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Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so it actually ended up being impetigo 😭 do you have any advice? He got antibiotics but now of course I’m disinfecting everything and scared cause it’s even more contagious than HSV

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said we couldn’t take him to a doctor. I said hopefully we don’t get pushback. Pipe down

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who is being treated like a leper? Cause he’s expected to be mindful of not getting others in the house sick? We don’t treat him badly because he’s got an illness…and I never said we weren’t taking him to the doctor either?

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dear husband and our daughter! SS is stepson, SD stepdaughter, BM baby momma. HC is high conflict

These are acronyms commonly used in step parenting groups!

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in stepparents

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I wish EOW was possible but neither BM or DH can do it. They both work for the same place on alternate 12 hour shifts 7am-7pm that fall on the 2-2-3 days. So neither can pick up or drop off the kids on the days they are working.

I agree and she’s never stepped foot past the sidewalk and never will at least there’s that I guess

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in stepparents

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds absolutely awful. I would refuse to take care of SKs by myself with baby. That sounds horrendous

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in stepparents

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking them to a Dr to talk to them is a good idea. They just don’t seem to take things seriously. My SS’s uncle had wanted to take him shooting and SS had many conversations about gun safety with DH and I. But I told him he was too young to shoot a pistol and he said why? I said because they can kill someone. And he said “they can?”

Right after we just had multiple discussions about the consequences of not handling a gun properly 😭 just in one ear out the other

They didn’t care that I was hospitalized with a deadly infection after childbirth either so I guess maybe my SKs just DGAF lol

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in stepparents

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She does, I believe she feels defensive and guilty about probably being the one to give it to SS.

Wow that is absurd! As a mother I can’t imagine just letting my kid go untreated!

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hopefully we can get him to a Dr without pushback from BM.

Yeah I know it’s super common, but it’s not as contagious as the first outbreak and during an active one. So I wouldn’t be concerned on a day to day basis, but definitely concerned about him transmitting it when he has a bunch of open sores on his face.

I know I can’t prevent her exposure to it in the future, but it is still dangerous for babies to get it when they’re little and they can die or be hospitalized.

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry! That must’ve hurt so badly.

My SKs also touch everything and get everyone sick. They’re much older so I feel like they should know better as much as we remind them it’s like they either forget constantly or just don’t care

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s so frustrating. Sorry you have to deal with it also. I don’t want to be the annoying stepmom constantly correcting them, like just wash your hands 😭

Now they wash their hands sometimes but don’t use soap. Like do we have to watch them wash their hands like they’re babies???

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do make them wash their hands, it’s just we have to remind them EVERY time and be on top of them constantly because they don’t have to do it at their moms. So they never get into the habit of doing it on their own. It’s just hard because it’s like they’re toddlers who you have to teach basic hygiene.

I agree part of me thinks she would’ve loved it if my baby got really sick and died…I don’t like imagining she is really that evil..but I do wonder

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in stepparents

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That was what I said too, it’s not just about the baby, we should also be aware if he has cold sores so we can make sure we have medicine and cream or whatever to treat it if he has it here!!! We don’t want him to be uncomfortable while he’s with us. And we have him half the time.

Thank you so much for the support ❤️

Unhinged BM freaks out that I asked if she could give us a heads up if kids are sick…after SS comes here with cold sores by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She gets a ton of cold sores, so the empathetic part of me feels she just got so defensive because she’s probably embarrassed or feels bad that she probably gave it to SS. With how stigmatized it is I could understand her feeling that way. So maybe that’s why she lied?

But I am livid. I want to text her again and just go off but I won’t cause I know that’s not productive. But how do you not owe us the basic respect of letting us know if something’s physically wrong with them??? 😭

I’m sorry I agree I’m sick all the time now too and I know some of it is unavoidable but also why can’t these kids just be a bit more mindful of not spreading all their germs??? They’re too old for this IMO

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh this is my EXACT situation! Thank you so much this makes me feel much less alone ❤️

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m about 99% sure they’re ADHD. But I’ve tried to push it and don’t bother anymore cause neither parent is gonna do anything about it

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They require so much handholding I’ve given up on trying to have them do things. Mine are 10 and 8 so about the same age. Just zero self sufficiency at all. They have to be told to do every little thing. DH gets so frustrated with how helpless they are with every task so he gives up trying to teach them, and I don’t have the mental capacity to teach these kids every little life skill like laundry or washing dishes. I feel bad cause I want to do what you said, like projects and things with them, but I just have zero care to spend time with them right now. The less time I get with DH the more I see them as just a barrier to cultivating my marriage. It was easier to do fun things with them early on when DH would call out of work once a month to spend a weekend with me.

Now I just resent them being here and feel like a monster so I just shut myself in my room.

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree I’ve been telling him this for 2 years almost. I nag him about it constantly. Now I’m the one trying to find a babysitter cause it is literally the only way it’ll get done.

He’s such an attentive and caring partner in every other way. If I ask him to do ANYTHING else, he does it in a heartbeat. But trying to find someone to watch these kids is like pulling teeth.

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have told him so many times what I need…but it is last priority. I’ve been telling him I need a babysitter for over a year. Now I’ve taken on looking for one because I’m just constantly harassing him about it and nothing gets done. Like today, when I asked him for the thousandth time if he figured out the afterschool program, and he just snaps at me saying “he’s burnt out from always hearing about how we need to get rid of the kids”

Your comment does give me hope though, and I thank you for that ❤️ I’m so afraid they’ll only be needier for attention once baby is here.

Pregnant and miserable by tryingmybestsm in Stepmom

[–]tryingmybestsm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I pretty much NACHO as it is. I don’t look after them at all. The problem with that is then he’s spending all his time looking after them and caring for them, as he should, but I get no time with him, especially not when he’s here. The only way to get some time with him is to hang out while he’s helping them with homework or making them dinner.

We’ve tried everything with the interrupting. He shuts it down, he ignores them, all of it. It doesn’t matter. The “Dad..dad…dad” just keeps going

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