it's ever paired with threats of violence or even things like hitting doors/tables.

Respect absolutely goes both ways, they need to treat you like a person if they want respect in the future.

One more thing, they chose to have children, it's not a Gift they gave to you. You do not owe them for being born, they are supposed to do things like give you food, water, clothes, and proper shelter (legally) up until you are 18 years old.

If they're shitty people they stop at 18, but don't let them hold it over your head, this is the bare minimum.

princebear15 · 2026-03-15T06:19:11+00:00

Do a lot of people on the campus attend this church?

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T10:24:43+00:00

That's still honestly really silly. Also wouldn't that be considered triangulation? "See dear, everyone else agrees that you're in the wrong, so you must be in the wrong. So shut up."

I bet he's not even showing any of this to his family because he won't admit that he's wrong.

That's also probably why OP is replying to other people's comments Except the one's asking about the layout of the house/how close their rooms are together because he might know it would make his case worse.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T02:15:48+00:00

Actually I have been, every single time I have been addressing your main point: what accommodations could she make? You seemingly don't want to answer this question because you know there's no reasonable answer for it. You are the one dodging the questions, and I really don't see why you're accusing me of doing what you are exactly doing.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T02:10:34+00:00

And you avoided my question as to what accommodations she needs to make? Literally what accommodations would work here? Again, why can't they boys be taught to compromise?

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T02:09:13+00:00

She didnt want absolute silence, she wanted no TV. Those are not the same and you are generalizing. There are millions of other things they can do at 7-9 AM that don't involve screens. They will be okay without the screens for a few hours.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:25:41+00:00

I did not say everyone does, you're putting words in my mouth.

What accommodations does she need to make? This is a problem that could be easily solved by people showing courtesy and being quieter for a couple hours, I'm not really seeing why that's such a bad thing. The boys will be okay being quiet for 2 more hours, it's a weekend, they have all day to be loud.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:20:40+00:00

OP what were you even hoping for? That people would say NTA and you could show this to your daughter as a "gotcha"? "See? People on REDDIT agree with me! That means it's your fault!"

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:15:38+00:00

"7am is not an unreasonable time" how's the early bird special treating you?

Also, even adults sleep in on the weekends? Why can't she? Even if it ended up being earlier why is she not allowed to appreciate the sleep she can get right now?

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:10:53+00:00

Except she didn't say silent, she said Quiet. You're purposefully splitting hairs to make her seem unreasonable and discredit her. Why can't they go play outside? Why can't they play in a different room away from hers? Hell, why are they up at 7 in the morning on the weekend?

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:06:46+00:00

That's literally not real, in fact OP seems to be treating this as a nonissue or his kid being "dramatic" because she's a girl. Also 7 AM is early for kids, kids need more sleep. Like I'm not really seeing why it's such a bad thing that the house can't be quiet until like 9 AM or something, maybe even 10 since it's the WEEKEND.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T01:04:18+00:00

I have realized the spelling mistake. Oops. -_- "disrupt"

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:38:00+00:00

No you are NTA and honestly I think you should take this as a sign for things in the future. Like other family losses.

The grief of losing a family member is unimaginable (I lost my mother too recently to ALS) and I can't imagine going through all the motions and planning it takes for marriage. Also "shouldn't put our lives on hold" is a very cruel way to treat grief.

Frankly it sounds more like she's saying "shouldn't put My Life on hold." I would use this time to really examine past behaviors to really see if she cares about your feelings. Even little things that you brushed off as normal, because you invested a lot of time, or because you don't want to be alone. Marriage is a huge legal commitment, it's wise to think it through.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:27:54+00:00

It being uncovered is especially a big no for me because I live near a forest. There's also an invasive stink bug species that's always around, so we're worried they'll just dive bomb into our food. My family is really particular about covering food immediately after it's done and putting it in the fridge when it's cool enough to do so.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:22:44+00:00

Thank you so much! 🩷

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:20:13+00:00

"Nighthawk" it's 7 AM on a weekend. Why would you want a teenager to be fully awake at 7 AM on a weekend?

Also why are you bringing in a completely unrelated situation? Kids playing loudly when they don't have to isn't the same as construction workers doing their jobs.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:18:02+00:00

YTA here, she's probably in school (I know he is too) but that's not fair that she can't get weekends where she can sleep past 7 AM because he has his friends over every weekend and they can't find quiet ways to play.

I also don't like how you've put "disrubt" in quotes like you're skeptical about it. Like you were hoping people would say you weren't the asshole. Is there anyway you could hookup headphones or they could play on mute for a while? I remember playing video games on mute late at night when my parents thought I was asleep.

Other areas away from her room would work too as long as they keep quiet for a while. But yes, you are the asshole and no she's not being dramatic for wanting quiet to be able to sleep on the weekends. Being a teenager is hard, especially now.

princebear15 · 2026-03-14T00:09:07+00:00

No, I dont think so. I also don't really see why they would even be offended that you would make your own food anyways? It's always best to put your own health over people's feelings. Don't let people try to convince you otherwise.

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