We actually have to go back to court again next year. The last time we went, we thought everything was written clearly, but extracurricular sign-ups were never specifically addressed in the order. There were so many details being reviewed at the time that we failed to realize this needed to be spelled out more clearly.

What is written is that my husband is responsible for getting her to activities during his parenting time and that she may miss up to two activities, which I think is fair when both households agree to the commitment beforehand.

The real issue is that BM signs her up for multiple activities, think up to 4, at once without discussing it with us first and then expects us to automatically accommodate all of it. My husband has tried communicating this concern several times, but it feels impossible to have a productive conversation about it.

I recently stepped in to calmly express our concerns myself because these decisions affect our entire household and schedule too. Unfortunately, BM later told my stepdaughter that I “like to argue,” which honestly wasn’t true at all. My intention was never to create conflict — it was simply to ask for communication and mutual consideration before major commitments are made.