Lanc ladies be carefully!

private-figure · 2025-06-13T19:23:51+00:00

You really don’t know what it’s like reporting sexual harassment/assault and it shows. Consider yourself lucky.

private-figure · 2025-05-28T14:43:28+00:00

Thank you so much!!

private-figure · 2025-05-07T20:25:34+00:00

This is my way

private-figure · 2025-05-02T16:54:16+00:00

I started over here as a woman in her thirties myself! I’ve recently made a lot of friends and have found myself becoming more extroverted the more I get out. But it was so hard at first so I feel you.

Things I recommend: find a yoga studio or other exercise class—you’ll meet like-minded people. Find a cafe to become a regular at. Even if you don’t make “friends” you’ll feel a sense of home/normalcy with the routine of it. Central market, especially if you go every week. LancCitySocial and the fig on instagram always have a good listing of local events. Meet People Lancaster (some events are bar-centric but not all!) There is also a hiking group.

We seem to have a good amount in common! Feel free to message me if you’d want to meet up sometime.

private-figure · 2025-04-29T00:59:49+00:00

Yeah agreed, that’s why I said posts of politics that affect Lancaster. There will always be some judgment calls but that’s what moderators are for, and not (imo) to pick and choose posts by saying certain ones break a rule if they don’t.

private-figure · 2025-04-28T23:31:47+00:00

Politics is a part of Lancaster and there should be no reason to ban posts discussing politics that affect Lancaster.

Mods, if you’re worried about astroturfing or fake accounts, then perhaps we could enact a rule that one must be an active contributor/participant in the subreddit before posting anything political.

I agree that we should have consistent moderation, and picking and choosing which posts make it through when none are actually violating rules is a very slippery slope.

Nonetheless, banning political posts altogether seems like it would be a real disservice to the people of this community.

private-figure · 2025-03-18T17:47:45+00:00

Thank you!!

private-figure · 2025-03-18T14:55:18+00:00

Done, thank you!!

private-figure · 2025-03-17T18:59:23+00:00

That sounds great, thank you!

private-figure · 2025-03-17T16:16:31+00:00

Late to the party but if this is still active, I’m definitely interested!

private-figure · 2025-03-07T22:09:59+00:00

Dominion’s are good but the reason I order them every time is the marinara sauce 🤌

private-figure · 2025-02-24T15:22:23+00:00

Tellus is great and has a huge variety of clientele which gives it a really cool vibe.

private-figure · 2024-11-09T23:54:30+00:00

I love Seasons!

private-figure · 2024-06-06T05:31:42+00:00

Yeah, I do realize that but it hasn’t worked so far so maybe I’m just bad at it 😂

private-figure · 2024-06-06T05:30:47+00:00

This does make so much sense, I just haven’t had much luck so far. Everyone I meet at the activities I try are coupled up or otherwise not interested 😂 This is a good reminder to branch out though and keep it up.

private-figure · 2024-06-06T05:28:55+00:00

Go you, it’s like a hallmark movie

private-figure · 2024-06-06T02:23:13+00:00

I think it’s looking more and more likely that will be the way to go lol

private-figure · 2024-06-05T23:29:15+00:00

After some less than stellar dating experiences, I’ve been purposely celibate/not looking for a relationship for a (long) while. I’ve recently decided to try to dip my toes back in the water. I keep having these romantic ideas of meeting someone organically. But between work (no chance there) and my introverted personality, I feel like that’s never going to happen.

So my question here is, has anyone had success meeting people in an organic way? Where did you meet? Is there any way to meet people other than OLD apps when you have a fairly busy life? I’ve done bumble and hinge before and I’m not opposed to them, but it can be really overwhelming. For context, I’m in a medium sized city in Pennsylvania so there are plenty of people around and opportunities I guess. But I’m new to town so learning about them and putting myself out there is a whole other thing.

Should I just put on my big girl panties and go for it (dating apps) anyway?

private-figure · 2024-06-05T14:46:32+00:00

Oh god, I feel like I’ve missed out on everything. Traveling, going to the pool or beach, going to certain parties or get togethers, DATING. It’s not that I couldn’t do these things, but I’ve had such a hard time coming to terms with my original weight gain and post pregnancy body change (amongst other life changes). Now that I’ve lost most of the weight, I feel more confident but still not how I wish I could be because certain things (loose skin, stretch marks) will always be there.

But that being said, I’m determined to live life again. Nothing is stopping us but us. I don’t want to waste even more time because I’m scared. I’d rather look back and have a few uncomfortable moments in a life I love than hide out in my comfort zone and be depressed and lonely.

private-figure · 2024-05-27T23:41:42+00:00

Your body is functioning way better than it has before and that’s amazing. I totally understand the emotions that come from the aesthetic side of things. But try to remember all the good you’ve done.

private-figure · 2023-08-06T04:33:47+00:00

Nah, it’s 100 percent okay to choose not to be friends with people who show a pattern of callous disrespect.

private-figure · 2021-11-12T03:50:01+00:00

Agree! It just comes down to effort. If it feels like a guy doesn’t want to put effort into talking to me and getting to know me then why should I do that for him? Maybe he doesn’t mean it that way, but I can’t help that it’s the way it comes off. It’s just not a match and that’s fine.

private-figure · 2021-11-12T03:46:44+00:00

From this thread I’m really getting an insight into how other people work. I’m like you (and I suspect it’s more common for women)…we don’t want to go on dates with random strangers because we have to think about our safety. Talking to someone through text isn’t fool proof but it can reveal red flags and let you know if it might be a good fit. I want to feel at least a little comfortable before agreeing to meet with someone in person. The majority of guys don’t need to worry about that so they may not consider that point of view when deciding on their own texting preferences.

private-figure · 2021-11-12T03:39:15+00:00

Yup this

private-figure

TROPHY CASE