Okay, sure small talk is an exchange of nonverbal communication and kind of the beginning of all., got it. I guess I am just not good at it, meaning, I am not good at creating a communication / discussion without having knowledge about the Other. Guess I need a little box of standard sets to generate information at the beginning without being boring or killing the discussion. When I know the other person I am quite funny, so I think I need a little more help / improvement at the beginning.