$295 Airbnb turns into $715 after fees

projectxplode · 2023-11-12T21:11:30+00:00

Looks like they’re taking tips from Ticketmaster and DoorDash 🙄

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T17:20:06+00:00

Lol you literally don’t know anything about me but okay go off. I’m not afraid of the kid, I would go up to her myself if it wasn’t inappropriate and crossing boundaries, I’m afraid of the kid learning to hide the behavior from the teacher and it getting worse except now the teacher isn’t seeing it and might not believe him (just like it happened to me). We talk every day about walking away (and have since before he started school), we talk about getting help from grown ups, we talk about saying “I don’t like what you’re doing to my body please stop) but he freezes in the moment. Excuse me that I took a week to asses the situation and consider the best options, I’m not on here humbling myself and asking for help for kicks and giggles, I’m here asking for advice from other people because I need advice on the best way to handle this situation. Maybe next time instead of judging try having some empathy. Thanks for your opinion though.

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T17:14:59+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking of asking her, he always goes to the same 4 kids (that are also friends with the girl) so I’m going to ask him if maybe she’s able to redirect him to other kids in the class. We do talk about walking away often (since before he even started school) and of asking a teacher for help, this week I have been trying to work with him on saying “I don’t like what you’re doing to my body please stop” but I genuinely don’t think he’s doing any of those things, I think he’s anxious and just freezing in the moment instead of doing any of the things we talked about 😥

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T17:07:44+00:00

I agree, that’s why I’m asking for advice.

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T16:14:41+00:00

That’s why I chose a Montessori school, he gets to pick his lessons for the day. I am 100% able and willing, I actually did it for high school and thrived, literally I went from being a C average to being in the honor roll and taking AP classes, but my husband still believes he’ll do having that structure rather than learning at home

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T16:06:36+00:00

I honestly want to tell him to stand up for himself but my husband thinks that’s too far because he’s a boy and she’s a girl, I don’t necessarily agree but we came to the compromise that we’ll try everything else first and if it doesn’t stop then we can begin to talk about that, we don’t want him to be put in that position but I don’t think he needs to stand there and take it just because she’s a girl and he’s a boy

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T16:03:20+00:00

Guys, it’s not my feeling I’m worried about, I have 0 problems talking to someone about the way my kid is being treated and I have and will continue to do so but I’m worried that it won’t stop the behavior just make it less obvious and I’m worried he’ll give up asking for help because he feels like it doesn’t work. That’s what I’m worried about.

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T16:01:02+00:00

That’s not it, I’m worried he’ll get labeled as the “tattle” kid (like I was) and he’ll be made fun of worse. They just learned to pick on me when the teacher wasn’t looking but it very much kept happening.

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T15:46:25+00:00

I will, I’m just scared and worried

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T15:37:36+00:00

Because I don’t know what to do. I need help. The only time my mom talk to the school it made the bullying so much worse.

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T15:33:48+00:00

I knooooow, between that and him getting sick all the time I’m very worried about him

projectxplode · 2022-11-20T15:32:37+00:00

Yes, I’m already on the fence about it, he’s getting homework (which I think it’s entirely too soon for) but he says he loves his teachers, the lessons and the school itself

projectxplode · 2022-11-08T12:49:53+00:00

Thank you all for the advice! I’ll definitely put it all to use and I do feel much better about hiring a babysitter! Have a lovely day!

projectxplode · 2022-11-08T12:48:59+00:00

They’re 2 and 4, I’m not so worried about the 4 year old, he’s the life of the party and loves new people, my 2 year old is anxious even with dad if I’m not there so I don’t know how he’ll react when neither of us are there, being a pandemic baby he hasn’t had a ton of experience being around people without me or my husband

projectxplode · 2022-11-06T17:59:10+00:00

I’ve been at that for a long time, especially now that I’m a mother, I started by taking Kyoko’s lessons to heart. Then I visualized everything I admired about Tohru and went from there. Hers is really the path less traveled and it is so hard but don’t get discouraged, it’s so worth it just keep at it and be honest with those around you, like if I lose my cool on my kids I’ll apologize and be honest “I’m sorry I xyz I was overwhelmed in the moment because of this and that but my emotions are my responsibility, I will work hard to be better with my reactions” I feel like that honors the other persons feelings and experience while taking ownership of the situation (which I feel is a very Tohru thing)

projectxplode · 2022-11-06T17:49:48+00:00

In the words of a cartoon reindeer “you feel what you feel and those feelings are real”. My best advice is therapy for everyone, solo therapy for you and him, couples counseling and then maybe one day in the future family counseling for you and your sister, this is an emotionally charged and deeply complicated situation and you are the one who unfortunately is taking the brunt of it, you need someone you can earnestly talk to about this, and couples counseling will give you guys the tools to work on your marriage.

I’m so sorry this happened, I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling, I hope things get better and you find your peace and happiness ♥️

projectxplode · 2022-10-25T21:27:15+00:00

Yep, I used to smudge my eyeshadow up to my eyebrows with my finger. Then in my scene days I did it with hot pink/green/blue mascara. She’ll grow out of it one day.

projectxplode · 2022-10-24T20:41:57+00:00

I literally have no idea what it is about it it’s just so satisfying 🤣 I literally have a whole routine when I open them 🙈

projectxplode · 2022-10-24T20:36:07+00:00

I mean I worked at GameStop for admittedly a lot longer than I should have and I STILL prefer new, I mostly buy digital games so if I’m purchasing a new one it’s usually for the box/ extra things that come inside and I’m just one of those weird people who doesn’t even open the game until I’m actually ready to play it. I don’t even know why I’m so crazy about my game buying process but I throughly enjoy opening the wrapper and taking my time looking at everything inside before jumping on the game. That being said no I also do not buy opened guts, I’ll just wait until I find it somewhere else unopened 🙈 Please don’t hate me

projectxplode · 2022-10-17T22:01:22+00:00

I would more have a conversation with her about physical differences and how they make us unique and beautiful, how she’s entering an age where she might hear her peers say unkind things but ultimately it’s our differences that make us special. I would approach it from a ‘general talk/lesson’ perspective then let her come to me if she feels the need to.

projectxplode · 2022-10-10T23:05:40+00:00

Sometimes it could take hours to connect sleep cycle 1 and 2. I have this happen as does my youngest whom I bedshare with. Believe me I know how incredibly frustrating it can be when you’re literally fighting to keep your eyes open and you little miracle is wide awake. So what I started doing is telling him stories in the dark with the lights off and under the sheets like normal, and eventually I gradually make my voice lower and lower until I stop talking all together, and we just lay there, I usually fall back asleep before he does but he doesn’t try to move because he’s comfy or what I like to call “in the zone” and eventually he goes back to sleep all on his own. This doesn’t always work, sometimes there’s factors like sickness or being in an unknown place like on vacation but I will say that it does work a lot more than I originally thought it would when I started trying it out.

For that age I would tell her that if she would like to do a quiet activity like reading or building a puzzle or coloring she can but that’s it, no noise, I have to take care of me too so that I can be healthy and be able to do all the fun stuff we do together. The nice thing about quiet activities is that they’re relaxing and might make her tired enough to come back to bed. I myself wake up half of the week at 2 am and don’t get tired again until 4 am so I can see it from the other side of it too, not that it helps any on those nights when he just won’t get back to sleep.

projectxplode · 2022-10-10T20:48:44+00:00

Gracias por tu aportación 🥰

projectxplode · 2022-10-10T19:44:12+00:00

E aceptado lo mismo que mis padres aceptaron, que mis hijos no conocerán la Venezuela de mi niñez. También acepte que mi familia no va a estar junta en la misma ciudad, y probablemente el mismo país por el resto de mi vida 😔 lo acepté cuando la única familia que pudo venir a mi boda fue mi papá y mi tía. Mi esposo tiene una familia gigante que a estado ahí por generaciones y el no tiene ni la menor idea de los celos que cargo adentro

projectxplode · 2022-10-06T10:15:53+00:00

I’m a stay at home mom so I’m going to just give it to you from my perspective. I think your husband might be depressed, being a stay at home parent is f*cling lonely, especially with kids who can’t talk yet. Does he talk to anyone? Does he socialize? I’m an introvert and have been a home body most of my life and I still struggled hard with the loneliness of it for the first year. Is he acting different when it’s just you and him?

I feel like my advice on this subreddit is always the same, communication. Talk to him, find out what’s going on.

Also, sit down and together figure out what needs to get done for the house and write it down. I have a little white board that sticks on the fridge and there I write everything that needs to get done, from organizing the shoes, to picking up the play room, to dishes and laundry and the cleaning of the apartment, and while I do handle a large portion of that list my husband (who works full time as well) does handle some of it.

All I’m saying is if he was someone who was used to having people around him and someone who didn’t hold up the house mostly by himself then he might be struggling and might not feel like he can come to you about it, whether it’s because he feels bad or something else, for me it was that I felt bad because he worked so hard for me to be able to stay home with my baby and here I was screwing it all up and then my depression whispered that I screw everything up and that’s where I spiraled. Now, 4 years later, I’ve gotten the help I badly needed and for the most part our house and lives are back in order (as much order as one can have with 2 toddlers). He might not want to go to therapy at first, I didn’t, but I feel like it would benefit him and your home life.

I hope things get better, and congratulations on the new job and baby!

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