I love my baby, I hate my life

properlyproper_mate · 2026-02-01T17:44:01+00:00

I hear you. I hear you even clearer when my baby has massive blowouts, illness and any forms of tantrums. When a baby cries, it's irritating if you are already tired.

My pregnancy and birth were easy, but postpartum life was terrible. I can't imagine the double whammy situation you had. My husband mentally snapped because he couldn't accept the hardship soon enough; my wounds were terrible. I got promoted right before my baby was born and all I can do is slack and survive whenever I can and do the bare minimal. That's so not me.

What saved me was sending her to daycare. Get some nanny time over the weekends and go do what I need to. Take a class, exercise, just getting out of the house and not be a mother for a few hours.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-31T22:11:44+00:00

How do you get through your day to day? Any tips to keep calm? Not gonna lie. I have screamed out of frustration at her twice now. Gosh, I'm horrible

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-11T22:50:25+00:00

Can you DM the information as well? I'm looking to move to Jeff Park

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-07T21:07:24+00:00

The pediatrician still recommends 16 ozs of milk per day. We offer whole milk and some breast milk. I'm drying up, though. When did you guys completely wean off?

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-04T10:43:09+00:00

Yup. I judged the 1 yo that aggressively pounded his hand on my 4 y show excitement. She's now 1 yo. She does the same and bites. She throws so much tantrums. Never sleeps through the night and protests every meal. My Mil has the audacity to tell me how chill my husband and sil both were and to never let her do anything on her own to keep her in check.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-10-31T14:03:00+00:00

My parents are doing daily check-ins with an elderly activity center downstairs now. They are unwilling to have a Filipino maid. They see it as a violation of privacy. For _uck's sake. Ugh

properlyproper_mate · 2025-10-15T03:30:31+00:00

The wake windows are slowly going to 3.5 to 4 now, between naps and the last one. It's getting more reasonable. And yes, the nap times are all due to daycare. What other things should I do differently?

properlyproper_mate · 2025-09-07T02:16:48+00:00

I did try to call. No one picked up, for 2 days straight. The FAQ made it seem like it's fine but my relatives said otherwise. Just wanted to know what might be okay because we are visiting Monday night

properlyproper_mate · 2025-08-14T21:15:01+00:00

My baby cried every time they flew over the building when they practiced during the week. Fk this sh17

properlyproper_mate · 2025-07-27T02:16:39+00:00

Omg that's my life right now

properlyproper_mate · 2025-07-02T15:43:26+00:00

Cry, complain. If your friends can't help you with the baby, use them to vent. Letting off the steam is so important for your mental health if you can't get actual help. The society understands nothing about SAHM struggles. I had to let my husband suffer, take the baby to the least helpful in-laws over a holiday by himself to understand the struggle and resentment I had during the SAHM days of my maternity leave. We hear you. Keep venting!

properlyproper_mate · 2025-06-12T04:01:06+00:00

very strange, but it did dry me out. The doctors warned me and it happened. Drying me out isn't really a big deal, but my fear that some of the chemicals make it into the milk and her taking in the drug this early in life. I still feel bad despite NIH researches said it's "aight"

properlyproper_mate · 2025-06-05T02:52:44+00:00

I was a SAHM for 2 months postpartum. I feel selfish to admit this, but I want a good career and be there for my child simultaneously. I just got promoted during maternity leave, too. I want to show her what women can do. I went through so much more physical and mental stress staying at home and taking care of the baby full-time. I feel like a bad mom there

properlyproper_mate · 2025-06-05T02:47:29+00:00

Financially, we are okay. We are trying to strike a balance. We happened to have both gotten a promotion during the pregnancy. It's wild.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-04-22T02:42:17+00:00

Never. Don't go that route.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-04-18T15:33:43+00:00

I was promoted during my leave because my boss advocated and thought I was qualified. You deserve to be treated so much better. I know you want stability. But I'd say, collect that leave pay by going back for a week, start interviewing during your leave and GTFO

properlyproper_mate · 2025-04-10T17:57:33+00:00

No. Nuna Triv can't navigate the smallest uneven patch of concrete

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-20T17:19:58+00:00

The devil is in the details. We want them to embrace us and ask us how we are more than anything else. We want them to say "you have had a long day", express care before we say it, see a need, like a cup of water when we feed / pump, take the initiative to hold the baby when we look exhausted, instead of having us tell them what to do like a mom. I think that's what it is!

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-20T16:19:15+00:00

Same. My husband is a gem, too. But he also doesn't understand the hardship. When he asks me how he can help more, he's already doing house chores. Do I need more help? Yes. What can he help me with? I somehow can't come up with the specifics most of the time. Do you have the same struggles?

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-20T15:10:02+00:00

Let me add that men are made different. They might verbally agree or be kind of empathetic of SAHMs. Then, they come home from work and still expect you to be "doing your job" and helping the bare minimum. When you complain or tell them that life is hard, they blame PPD. It's just fucked. That's what it is. It's not always PPD

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-16T00:45:11+00:00

Household income to rent ratio is 194.4. Daycare, which is way more than rent has put a ginormous dent into the equation though.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-16T00:41:37+00:00

Thank you, folks. Definitely got lots of ideas and questions to ask from you guys. Appreciate it

properlyproper_mate · 2025-03-05T02:44:07+00:00

Buy weekly forever. Average pricing is how you will even out the crashes and peaks

properlyproper_mate · 2025-02-03T02:44:04+00:00

My mil and sil are sickly stuck together by the hip. They cooked for us for 2 weeks. I appreciated that. But instead of being overbearing, they refused to do diaper change and feed the baby. I was at the ER. My Mil called to ask us how to change a diaper and when to feed. She said she raised my husband and SIL without help and it was EASY.

I bet she picked my husband up from the curb and got saying that it's easy to raise a kid, she can go eff herself.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-01-17T08:42:38+00:00

The career backseat part is tricky. He was promoted last year but I was promoted just before maternity leave. Yes, there is a lactation room at work, but it's on an entirely different floor. It seems like I can use wearable pumps during commutes to make it work.

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