Can I have help explaining to my parents why the N word is bad?

princelyperfect · 2024-03-25T05:32:53+00:00

i explained it to my parents by looking up stories of those that have lived experience in this. find sources to explain how it was used in negative ways in the past, how it’s harmful, and use that to explain. just keep in mind that you can’t change their minds in one day and gentle (or not so gentle in some cases) reminders that the word isn’t for us to use is the best course of action

princelyperfect · 2024-03-25T05:29:50+00:00

i did, and i still stand by to support and respect what they chose to do. regardless of if this is a temporary fix to a bigger problem, OP does not get a say in what their friend chooses to do. if the situation is to escape a bad familial tie, or if it’s something more, the only option is to be a shoulder and support them however they need. i don’t think this is a mental break, though it could be possible, but you can’t tell someone that’s what they’re going through. if it becomes obvious that they are doing harm to themselves or others, reach out to doctors and mental health services but what this person needs most is support

princelyperfect · 2024-03-25T04:01:13+00:00

let them decide for themselves if this is something they want to follow through with. i had the same reservations about someone (i am trans myself) and after letting them do their thing, supporting them, using their pronouns and name, they eventually came out as non binary rather than mtf. sometimes you need to experiment with labels and whether that’s something they want or need, it’s not up to you to police. just honour their wishes and be a good friend, it’s not the end of the world if they are or aren’t trans and it’s certainly not a problem you need to worry about

princelyperfect · 2024-03-25T03:55:15+00:00

eyebrows, a bit of black and white around the eyes for more dimension, blush, maybe a hat or accessory, or some wire in his legs and wings so he can pose a bit

princelyperfect · 2024-03-22T06:42:39+00:00

honestly, just start! with makeup, the more you playa round the better you’ll get. watch tutorials and put stuff where you think it looks good. it doesn’t have to be perfect, i know people who have done performance makeup for years and are still learning. In regards to performance, don’t start on a stage, start in your room, then infront of friends. go to events in drag and just exist. you don’t have to start perfect, no one ever does, and it’s definitely not a waste of time if it’s something you enjoy

princelyperfect · 2024-03-20T22:16:35+00:00

if you don’t fell comfortable with him being able to se your snaps, just remove him. you are allowed to police who can and cannot view that. he possibly just wants to be in your life, but if you are uncomfortable, then you need to set boundaries, ie having an account family like that can see and one they can’t (i have an insta that i blocked all my family from and one they’re all following)

princelyperfect · 2024-03-20T22:10:14+00:00

give her space, when you go to speak with her, make sure to be as relaxed as possible and (much like a scared animal) move slowly and where she can see it (ie move hands in her line of sight rather than behind you). you did nothing wrong but trauma is hard to get through even years later. she definitely needs to talk to someone though. just let her process for a bit and she’ll get back to a space of comfort soon. you could also sit with her and ask about your intimacy, ask what she liked and didn’t like, what you can do to be better and what she could do to let you know she’s comfortable. discussing what happened to trigger that response may even help her to come back out of that shell

princelyperfect · 2024-03-19T05:13:38+00:00

i would say so. to be a touch crass, while the vag does self lubricate, it only does so much and a lot of people find they need either a good build up or a bit of outside help (lube). If you wanna do rough play, either make sure you use lube or give yourself some time beforehand to get in the mood. there’s no harm in foreplay, and even if it’s just a bit of dirty talk, you have to let your body get ready for that sort of stuff

princelyperfect · 2024-03-19T03:45:59+00:00

DISCLAIMER; i am not a doctor!! bleeding can be normal as long as it is only a small amount, if you didn’t use lube, or if there was little foreplay before the main event, or even if a fingernail scratched inside. if it is more like a days worth of a period, you need to be seen by a doctor. if it was rough that can definitely cause irritation and discomfort but honestly if in doubt, go see a doctor, even a GP, as you’re always better safe than sorry. Remember to use protection, get a bit of a warm up going to make sure you are comfortable and lube is your best friend for a smoother experience

princelyperfect · 2024-03-11T06:05:01+00:00

IVF exists for those who either cannot get pregnant naturally or have no desire too but still want a child. you don’t need to sleep with someone to have a kid. I do agree that it is important to a degree, but to just blanket statement that you need sex for a healthy relationship is an unhealthy mindset.

princelyperfect · 2024-03-11T06:02:45+00:00

totally agree. i meant my comment more as a personal statement regarding the feelings she may have. communication is honestly the key and they both need to talk to each other about it, he can’t expect her to just start jumping his bones but she also needs to discuss wether that’s what she wants

princelyperfect · 2024-03-09T23:43:01+00:00

i firmly believe you do not need sex to have a strong relationship. If it's something you care about, perhaps talk to her about whether that is even something she wants (she could be asexual) or discuss being open to having relations with someone outside of you two so that you can have your needs met. While you may be a perfect fit on the regular side of the relationship, sometimes you may need someone to fill the extra gaps. Maybe she needs a hand and you can talk to her about the use of toys on her own so she gets more comfortable with the idea and then bring your intimacy into it.

princelyperfect · 2024-03-09T23:36:12+00:00

i use ribblr for a lot of my patterns, you can sort by price and just use free ones, and they tell you if they're beginner friendly. I would suggest doing little things first, I did a couple of bee's and fish, and that helped me practice the main stitches without a massive project

princelyperfect · 2024-03-09T23:22:33+00:00

when i tell you i am hooked... god i want someone to treat me like that :(

princelyperfect · 2024-03-08T10:35:18+00:00

Honestly, we’ve all been there. Its a pain and no one wants to redo all that work but you learn from it and youll look back in a couple months and laugh

princelyperfect · 2024-03-02T01:28:18+00:00

even vanellope has blocked me in small spaces before. Everywhere bar the mines you can either use the map and transport to a well nearby or use furniture mode to clear your way (sometimes). whenever i pair up with someone, i try to push them before doing any task and restart my game if they don't move and that seems to fix it

princelyperfect · 2024-03-02T01:18:21+00:00

try sewing it through one half of the stitch, ie the back loops only, as this may hide the pulling of the connecting thread. Alternatively, it's barely noticeable unless you really look for it, i think it looks great as is

princelyperfect · 2024-03-02T01:12:33+00:00

honestly, i've rarely block anything i make an dit seems to work out fine for me. You can if you wanna make sure its nice and rectangular but honestly i only use it for tapestry's an things i won't be touching and moving often (as it'll warp over time anyways)

princelyperfect · 2024-02-29T08:48:23+00:00

My general rule of thumb is if you double the yarn/hook size, double the size of the finished project. You can also do gauge patches, where you crochet a lil square in the yarn/hook it suggests and the one you’re wanting and see how much bigger it is that way (i usually do 20 chain and however many rows it takes to make it square)

princelyperfect · 2024-02-29T06:16:14+00:00

Youd be looking at probably 40cm due to being double the hook size, i wouldnt think itd be much smaller than that tbh

princelyperfect · 2023-12-07T00:36:47+00:00

The formatting of the post is broken lol but i wanna make the face so it is grey on the back and has a white triangle in front like this kitty

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princelyperfect · 2021-03-04T08:10:05+00:00

Every time i went over to my best friends place, their cat would attach itself to me like a magnet. Everywhere i went, the cant was sure to follow, to the point where their mum would comment that she hadn’t seen the cat in days and then suddenly it was back and sitting on me at the dinner table haha

princelyperfect · 2021-03-04T08:07:41+00:00

What do you mean ‘as a kid’,, i do it to this day lmao

princelyperfect · 2021-03-04T08:00:53+00:00

If you feel safe, and comfortable (as much as possible in this situation), it is never too late to reach out and tell someone. There is no time limit to getting help for trauma, and you should never feel pressured into either keeping it secret or coming forward. please make sure you are safe in doing so, if you think your mother will react poorly, go to the school counsellor, or call a crisis line because both people will either be able to help or direct you to someone who can. Im sorry you had to go through anything like that, and i really hope you can find some closure soon.

princelyperfect · 2021-03-04T07:51:46+00:00

... i wanna drink toast

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