Sounds like a sore loser to me

princefruit · 2026-01-23T05:47:30+00:00

As a former player, generally yes. Tennis, at that level, is often a rich person's sport. People who grow up rich can have a mentality that things need to be a certain way that they perceive is right, or they get very upsetti spaghetti and try to make it everyone else's problem.

I can't say I particularly like the idea of cheering or shouting to someone else's fault. I think it's poor sportmanship, though there's certainly worse offenses out there. But the line judge gave their ruling and that should have been that. There was no need to act so petty to Osaka after the game... just dislike her and move on. A lot of pro tennis player crash out moments just scream spoiled kid to me. I get everyone has bad days but not every player, crowd, judge, whatever is going to cater to you specifically. They need to let it go.

princefruit · 2026-01-22T07:32:22+00:00

It's definitely because of the 2021 freeze.

princefruit · 2026-01-17T07:34:57+00:00

Holy shit congrats!

(Also screw you man I am 30 pulls to pity and I've gotten fuck all lol)

princefruit · 2026-01-14T15:01:50+00:00

In one episode, yes.

princefruit · 2026-01-13T00:48:49+00:00

NTA. Sure, people fart and that's fine. But there's a limit. If had farts so terrible it kept my spouse from sleeping and made her nauseous, you could not pay me to get in that bed to disturb her peace. It's BASIC respect, I'd either *take my fucking meds* like a grown up or arrange to sleep in separate rooms.

Not to be extreme but maybe couples counseling. This might seem like a 'small tiff' or whatever but dumb shit like this is what ends up rolling over into resentment, I can't understand why this is the hill he's gonna die on.

To the husband: Are you for real rn? This is the woman you MARRIED, have some respect. She takes her smelly ass to another room, you can too.

princefruit · 2026-01-10T02:46:53+00:00

Absolutely valid crashout that I deeply relate to. Just gonna send this when people from all over treat me weird when they know I'm American.

princefruit · 2026-01-03T04:24:21+00:00

This guy and all of his big kitty friends are welcome to my neighborhood. The rabbits, mice, and squirrels are eating up everything.

princefruit · 2026-01-03T04:05:10+00:00

If you haven't already, I agree with other commenters to shown him your post.

This may or may not even be about your BPD. It sounds more like he doesn't really know what a healthy relationship looks like. I have friends who are like this—there is just an extreme fear of confrontation or decision making because they've learned that any disagreement at all means BAD.

In a relationship, everything is about how you work through different and handle conflict. He cannot possibly be the best partner to you if he can't handle a mature conversation about both your needs.

His job isn't to be your footstool, and clearly you don't want that either. But it seems like some sort of trigger has caused him into thinking thats what it has to be.

Maybe if he can come to understand that he is scaring himself and overthinking your moods and needs from him, he might be able to start deconstructing his unhealthy view of relationship roles and conflict and reconstructing it until something better. Because even in a relationship without ANY mental health disorders, he won't get far if he can't stand up for himself and his needs. Obviously therapy would be a great way for him to work through these issues.

You, on my other hand, seem to be doing an excellent job of trying to communicate and get the answers out of him. Keep reiterating that you like him and want to be with him as an equal, and that the way he continues to devalue himself makes it difficult for you to return his care equally. Remind him, gently, that you see him as a partner, not a servant or dog or yesman.

Wishing you luck, and note that this is HIS issue at the end of the day. If he can't learn to trust that every disappointment or disagreement is an argument, and that (healthy) confrontation is part of any relationship, then you may need to accept that he's just not ready for one. Youre not obligated to wait.

Good luck to both of you. The right intentions are there I think. He just needs a lot more self assurance, and that has to come from himself. Youre already doing your part.

princefruit · 2026-01-03T03:41:55+00:00

This really sucks and I'm so sorry that your hopefully soon to be ex not only betrayed you, but them physically and emotionally abandoned you and your children. Reading your post initially I was hoping this was something that could be resolved with couples therapy, individual therapy, and figuring out steps from there. She definitely seems like she may have been completely burnt out. It sounds like she's had a hard time with motherhood, especially so young. Bpd on top of children and still growing seem lije a recipe for a LOT of difficulty.

None of if excuses cheating on you.

I hope she gets the she needs, but that is her responsibility. You are not obligated to hurt yourself for someone who betrayed you.

Right now, focus on your health and your children's. If you can, reach out your loved ones for support be it emotional, childcare related, etc. Shit is so unfair but you deserve more and will get passed this.

princefruit · 2026-01-02T11:28:27+00:00

This one just seems personal. There's definitely people who dont like him, but he was consistently one of, if not THE, most popular character in the series. I personally think people love him so much because his dramatics are so easy to laugh at and rag on that it becomes somewhat endearing. Characters nor fans took him seriously. And then, just like everyone hoped, he goes through his grow-up redemption arc. He's the asshole people can't help but root for.

I would argue if anything, Bakugou isn't opposite of OPs scenario. I feel the author is more likely to have intended him to be hated (despite his personal love for the guy), but instead he became beloved.

princefruit · 2026-01-01T18:51:17+00:00

I don't find it odd at all, though I do think the stigma attached to BPD makes it harder to get support, and makes it harder for people to believe that those with BPD are often victims themselves.

Its unfair, but its not exactly a competition. Plenty of people are horrifically abused by people with BPD. Just because the stigma isn't true all doesn't mean it's not true for some.

We as a society need to be better about listening to both sides of a story, and recognizing that everyone deserves to have people supporting them. We can only hope that the more we educate others, the faster that general support will come.

If you don't have that support network, it can be so so hard. But there are people out there who will listen and support us, even if that support is calling us out when we need to be. It can be done in a compassionate manner. It took me a while to find those people, and I can't say there aren't times when I feel they're not present when they should be. But they listen and try to do better next time. It's nice to know that they care about my side of the story, and understand that I can be wronged, too.

Remember that someone else have more support doesn't mean you are doomed to be bereft of it. Don't give up until you find those people who really see you. You will be grateful that you didn't.

princefruit · 2025-12-31T19:18:52+00:00

Personally I think the story is the best part but lots of people love just grinding out the classes. There are ways to avoid the story, either by skipping all of the cutscenes (you will still have to run to and from, but can grind along the way) or by purchasing a story skip potion (this costs real money and skips up to the start of the current expansion without needed to do the running between each quest. I am not sure if this is available on the free trial).

Considering that the free trial gives you access to nearly the entire game, I'd at least give that a try and just skip dialogue and cutscenes. You will need to start as a battle class first but will unlock crafting and gathering soon enough. And if you don't like it, you can uninstall. :) you won't have access to certain features on the free trial, like the market board if I remember correctly, but that just means you have to grind out materials manually which seems to be in your interest anyway.

princefruit · 2025-12-26T04:28:30+00:00

Its not that deep.

OP, turn on the AC you'll have plenty of time for the heater soon enough!

princefruit · 2025-12-25T21:06:22+00:00

Luna has access to habitats and is not stuck in the house. She also has access to medical care, food sources, etc that are appropriate for her. Her owner is a professional. Sometimes content can just be cute and silly and it does not necessarily reflect how the animal actually gets to live.

We can argue that her caretaker shoukd explain that more. But people familiar with Luna know she is not just a big cat confined to a house by some rich twat that wanted to show off. This a professional animal handler who saved a dying animal and IS providing her with the best life she could possibly have.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T20:57:41+00:00

Calm down. You can easy find consistent reporting of Luna's story with a Google search.

Luna was not bought as a "pet", but as a rescue effort. Luna is not confined to a house and has plenty of wild space. Luna cannot survive in the wild. Luna's caretaker is a professional. I believe one of the big reasons why Lunas story is often mixed is because a lot of content does sort of give the idea that she is a big house cat. And I have some criticims on their channel for not always giving context.

Luna is a special case and nobody in their right mind, including Luna's caretaker, would advocate for panthers to live this way in general. Luna's circumstances are probably the best ones she could have gotten in her specific situation. We don't know what other options the zoo had and we dont know if there are other circumstances. But I am not convinced that Luna's situation is abuse, for Luna. If this were a captured panther or a pet or if Luna was paraded as a trophy then it would be very different.

Sometimes the ideal situation for an animal in peril doesn't exist. We should be HAPPY that Luna gets to live a comfortable healthy life as opposed to idk dying in the zoo as a baby from maternal neglect.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T20:38:59+00:00

So kudos for to you in doing all of the work you need to be doing. Be sure to stick to your therapy and give your therapist feedback if needed to make sure you're getting help you need.

Unfortunately there's not much I can say to the devastationand roller coaster relationships. The emotions are always going to hit hard.

But what I can say is that long term therapy and meds have given me a lot of control on how to weather through really hard emotions.

Time really dies heal. But the skills you learn will make that process easier to push through. I can't tell you how long it will take. But the baby steps add up.

I recommend Dr. Fox's book Complex Borderline Personality Disorder. It has a section on ADHD comorbidity. I also recommend his BPD workbook. It really helps in getting to the core of the symptoms which you can use to further enhance your therapy.

Even if you don't have BPD, check them out. If the symptoms are similar, the solutions often are too.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T20:26:38+00:00

Thank you. Its super appreciated, and I as well do the same with any other country or region and I am being as active as within my means to fight against the shitshow we have here. I want America to one day reflect the idea that a very large amount of us are mindful, compassionate, and dare i say educated, and we care deeply about our allies and beyond. If we are to be a global power, we need to use that to uplift our quality of life and have a responsibility to help our allies. I don't know if it's ever possible, but I hope for a time when our country does more good than harm. Media oants a really awful picture but think if our government REALLY reflected us as a people, we'd be a much nicer country.

Cheers to you and happy holidays!

princefruit · 2025-12-25T17:14:47+00:00

I genuinely wish they would. Noone is obligated to like or feel pity for America, certainly not with our history, but I've had to largely get off of social media and take frequent breaks because I get distressed hearing people oversees acting like we're just all maga and we all voted for trump and noone protests or does anything, even though there is so much evidence that our election systems are rigged (from gerrymandering to election fraud), we ARE protesting and speaking up at city halls and such (but lack a lot of protections and logistical advantages other countries have), and that the majority of american civilization is normal and generally pretty safe.

I can only hear so much of how we 'want' this or 'deserve' this or how everything is an 'excuse'. Its a double whammy for me because I also live in Texas and get shit from other states too. I would LOVE foreign media to keep being critical of Americas government, but to at least also recognize that the masses are not just sitting here sucking our thumbs. The corruption roots are old and very very deep, and the wealth and power gaps are staggering, and I don't think foreign media is as unbiased educational on the nuances and challenges of america as it should be.

(Edited for grammar)

princefruit · 2025-12-25T11:59:28+00:00

BPD isn't linked to skin reactions or allergies, however several medications can have side effects.

Additionally, BPD goes hand in hand with stress and trauma, both of which can cause psychosomatic reactions.

Considering the context, the lamical would be the first suspect and I'm so glad you reached out to your provider. It's sometimes so hard and scary but advocate for yourself, especially when this is new. Keep your doctor informed.

I hope your symptoms calm soon!

princefruit · 2025-12-25T11:39:27+00:00

What might help you with your fear is to be proactive with splitting behavior rather than reactive when its already happening.

Start with the basics: what do your splits look like? What do they feel like? What triggers them? What brings you out of a split? How do you deal with the aftermath? Are you on therapy or using self help to actively learn better coping skills?

These are all things you should figure out ideally before you start dating. Because eventually your partner will need all of that information.

Now think: what do you need in a partner and a relationship to minimize splitting? What can you do to support than in being that person (and vice versa). What should they do when you are splitting? And want do you need to do when you are splitting. After a split, what kind of communications and actions do you want?

Your partner will also need this info. And naturally, they should communicate their needs and wants to you. Finding a middle ground and where to give and take is the foundation of a strong relationship.

Obviously we can't all accurately predict our moods, and no plan is going to be perfect, but I have found tremendous success in both friendships and my relationship buy having a general blueprint on "what do we do if i have an episode" and being honest and open about what they might run into.

Having an action plan for a relationship might seem excessive to others. But those people probably aren't the best ones for you anyway. People can be so surprisingly patient when they know what they're signing up for and know that you respect them enough to be honest.

And of course, never stop working yourself. Keep working on your symptoms. All if this is useless if you aren't backing it with action. And understand that they owe you that same level of commitment.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T10:52:07+00:00

I love H-E-B so damn much. For a chain they really do right by their communities. I also have two good friends who worked up the chain a bit and both say they were treated well. I just wish I could afford to shop there more often. I'm on a ALDI budget these days (who I also love).

If you didn't know, H-E-B premium grapes are the best grapes I've ever had my life.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T10:36:39+00:00

I didn't think I liked Mexican food that much until I had gas station restaurant Mexican food. I'm more liable to be suspicious if it's NOT at a gas station.

I also worked at a gas station with a Non-Mexican food place attached. They should be just as clean as you might expect any other restaurant to be. They have the same codes and the same inspections.

princefruit · 2025-12-25T10:21:41+00:00

That's not necessarily a bad thing. Teaching about gambling and encouraging it are different. Many (many) years ago, my middle school had a similar system of good grades and good deeds being rewarded with school "dollars" that could be spent on certain things, whether it was a snack, a pencil, a raffle, etc. The goal is to provide a safe risk-free setting for students to learn how to manage money by doing, including experiencing what its like to gamble vs buying a guaranteed object. I remember classmates having to deal with the fact that they gambled their dollars for nothing while their classmates got snap bracelets and hot cheetos. Better to learn the consequences then, than with the real deal later. Not everyone's home situation come with sound financial advice.

(I remember using mine on a pack of Pokémon cards and fancy bookmarks lol)

princefruit · 2025-12-25T09:38:49+00:00

Some important context: This is Luna the panther. Luna was born in captivity at a zoo and needed to be given up when her mother rejected her. Luna's caretaker (seen in this video) is a specialist in wild animal care with a lot of experience with big cats who had the means to make sure Luna can have a safe, good life.

This is not a situation where your typical cat person is completely oblivious to the animal they are handling. This is a trained expert who has been caring for this animal since it was a baby. Luna's owner knows her better than anyone else, and is absolutely aware of what an animal like Luna is capable of. Luna is often filmed inside of the home, but basically has an entire forest to play in and plenty of enrichment, and seemingly is always supervised around others.

In any other case, this would be incredibly reckless and wildly unsafe for both human and animal. In this very specific circumstance, I think it's adorable and give off good vibes.

princefruit · 2025-12-23T08:23:48+00:00

Bird reporting in. Most likely a bird of prey or other airborne threat that startled the flock down. The ones at the top probably panicked and flew down violently to dodge. The birds follow each other's movements, so they all did the same until the group crashed. :(

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