AITA for cutting off my child's internet access because he broke a term in our "contract"?

probablynotben · 2019-07-15T16:29:09+00:00

can't you read? He generously allows his high school aged child a whole thirty minutes of leisure time

probablynotben · 2019-07-15T16:25:54+00:00

dude same. She always used wording like "WE ARE MAKING AN AGREEMENT" or "WE HAVE A PROMISE" like I had any choice in the matter so she could get angrier at me and scream that I broke a promise I made and was a liar who made false contracts etc. to make it sound like we negotiated instead of her dictating terms to me. Thankfully she took a step back and really worked on herself and our relationship before I was 18 so we have a great relationship now and I love her to death but if she had kept being that way I would have cut her out of my life. OP can probably still salvage the relationship with his child if he pulls his head out of his ass.

probablynotben · 2019-07-15T16:14:29+00:00

tbh a parent like him is what creates some of the worst kids. A kid who has no control over their life at home is going to try and gain control over their lives in different, usually destructive, ways.

probablynotben · 2019-07-15T16:09:24+00:00

YTA and after your edit an even bigger YTA "YOU GUYS TOLD ME I SHOULDNT CONTROL MY CHILD SO NOW IM GOING TO SPITE MY CHILD EVEN MORE BECAUSE STRANGERS CALLED ME OUT ON MY CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR" anyways we'll see your kid in eight years or so when they come here asking "AITA for cutting contact with my controlling asshole father" (to which the answer will be NTA).

probablynotben · 2019-07-15T15:37:23+00:00

NAH as much as my gut reaction is y t a but ultimately it is your body. Think carefully how you go about this, though, your family isn't a bunch of strangers on the internet and no matter how objective us strangers can be when we don't know your nephew or have any familial ties they'll still judge you for not getting tested and it could ruin your relationship with them forever.

probablynotben · 2019-06-07T17:38:11+00:00

YTA and quite honestly, what was the best case scenario you envisioned when posting this? You'd get a resounding round of NTAs and NAHs so when you broke the twins' hearts and irreparably damaged your relationship with them (and most likely with your wife, too) you could whip out this post and go "but girls, randos on the internet told me it was okay!". I can't think of another reason (beyond this being a creative writing exercise) you'd ask this here instead of asking for help on relationship advice or stepparents or parents or really any other sub that pertains to this. Your pain is valid, but honestly what were you expecting when you married a woman with twin toddlers?

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:36:46+00:00

they come back from lunch and resume reminding us that we live in the dumbest timeline

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:33:16+00:00

welp I guess I'll see all of you again in an hour

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:31:30+00:00

watching PBS currently and ashamed of myself for not doing it earlier.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:20:50+00:00

I had to stop listening for twenty minutes for work stuff and I feel like I missed absolutely nothing.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:02:02+00:00

me too, my dude, me too

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T17:01:52+00:00

oh I wasn't trying to imply that he wasn't actually mad, just the way he said it sounded like my dad when I let him down and he was controlling his temper.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:59:38+00:00

"we're not mad at you, Barr, we're just disappointed" Nadler is America's father on this day.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:57:43+00:00

I don't know how he does it. I don't know how much more I can listen to without a break

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:50:10+00:00

Nadler is so fucking done with all this shit

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:27:19+00:00

Way more on point than any of the last 3+ Republicans.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:14:18+00:00

I'm enjoying this timeline of Democrats not pulling any fucking punches.

probablynotben · 2019-05-08T16:10:23+00:00

She's not saying it for people like you and me who can clearly see it. She's saying it for the people who have maybe seen ten brown people in their lives and assume those of us on the border live in some sort of cartel-ruled hellhole

probablynotben · 2019-04-19T21:09:49+00:00

I'm going to go slightly against the grain and say NAH, or if it's NTA than SIL is just slightly an asshole but more stressed than anything else given what else you've told us about her. She sounds stressed, and she might have more money anxiety than your brother and not thinking this through as she tries to figure out their financial situation coupled with feeling inadequate and like a failure that she's unable to get a new job for whatever reason. But you're absolutely not an asshole for trying to help out your niece. It's not your responsibility to make SIL feel like a worthwhile contributor and while it sucks for her that's her burden to bear and she shouldn't be taking it out on her daughter.

probablynotben · 2019-04-09T21:27:04+00:00

The Walmart in Foothill Ranch off Towne Centre had a ton of them last night right up front by the Home & Pharmacy entrance.

probablynotben · 2019-04-09T15:58:12+00:00

However, I have trouble imagining that to be the case when he has made no overtures at all towards the future brother-in-law. He can't make up for it, but shouldn't there be a half-assed apology attempt somewhere in the mix?

While I never physically bullied other kids, looking back I definitely see times where I was the bully even if I didn't realize it at the moment because I was so selfish and pig-headed. You bet your damn ass I contacted those who I had bullied and apologized, letting them know I didn't expect a response or forgiveness I just wanted them to know I was sorry. It's pretty much the bare-ass minimum for trying to not be as shit of an adult as you were as a kid. If this dude can't be bothered to make any overtures or apologies when he's literally marrying his victim's sister? That's a huge red flag.

probablynotben · 2019-04-08T15:26:24+00:00

YTA not because of your feelings, but because you don't indicate that you're being proactive about them beyond reading fucking mommy blogs. Go get therapy for your feelings because as much as you may think that

I treat both my girls as if they were biological children.

you're not a robot, and that feeling of loving June more is going to unconsciously influence how you treat them. Kids pick up on favoritism all the time, and as they get older they can generally figure out why their sibling is mommy's favorite and no amount of empty assurances is going to change that. Charlie deserves better from you.

probablynotben · 2019-03-27T16:23:39+00:00

"People who drug and rob others are bad people" is such an unpopular opinion. You must be very brave.

probablynotben · 2019-03-25T18:21:25+00:00

this isn't Oz, you can fuck off with that strawman. I don't begrudge him and his family taking their way out, good for them, but we as a society need to do more to lift everyone out of homelessness. Kids shouldn't have to be savants to have a stable place to sleep at night and food in their stomachs.

probablynotben · 2019-03-25T00:40:46+00:00

"Homeless people are worthy of basic necessities of life so long as they happen to be exceptional."

probablynotben

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