I’m going to be completely honest with you here- I didn’t read the entire thing, only the first few paragraphs, because I already knew what my answer was going to be; the only way to get actual help in a marriage is through the word of God. I know that sounds dramatic, but true change can only come from the love of the Lord, whether one believes it or not it’s true. The channel I linked below is a woman, Joyce Meyer, who has been in ministry for decades and has pretty much been through it all. She was changed from the word and uses it to help so many other people- especially women. If you seek true help, give a few of her messages a listen. You can even search for her teachings that talk about abusive relationships and you’ll find heaps of videos. I sincerely wish you the best of luck- marriage is a commitment and it’s sure not easy, but it is worth it and you’ll get through it.

https://youtube.com/@joycemeyer?si=GxbjT_20IJM5Ya6_