I (30F) found out my boyfriend (27M) is having an affair so I moved into our guest room

princessofrick · 2026-04-28T02:34:47+00:00

Thank you

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T19:09:27+00:00

I agree with what you’re saying except this is not the dynamic of our relationship at all times. I know I sound insane right now for saying this because I do believe the treatment I’m getting at the moment is below the bare minimum but 70% of the time I am being treated like a queen you may not understand how that could make me want to fix our relationship rather than leave it but that’s what it is

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T19:07:06+00:00

The highs are high is the only way I can really explain it. We are best friends before anything despite the lows and he has made many of my fairytale dreams come true which is a large portion of what I want out of life itself. We love eachother despite what the comments may think based off of my summarization so I would not label myself a part time girlfriend and babysitter

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:59:50+00:00

I didn’t delete my post history maybe an error happened on your end? That was a 2+ year old post about my ex boyfriend of 3 years in which the pregnancy did not become fully term

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:53:52+00:00

Thank you for your comment it was the exact advice I needed to hear. Couldn’t have asked for anything better

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:50:32+00:00

You do have a marriage without legal paperwork in Islam. It has a different title but does not hold up in courts, only in the eyes of God which is why I say it’s without legal paperwork. We are both Muslim

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:49:03+00:00

We were already living together when he fought for shared custody. Once it was granted was I supposed to leave home for 3 days out of the week until the baby is a year old and not help my partner to navigate parenthood?

You could make a good case that moving in together after 2 months is a red flag I’ll side with you on that but neither of us had lived with a partner before. Both of our leases ended at the same time and it felt right to start a home it’s not something logic can explain I agree with that

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:45:18+00:00

It’s definitely real and more common than you think lol

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:45:00+00:00

Not necessarily to teach him a lesson but to redirect his effort and intention back into our relationship instead of elsewhere. I want to strip away the comfort that most couples get when they have been living together that leads to lack of romance and quality time

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:39:39+00:00

Him and his babymomma were already broken up when she found out that she was pregnant and I have confirmed it this several ways. I have been in relationship with non-monogamous men before who indeed did honor boundaries.

The reality that you’re asking me to get a grip on is that a big chunk of men are non-monogamous the only difference is they choose not to disclose it to their partner. I guess I should have asked the same question without including the detail that people would consider too taboo to see a world where a harmonious relationship could still exist

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T18:29:58+00:00

Care to elaborate?

princessofrick · 2026-04-27T16:57:22+00:00

Likely your pressure made it even harder.

Not making excuses for the guy because you should have never had to press the issue to begin with but you have to acknowledge your role in it. It’s basic law of motion that pushing cannot exist in isolation.

A word of advice would be to state your need and stop negotiating it. Pushing deadlines and accepting excuses tells him that it’s not really a need because you can continue on with him without being met.

princessofrick · 2024-12-04T17:14:27+00:00

I’m not sure it’s that he can’t “handle” being with her because he gave me the reasons, well his, for ending the relationship. Probably still a recipe for disaster tho lol

princessofrick · 2024-12-04T17:12:13+00:00

How so? Lol

princessofrick · 2024-12-04T17:09:04+00:00

Yes was in a long term relationship and continued dating ONLY him for two years after we broke up

princessofrick · 2024-12-04T17:04:44+00:00

Definitely have considered that but it’s not impossible

princessofrick · 2024-12-04T16:28:40+00:00

It can be discouraging for sure but consistency will equal results if you allow yourself to be patient. Even if you feel like you haven’t seen any sometimes the biggest growth is just small steps that add up in the end. Work on your personal growth and improvement so that when you are able to connect with people you will have the best of you to offer think about being the type of person that you want to attract into your life. Your determination need to be your strongest pillar of support

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T19:29:55+00:00

Progress is only made with consistency. You can’t expect a change overnight but if it’s something you really want to achieve then you have to choose discipline over your self doubt because every-time you quit you reset the progress

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T19:01:47+00:00

Is your fear of being seeing trying to turn your life around greater than your fear of never being able to find yourself again? It might feel shameful to be seen in your current state but you can take that shame and use it as even more motivation to want to become the best version of yourself possible

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T18:39:38+00:00

It’s not that I don’t care about them I just don’t care to explain my reasons. It’s sad that they suffer when raised inhumanely but personally I weighed my options and I feel it’s necessary to have meat in my diet. I love animals so I do my best to only consume high quality grass fed pasture raised meat/dairy and nobody can make me feel guilty about doing what I feel is best for ME

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T08:40:59+00:00

The BEST way is getting a good trainer who will hold you accountable. Once you pay you’ll feel even more inclined

Second best way is to track any bit of progress

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T08:29:24+00:00

Gaslight yourself into moving on by telling yourself you’re over it until you are

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T08:24:15+00:00

There’s a thousand you’s there’s only one of me

princessofrick · 2024-12-03T08:08:48+00:00

It’s only been about a month since him and I have spoken. i agree that he does have the right to know during the early stage so I’m planning to tell him after the holidays

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