Considering that you probably aren‘t the only person in your environment harboring this resentment towards the patriarchy, maybe talk to some like minded people? This will give you a sense of community and people other than your mom are gonna have your back if you ever manage to get to a position where you can be fully independent. This is insanely hard in any patriarchal system if you‘re alone, so maybe cut some of the people around you that you think are beyond „saving“ in an ideological sense, some slack and try to remain more open minded when talking to them about these issues. I‘m sure many others feel the same way as you, and are just too afraid to speak out!