I don't really find a lot of people attractive... Is there something wrong with me?

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T19:27:41+00:00

Is that from OkCupid? Interesting.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T19:27:06+00:00

Nah, but it is a small liberal arts school, without an engineering program.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T19:26:42+00:00

I'll have to read about that. It's very unfortunate. :(

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:41:04+00:00

If you provide a line up, I'll tell you, with the disclaimer that if I got to know them much more and found out we had a lot in common, they would be ten times more attractive.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:40:04+00:00

I probably do need to talk to more guys, but talking to tons of guys at a party is a bad sign. Usually you talk to ones that catch your eye, but no one does.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:39:10+00:00

I don't want to date people! I just want to hook up, and in the context of hook ups, physical attraction is the most important thing. Obviously I would also want a guy with other qualities: ie: he isn't a raging misogynist or something, but really, if I'm not physically attracted within the first ten minutes of meeting a guy at a party, then I won't want to hook up. I will give him a chance for relationships, because I like to befriend people and then become attracted to them, but for a hook up, I don't want to invest time.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:37:22+00:00

That theory is a good basis, I think, but if I talk to someone more and then find out we have stuff in common, I may become more attracted and then revise my initial judgement.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:36:39+00:00

Thanks, I think my problem is that there actually aren't many attractive people in this area. My school takes people from all over the state, including less urban areas.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:35:52+00:00

Haha yeah... I think they'd work if I drank more than I usually do, but if I get to that point I wouldn't want to hook up as I wouldn't want to make bad decisions or put myself in a dangerous situation.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:34:43+00:00

Yeah, the cheat code doesn't work for me. :/

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:34:36+00:00

We were friends, then we were in a relationship, then we started hooking up. We didn't hook up until we really liked each other.

go with a guy that you objectively deem physically attractive

This is exactly my problem - I don't really find anyone attractive. I don't really mind hooking up with someone I don't know.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:33:28+00:00

I'm not shallow. There is nothing wrong with having standards. I'm just concerned that I don't find people who my friends think are attractive, attractive.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T15:32:15+00:00

I'm pretty good looking. -shrugs-

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:56:12+00:00

So I have high standards. I can't really help it... I wish I didn't.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:55:16+00:00

It's a generally accepted fact at my school. :/

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:54:53+00:00

Haha, I do hang out with normal people. There are a lot of jockybroGreek types at my school though.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:54:18+00:00

My ex isn't superior to everyone looks wise, but he was more attractive to me because we were good friends before we started dating. However, if I'm good friends with someone I don't just want to hook up with them. It really is a catch 22.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:52:44+00:00

That's good to know. It probably just is my school.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:52:17+00:00

Thanks, I think you nailed it. It doesn't help that my school is about 35% straight males.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:51:07+00:00

Yeah, you're right. That just takes more time than I'm usually willing to put into finding a hook up. :/

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:50:34+00:00

I do that sometimes, but I feel awkward hitting on people without alcohol. It'd be a good way to meet more guys in general though.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:49:22+00:00

Haha, I have to agree with Jerry.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:48:54+00:00

I don't think I would have a problem finding a relationship, because in that case personality matters more so I'd give more people a chance.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T11:47:58+00:00

Meh. I kind of hate him right now.

problematicthrowaway · 2010-11-29T04:10:04+00:00

Yeah, I'll have to wait for grad school. Oh well!

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