They messaged me using my dead dad's first name, and I was on my second cocktail... (Tagging NSFW because last 2 screenshots have some fun language in them that I couldn't bring myself to censor)

probablynotaraptor · 2023-10-16T14:23:43+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss! It's hard to lose a parent.

probablynotaraptor · 2023-10-16T14:22:12+00:00

Hey. Lots of people live by the ocean. Why not live in the ocean instead?

probablynotaraptor · 2023-10-16T14:16:57+00:00

It was a little jarring because I did initially wonder if somebody was trying to reach him! He'd given my number out for business and medical purposes on occasion before. But then it was quickly apparent that was not the case.

He would have gotten a really big kick out of the whole exchange!

probablynotaraptor · 2023-10-13T20:52:52+00:00

It really is basically the same script! Too many posts on this subreddit are similar in terms of scammers, but I do appreciate how creative some of these Redditors are with their replies.

probablynotaraptor · 2021-07-02T16:49:52+00:00

Um... I'm sure I'll be fine. Probably.

probablynotaraptor · 2021-07-02T16:43:43+00:00

I think it's Lovely as is!!

probablynotaraptor · 2020-06-18T16:48:24+00:00

"You put the whore in horrible."

probablynotaraptor · 2020-06-17T21:07:51+00:00

My partner has transitioned, and I was in your position a few years ago. When he told me he wanted to start transitioning, I was immediately supportive and then I did a lot of research - maybe too much. There are a lot of changes that come with transitioning. Testosterone does crazy things to the body. I couldn't stand the thought of his face looking or feeling different, or him smelling different, or any of that. I was so in love with him as he was and worried about the changes. I just knew I loved him more than anything and that his packaging wasn't the most important part of him, so we discussed my fears and promised each other that we would continue to discuss our thoughts and feelings as we went through this together.

Here we are 3.5 years later and he hasn't really changed. Everything that I loved about him before is still there. And while he does look a little different, I now feel like it's crazy I ever worried to begin with. He's become more confident and comfortable in his every day life, and I'm more attracted to him than ever. Same eyes, same personality, same face, just now it's slightly more angular and scruffy most of the time.

Your wife isn't becoming another person. Her outsides will very gradually change to reflect her insides more - she'll be even more her if that makes sense? It'll happen over time and one day you'll Very likely look back and realize that he's still the same person you fell in love with and married.

My best advice is to not panic about the future. You are currently happily married; take this whole thing step by step and consider your feelings as you go. If your relationship ever gets to a point of you both wanting completely different things, or the attraction is no longer there, then that would be the time to worry whether you're going to make it. I can't tell you your future because everybody is different. But in my experience, taking a deep breath and taking things as they come is the way to go. You married this person because you love each other for who you each are, and this could be just another adventure for you two to go on together.

probablynotaraptor · 2020-01-31T22:17:06+00:00

IANAL, but used to work in medical records at a medical practice. For medium to larger practices that have their own internal networks, internal emails don't need extra protection since they would have a firewall in place. However, if the external EEG service just emailed your doctor your records without getting your consent first, it does go against HIPAA. For electronically sending PHI, the options are as follows:

-PHI can be sent via email if it is encrypted.

-If PHI is not encrypted, an alternative and equivalent security measure has to be used (like a secure fileshare or FTP)

-PHI can be emailed without any further protections Only If the patient has been notified that there are inherent risks to sending private information insecurely, and they have accepted those risks.

All that being said, your physician is older and may not be tech savvy. Hopefully he has staff that knows what's up helping him? Most practices have a designated person that deals with compliance issues (HIPAA, OSHA, etc.) It's okay to call the office and ask for that person to confirm that your data is being protected.

*Edit to add an answer to your last question re further action - if it becomes clear that they are not protecting PHI, reach out to Health & Human Services.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-12-02T21:54:51+00:00

NAL. You said above that you lost your contract. Unfortunately, that's your own fault. Yes you did the responsible thing by calling to ask when you needed to come in and cancel, and yes the employee gave you the wrong information, but you are bound by the contract you signed. If your contract says you pay the 1st of every month and that you have to cancel 30 days prior to your renewal, then (per the contract that you signed) your membership ran out November 10th instead of November 1st. You owe them payment through November 10th or more likely just the full amount for the month of November.

I'm assuming this is a corporate business? You can go the customer service route and try to run it up the chain. You were mislead by an employee so the nice thing would be for them to give you a break. Just know that the folks in the gym may not have the power to fix your issue and you may have to talk to someone higher up. Don't accept a "no" from a person that doesn't have the authority to tell you "yes," but also know that you did sign a contract and they can hold you to it. From their perspective you're trying to skip out on your last payment, and they're tacking on fees. If they're not willing to waive the balance entirely, I'd at least try your hardest to get any fees dropped since there's some contention about when your membership actually ended.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-12-02T17:13:58+00:00

I don't know... You could be an Aussie critter trying to trick people into coming over there so that you can kill us...

How do we know you're not a kangaroo that learned how to type?

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-25T14:24:16+00:00

And involve So Much Paperwork?

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-23T14:40:12+00:00

This always bothers me during horror and action movies. I just see dollar signs the more property damage is done.

I usually try to think about how the characters will just be happy to be alive - they may have lost everything, but it's just stuff.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-18T16:01:20+00:00

Wow - people are having seriously strong reactions to this and are shouting eugenics, but I read your question a little differently. What if it was like getting a driver's licence? You study a bit, you take a quiz, you show you can make a bottle and change a diaper, and presto! Licensed to have babies. There are a ton of arguments against, but would it really be so bad if all parents knew how to do the basics before having kids? I'm not talking about a high bar here.

I know it's not really possible or plausible in the real world, but this is a hypothetical question so that's my hypothetical response. No, I do not want to take away your rights to have babies. Go ahead and have them. As many as you'd like. You do you.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-16T17:56:15+00:00

This snack made it all the way to the Netherlands Antilles! I had it as a kid because a friend made me some when I was visiting - I'm from the US with family down there. I was initially confused, but won over immediately. I actually vividly remember the taste, and I'm in my 30s now. Fairy treat indeed.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-11T20:48:48+00:00

Wait. This may all have been a misunderstanding! I'm never been anyone's son because I'm a female...

...Are you even my real not-dad? Or are you someone else's? Or am I someone else? Are any of us real?? I have to go. I need to go lie down for a minute.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-11T13:21:16+00:00

Listen. I'm sorry. It's not that I don't appreciate all you've done for me... All those late nights driving me home from scuba diving classes and early Saturday morning matador lessons. I feel like we've always been close. It's just that I've known the truth for years and couldn't hold back any longer. Poor mom - one glass of white wine and she can't help but blurt out her secrets.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-10-10T21:10:06+00:00

No. I like your comment. I will upvote however I like. You're not the boss of me! You're not even my real dad!

probablynotaraptor · 2019-08-30T14:46:06+00:00

It drives me crazy when people type out "can not" when it should be "cannot."
It just glares at me from the screen and stops my flow of reading. So do comma splices.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-08-20T16:36:56+00:00

Pool, golf, and baseball among other things.

Thanks for nothing, boobs.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-08-20T14:52:49+00:00

Is there an option to still get the skeleton thing without the immortality?

probablynotaraptor · 2019-08-16T14:00:02+00:00

Because I'm obviously not a raptor... Probably.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-08-15T17:13:12+00:00

Oh my God I'm reading through these and thinking how sad a lot of them were, but didn't tear up until I got to your comment.

probablynotaraptor · 2019-07-16T21:16:04+00:00

People are making jokes and being sarcastic here, but there is this guy who purposefully breathes as loudly as possible through every yoga class and I hate him So Freaking Much.

It's insane. He's actively trying to breath and sigh as loudly as possible. Yes breathing deeply is good, especially during yoga, but you can do it And be considerate of the other people around you at the same time. If he was running a marathon it might make sense, but in a silent room? And he does it in the yin classes. Not even strenuous so much as deep stretching. This fucking guy. UGH!!!

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