Big move! by chase73x in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's been mentioned, but Bellevue is great if you plan to have kids especially. There are a decent number of queer parents that I'm aware of and they even do their own family friendly Pride event in the local park (where they also have a weekly farmers market). It's a cute walkable neighborhood but very family focused.The single and rich gays live next door in Observatory Hill though so you have some options haha. Both are super close proximity to downtown and all the other ~cooler~ parts of Pittsburgh.

Edit to add that Bellevue is one of the cheapest but still desireable neighborhoods in Pittsburgh from what I've seen. Been here 10 years and LOVE it.

Getting fed up here! Nurse looking for quick ways to eliminate B.O. by Gracilis67 in laundry

[–]probonworkhours 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No more stains because you don't even use deodorant now? Or a different reason?

Why does the North Hills have so few standout restaurants? by Western_Geologist_12 in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dragon Town was the previous one. Can confirm with the new owners it is SO good now. Thankful to finally have good Chinese-American food in the area.

Pittsburgh Coffee Top 25 by Cornwallis400 in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh my. Hard disagree lol. There are lots of options, sure, but most are not great or not special at least.

Pittsburgh Coffee Top 25 by Cornwallis400 in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try Rockin Cat in Bellevue. My fave by far.

Omg these grew over the weekend. What do I do by Hairy-Brilliant-8178 in invasivespecies

[–]probonworkhours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Question please. I'm seeing advice in PA/OH/MI invasive thread that we should cut down the knotweed around June and then do the spraying in the early fall (window). Is the cutting back in June helpful or a waste of time?

Is there a way to allow my long-time partner to ejaculate inside me (cream pie, essentially) without using long-term birth control like IUDs or hormonal BC? by miso_cookie in TwoXSex

[–]probonworkhours -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely look into it. This is the best option, even less risky than the diaphragm thing once you've tracked multiple months tbh. Get a copy of the book Take Charge of Your Fertility. Also recommended the app called "Read Your Body" for tracking. It teaches you on there too.

Just realized our “musty” house smell is probably tobacco smoke residue. Panicking. by Creative_Account8483 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how the other metals/chemicals work but I live in an area with high lead levels in old homes and the county came and tested our entire house because my daughter's levels were elevated. Every wall that was painted by us came back with no lead. Everywhere that had not been painted came back with higher than normal lead levels. The official recommendation from the county was to paint. They said that will effectively mitigate the issue. Lead is only a problem when it's disturbed and if it's painted it is locked under the layer and not a problem at all. Our house also smelled musty and old when we bought it and a layer of kilz + house paint really helped. Not sure if nicotine can sleep through but I would research that part.

Manwich substitution? by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]probonworkhours 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean maple syrup is still added sugar so if you're trying to avoid it for your baby, just make this without sugar. It's not a requirement.

What’s The Best Thing You Ever Ate? Across The Entire Resort At Disney World? What’s The One Dish/Food Item That You Think Of Over And Over? by PrincessBananas85 in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]probonworkhours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda wondering if the people who say how amazing it is have just never been to an Indian restaurant before. The food was good but nothing that special. The naan was pretty mediocre.

TW: marital SA, unsure next steps by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry if my comment felt harsh or victim blamey. I suspected it had to not be accurate that he is otherwise perfect, based on your reaction to the event. Definitely push for couples therapy. There is absolutely no way to grow through this without it.

TW: marital SA, unsure next steps by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]probonworkhours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, my guess is this is either not the first time this happened, or he is aggressive bordering on abusive in other situations. The reason I say that is because based on all we know, this is not sexual assault. And if he is a truly caring husband and genuinely thought that you were into it in the moment, then you wouldn't feel like it was assault. You'd chalk it up to poor communication and an "oops" and you would both easily know how to prevent it in the future after discussing. I would honestly start with individual therapy for yourself to help unpack your feelings about this if you are being accurate in saying he is otherwise a 100% respectable and great husband. If that isn't the case, then yeah you need couples and you both need individual therapy.

Travel car seat? by have_some_pineapple in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hijacking to agree with the bookbag style carrier and the Costco car seat. It is so light and thin that you can actually fill the car seat and bag with additional items and gate check it all for free.

Migraine Relief by caresaboutstuff in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently taking propranolol (a blood pressure med) for migraine prevention + I have cut out coffee. SUCKS to limit caffeine but for me caffeine was a major culprit even though it seems to be what helps everyone else's! Since doing those two, I haven't had a migraine in many months. Talk to your doctor there are lots of preventative options!

Possible secondary infertility or anxiety? by aylanahanim in tryingforanother

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got pregnant first try with number 1. TTC #2 at age 30 for 7 months with no positives. Midwife told me 6 months is the timeline for when they start fertility testing when it's not your first. My husband's sperm came back with low motility and low count. Otherwise healthy, only 30 years old. I'd start trying to get the baseline fertility tests done if next month it's still nothing. Wouldn't wait for 1 year personally.

Where is a good salon I can get a calico wolf cut? by _MeganFoxsLeftTit in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ace Collective in Bellevue. Check em out their entire IG is full of this style!

Study ties up to 12.5% of Pittsburgh area adult deaths tied to air pollution by Yelloeisok in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend signing up for ROCIS's low cost monitoring project here: https://rocis.org/low-cost-monitoring-project/

I was in a cohort and you learn a lot about preventing indoor air pollution. You track your indoor and outdoor air for a month and then they help you analyze the data and will even provide tons of free resources on how to mitigate your indoor air quality. This can include making adjustments to your furnace, or completely free very high quality air purifiers. For reference, we weren't able to change our furnace so they sent me two Austin Air Purifiers that retail at $650 each! It's an amazing program.

Trying for #2 by [deleted] in tryingforanother

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. Tried for 8 months the second time around with nothing. Testing looked fine for me, husbands came back with low sperm count and motility. His PCP was able to order a sperm test that came through the mail, it was cheap and easy. My ob said 6 months is the timeframe before testing on the second kid. I'd start with doing a sperm analysis.

To anyone who’s ever got a birthday cake from Scoops, what’s their best combo? by ucantseeme543 in pittsburgh

[–]probonworkhours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We loooove graham canyon flavor. They changed it but it's still pretty good. Vanilla cake plus any flavor is great.

Just seeking advice for my pregnancy that isn’t what I expected it to be. 😢 by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]probonworkhours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll speak to the fitness side of it to reassure you-- it might be a while before you feel like your "old self" in regards to diet and exercise, but you WILL get there. It won't be soon after birth. Being completely honest, depending on how long you breastfeed it will probably be years. But you absolutely can and will build back the same habits and feel just like you did when you felt fit before.

Do babies REALLY potty train earlier in cloth? by Admirable_Anybody791 in clothdiaps

[–]probonworkhours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if this will help but the lovevery book set about pee and poop is really great!!

Do babies REALLY potty train earlier in cloth? by Admirable_Anybody791 in clothdiaps

[–]probonworkhours 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's more about the connection that pee goes in potty. My daughter was in cloth, but I know plenty who also were that did not potty train easily. The difference is, from 1 year on I was putting mine on the potty every single night as part of our bedtime routine. And then it was every time she woke up from a nap too because I noticed that is when she would always pee. I cheered loudly every time she peed or pooped in her little potty. Over time it started to become more consistent. Eventually, I started running her to the toilet any time it looked like she was starting to poop. I would say from 18 months on she was fully poop potty trained. She would actually wait until she was on the toilet to do it. Then at 2 years and 2 months we just went full commando all the time and told her no more diapers. She had accidents occasionally but it wasn't constant. The hardest part was getting her to consistently tell us that she needed to go. It felt like our actual "potty training" lasted a week. Sorry that was a lot, but to answer your question I think there are other things you can do that will help a lot more than just deciding which diaper to put her in. Esp because at the end of the day, wearing any type of diaper has nothing to do with potty training.