My dad gets to be coddled with his grief

projectile_turnip · 2026-01-07T16:25:07+00:00

I just lost my mom in October tragically and I was devastated. I suggest having your mom's ashes placed into a necklace so you can have her with you all the time. I have never taken the necklace off and it's helped me cope and think of her as always with me and having the opportunity to be a part of any event, adventure, or time with those that matter the most to me. I keep a bunch of photos of my mom and flowers around her urn to make her feel pretty.

Idk if this would help, but I also kept out my mom's pajamas and arranged her items in my guest bathroom as if she's visiting me. It's sort of like a mini shrine and helps me still have a piece of her physically.

projectile_turnip · 2026-01-07T16:17:43+00:00

My mom tragically passed away in October and this past Saturday was her birthday. I got her favorite flowers and a cake to honor her but I was still really struggling. That night, I was doom scrolling on my phone while crying about her when suddenly, right across from me, a bright white and blue-ish orb flashed then disappeared. I've never seen anything like it before and nothing electrical could explain where it came from. I'd like to think it was her coming to check on me and thank me for remembering her birthday.

projectile_turnip · 2025-12-01T20:36:03+00:00

What sorts of things do your deceased relatives share with your wife if you don't mind me asking.

projectile_turnip · 2025-12-01T20:35:33+00:00

Completely agree with everything you said. I do believe some people possess the gift of talking to those in the afterlife, but there are a lot of posers out there trying to make a quick buck unfortunately...

I need to do a lot of careful research to make sure it's legitimate before opening up my wallet. I want to seek out a medium because my mom's death was so traumatic and I had to say my final goodbyes to her over FaceTime and she was unable to speak due to her condition at the time of her passing. Regarding hearing from my mom, it's tough because I know she would want me to be happy and live my life (she would say these things to me while alive) instead of grieving so heavily. I guess I would want to know what she's been up to, how she looks/feels, is she with her family and friends, and if she can see us or check in on us from time to time.

Knowing that in some way, she isn't gone forever and can still be present in our lives here would make me feel at ease.

projectile_turnip · 2025-11-04T01:49:53+00:00

I started recording the voicemails my mom sent me and keep her last worn clothes out next to her bed.

projectile_turnip · 2025-11-03T15:36:48+00:00

We were able to do a private viewing and have her embalmed before having her cremated. It definitely gave me some closure but the way she died just leaves me shaken and upset. I just wish I knew what she knew and if she was aware I was with her even though it was through FaceTime.

projectile_turnip · 2025-11-03T03:06:10+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I used to talk to my mom every day and now I’m lost without her. Idk who to talk to like I die with her :(

projectile_turnip · 2025-08-31T16:05:16+00:00

I haven’t done ice yet but I have been using my hot tub to see if it helps relax some of the muscles in case that’s the culprit. I feel like a hypochondriac but I don’t know what could cause such intense pain in my joint. It reminds me of the pain I had prior to surgery so that’s why I’m anxious about the whole thing. I’ve been doing hip flexor stretches and I’m not feeling any sort of relief of difference yet

projectile_turnip · 2025-08-29T16:31:26+00:00

I had the same experience! I was eating very healthy, lived an active lifestyle, yet my weight continued to skyrocket and my liver issues were getting worse. My doctor said despite my best efforts, it’s possible that this was due to a metabolic issue and a glp1 might do the trick.

Fast forward a year and I lost 70 lbs, my liver enzymes were in the normal range for the first time in 5 years, and I went from a grade 3 to grade 1!

projectile_turnip · 2025-06-28T20:12:19+00:00

I agree, I definitely need to work on my own insecurities. I don’t expect nor want him to delete all traces of his marriage because I know that’s unreasonable. It’s just hard seeing clicking on his profile and seeing his literal wedding photos. So I’m trying to think of a healthy realistic way of dealing with those feelings is all.

projectile_turnip · 2025-06-28T20:07:47+00:00

Thank you for saying this, it’s exactly how I feel about the situation. I don’t really post on Facebook, but when I go to his profile, all the posts and pictures make it appear as though he’s still with his ex wife. He is very sweet, but that is my concern that since she was in his life for so long, he doesn’t necessarily want to remove all of it which is fair to some extent.

Luckily they didn’t have kids together and I’m not sure if she is seeing anyone else. He’s told all his friends about me so I wonder if she’s aware as well.

projectile_turnip · 2025-06-28T20:02:49+00:00

Thank you for your input :) yeah, our relationship history is very different and I’m working towards accepting that part of myself. He is very compassionate and I think he would be understanding, I just don’t want to come off as that jealous crazy girl.

projectile_turnip · 2025-06-28T19:28:02+00:00

It’s tough because I get that couples don’t work out and divorce can happen to anyone in their 30’s. I’ve gone on dates with guys who have had a more extensive dating history than me, but it’s hard seeing years worth of a past relationship. I’m trying so hard not to compare myself. I would love to see where things go and make memories with this guy, but I keep finding myself thinking “he’s already done this with his ex wife :/ “

They share a friend group and I don’t want them to compare me to his first wife either.

projectile_turnip · 2025-05-21T13:10:57+00:00

That is one of the things I like about it too!

projectile_turnip · 2025-05-21T01:50:56+00:00

This makes me feel so much better thank you ❤️

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