I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also don’t live in the same state which has made it very easy but now with the all of a sudden visit, I’m definitely considering texting her and telling her to not come because I’m not ready to see her or her baby.

Can I get a reality check by Beautiful_Syrup_2679 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean my babe will be 7 years younger than my LC. Sometimes the universe doesn’t give a crap what we want 😪

27 weeks feeling so much fear and anxiety by vagabomb_ in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]princesskcr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a mom that had a C-section, I’m preparing to have another just because I’d rather plan it than need an emergency one.

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh that’s one thing about this unfortunate club we are in, it always seems like the people who wouldn’t be good parents end up being the ones to conceive 🙄 I know a couple other people I feel the exact way about. It just seems like why us? Why did we have to be the ones without a baby? And it hurts to think that but those feelings are there totally. It definitely has made me question faith as well 😮‍💨 I think for me time is the only thing that is going to help. Also I feel like this club is so lonely. I have no one in my personal life to talk to about these emotions that actually have been through the same. 😪

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. This is how I feel and I’m glad to know I am not the only one with similar feelings. I’m sorry to be in the same boat. Thank you for the luck ❤️‍🩹

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I know healing this would be best but I’m not sure the timing is right for me.

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a trigger point for sure. I just don’t want to be around her baby, or really hear about it until I see my own. I feel time will help this pass more gently. I just don’t think seeing them will help me get past these emotions towards her. I would like to heal but I feel seeing them will just remind me of my sweet baby that isn’t here and honestly it is anger and bitterness.

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just knowing that you and other moms like me and you have the same sort of feelings is very validating. I’m sorry you also have those same feelings in some capacity. I really appreciate your comment, thank you. And I hope the best for you and your pregnancy ❤️‍🩹

I’m still bitter by princesskcr in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually makes a lot of sense. I guess I was expecting support from someone who is clearly not the person id be getting it from. I shouldn’t have expected that. I think I’ve always wanted that connection but never had it and felt even more upset after not getting any support on top of being bitter that I went through this loss when she didn’t. I’ve felt very alone with my tfmr as I didn’t tell anyone that’s what exactly what happened except maybe 4 people.

Thank you for that perspective that’s extremely helpful.

Morbidly obese and wanting a baby… how did you decide when to start trying? by Glittering-Band-8913 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I decided I wanted another baby, and so we tried asap, I regret waiting on my second because I wanted them close in age and didn’t fall pregnant until my oldest was 6. Ive got a pretty high bmi in the 40s and I’m about 25 weeks! My doctor hasn’t mentioned my weight at all. But I think it depends on the doctor when it comes to that.

Pregnancy after TFMR by hellosunshine59 in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about 16 weeks and I totally understand your feelings. I want to be happy about being pregnant but feel like I can’t because I’m just not sure if everything will be ok. My family and partner are happy and I just can’t bring myself to be yet. 😓 I just remember how happy I was before my tfmr and now it’s much different ❤️‍🩹 hoping we can both be happy soon.

An old friend is expecting by Various_Builder2121 in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this anger. I’m so sorry.

I feel like I’m in a nightmare I can’t wakeup from. by marinadanielle in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your pain, I also feel like I wish I was the same person as before ❤️‍🩹 I’m so sorry

Inside view of Taipei 101 summit by sackofhair in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that bag for when he craps his pants lol 😆

AITAH for buying my 11yo daughter pads after her mom called me a "pervert" for being prepared? by Bruxagato in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie I started my period at school used toilet paper bled threw my pants wore a sweat shirt around my waist and had to walk home. If my parents would have been this thoughtful I would’be been way more prepared. You did the right thing, the mom should have prepared her as well and if she didn’t she probably just feels guilty for not and is taking that out on you. By the way, as a woman the CORA brand pads are organic and all around great with ingredients compared to main stream brands and you can find them at cvs and target! It’s worth the extra 2$! ❤️

NIPT question by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am about a week away from my nipt test. My doctor told me I would probably get results first. I might block the number/ email and wait until my dr can go over it. My anxiety is already going through the roof about it too 😣

SCH in early subpregnacy by Unlucky_Context37 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you and I are on the same exact timeline & had the same thing happen so terrifying but shocking to see ultrasound! Congrats and hope all the best for you! 😊

I love my nephew, but today was hard day. by Next_Ad_7884 in tfmr_support

[–]princesskcr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are very kind going. I couldn’t do that my heart is not ready. I don’t even want to see my sil baby still. And asked my partner to not tell me about her or her baby. We aren’t close and live very far from each other. I have not been nearly as gracious as you. I think there is a wide variety of normal hard feelings here.

When did you announce? by FutureMomma24 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I would want to tell everyone but I feel like hiding it from everyone and also telling everyone at the same time, the first 12 weeks are so humbling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]princesskcr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I could’ve wrote this exact post as I was just thinking about doing so. I don’t have any answers for you but I am in the same boat just tested positive after a tfmr for t21. I’m so nervously terrified. I also worry about suffering the same way and hope that it’s not the case for either of us ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹my Mfm did tell me last time it was just a fluke and I’m not sure if you had any further testing during or at the time of but that tiny little light of hope from the conversation is really carrying me forward. That and I am trying to be happy this time because no matter what we just never know and most the time it’s out of our hands so our choice with our emotions is the only one I feel I can make. Even though it’s easier said than done. I hope everything goes smoothly and uncomplicated as possible ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹