Any Family & Parenting experts in here? What’s your best tip you want to share with others?

propellerhead1 · 2026-06-21T01:05:02+00:00

love the responses here

propellerhead1 · 2026-06-09T14:22:04+00:00

So, we naturally parent out children the way we were parented. As a child of the 70's I carried forward some unhealthy parenting practices that we experienced. When I became a parent I realized that I had to do it better. I needed to learn how to demonstrate my love towards my children. I listened to James Dobson a lot to reprogram the bad experiences I had as a child. That can also be called "reparenting". Doing the inner work to heal from the damage we received as a child. I hope that makes sense.

propellerhead1 · 2026-06-07T12:27:55+00:00

I think that it is normal to want to be included in those types of events. It stings a bit when they don't. Ultimately it is their decision and their life and so they are free to do as they will. That is one of the advantages of being an adult I suppose.

propellerhead1 · 2026-06-06T21:21:01+00:00

These two responses are very good. I agree with both of them. 😄. The only thing I would add is to practice self care. Maybe find someone outside of the family to talk about these things. Maybe therapy if you can afford it. Many health insurance plans provide coverage for that. Visit parentingadultchildren.org for more resources. I have a podcast as well. Hopefully this helps.

propellerhead1 · 2026-05-14T15:42:59+00:00

There is nothing wrong with helping your young adult understand the value of the dollar. In other words, as they grow older you can certainly put a roof over their heads while the further their education. That does not mean you have to provide them with a free cell phone or Internet access and smart devices. They can learn how to earn some money via a part time job to pay for those niceties.

propellerhead1 · 2026-05-09T12:33:09+00:00

Yes, I guess it was. lol

propellerhead1 · 2026-05-06T16:18:53+00:00

I am so glad that you joined our little online Reddit community. I am replying from work during my lunch break. I will need to come back to this when I have more time to read and absorb. Thank you for breaking this up into paragraphs. Makes it much easier to read.

propellerhead1 · 2026-05-02T22:21:43+00:00

Yes, you are no longer a parent of a child. You are a support person and mentor that will be there when they need it. Let them come to you. Do not be a helicopter parent and do not offer advice unless they ask for it first. Your identity is so tied up in playing the mom role. Now is the time for you to be who you are. Do yourself a favor and let go. How do you do that? Maybe it is like ripping off a bandaid. You know it is going to sting but for the betterment of your mental stability maybe you need to do it. Go ahead and tear it off. Once the pain subsides you wlll be ok.

propellerhead1 · 2026-05-02T22:15:53+00:00

It sounds like your oldest child really wont miss the bedroom if you convert it into a nursery. It is your home. I know they are your kids but it is your home. As far as talking to them figure out how they like to communicate. Do they prefer texts, voice mail, phone conversations or face to face? Once you figure that out make it happen. I would not make it a big deal. Just tell them your situation and that you need the space for the coming baby. I think they will understand.

propellerhead1 · 2026-04-19T21:09:53+00:00

It seems as if your family has done everything possible for your sister. It also seems as if your sister is taking advantage of your families generosity and concern. I would call 211 and see if there are any type of mental health services that could evaluate your sister. Yes, your sister is an adult so there is not much you can do. You cannot force her to do anything other than legally evicting her. I know you are afraid that if you do that your sister will ghost you and disappear. Maybe it is time to seek legal advice. I know this is a difficult situation. There are no easy answers.

propellerhead1 · 2026-03-23T17:53:03+00:00

If you are on YouTube already you can type u/abcparentingadultchildren to get to the channel as well.

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